I didn't know who my child's father was and I had to get a DNA test

Sarah - posted on 04/20/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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hi guys, i was in a situation where i has an abusive x for 4 years, he was verbal and sometimes physical, we were of and on for the last year of our relationship, during that time, i decided to move on find someone else big mistake , i ended up meeting a man who i thought was sweet caring and successful, we slept together once used protection, and after i started seeing the dark side of him (will call him b) , then i ran back to me ex (will call him a) we tried to work things out, everything was good til 3 month later i did blood work and i ended up finding out that i was pregnant, me and a were shocked given my medical history ( since i was 14 i only got my period once a year, i don't ovulate , my eggs are covered with cyst, i saw different docs they told me i couldn't have kids, i did hormone therapy nothing worked), as a result me and him thought it was a sign , so we started making arrangement's for baby, when i was 6 month pregnant i ran into B, he was acting weird, getting mad at me and call me names i didn't quiet understand why, then i found out from my cousin how B was bragging about how he broke the condom and it was his kid, i freaked out called A told him, he was upset, and then called B told him will do DNA, once my baby was born we did DNA , baby ended up being Bs , so since then i told, he seen the baby twice, all he does is make fun of me, call me names, he hasn't done anything for baby, me and A are good friends still, butt what do i do about my baby father, all he does is brag that he has a kid , and talk about how he trapped me all that stuff nothing about her, i am financially secure and i prepared my head for this thought out my pregnancy, but my question is now, how do i communicate with this guy, when everything is games and joke to him, yes i know my situation is not appropriate, but it has happened i cant do anything about it, i just want a better future, what do i do about him

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Shada - posted on 04/20/2013

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I would just communicate via email and not by phone. How old is your child? If she is not old enough to talk via the phone then I would just choose to only communicate via the internet whether it be through facebook or email or whatever your preference is. This help me to curb all the bs that my ex tried to say about me.

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Shada - posted on 04/20/2013

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your welcome and I think that it is probably best that you do it by a form of communication other than face to face because the way it sounds it that he just wants to cause your life to be harder than it needs to be. This should reduce the amount of harmful things that he says to you and also this way you have everything document if he decides to take you to court and say you are making it harder for him to see his daughter...

Sarah - posted on 04/20/2013

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my daughter is only 4 months old, so far, i try to skype him , but it never turns out good, thank you for the reply

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