I don't know how to cope with being a mother

Jessica - posted on 12/02/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




My daughter is 18 months old this December and I cannot seem to figure out how to be her mother. I'm going on 23, a college student and very unstable on quite a few levels.

When I found out I was pregnant I thought very deeply about abortion, but decided against it. I felt like I had to go through with the pregnancy. I even thought about adoption before and after I had her, however when I visit that topic I don't know how I feel about someone else raising my child. Now, more so than before spending these last 18 months with her, it is even harder to think of someone else taking care of her. But I am having issues coping with this life.

There have been very few times in the past year and a half that I have been happy at all. I love my daughter and I want the very best for her.....but I don't know if I want to be a parent. I don't think I can handle being depended on like this.

No matter how many times I push this issue away it just seems to come right back to me. I want to be a good mother, I want my daughter to have a safe and happy, loving life. But there isn't a week that goes by that I don't think about not having to deal with this anymore.

I need help. I need other mothers to talk to....and I don't have anyone around my area that would even be able to empathize with me. So please, circle of moms, speak with me.


Becca - posted on 12/02/2012




i totally understand you im having my third child and im 21, i thought the same way when i had David(my first child) and i didn't know how to handle this but im OK now, because i got a lot of help from my husband, but what you should do is get through college and then just spend a lot of time with your child and try to enjoy. You should definitely stay with your child it's you child and no one else's.

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