I don't know what to do . H E L P !

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I've known my boyfriend for 11 years and we've been together for 5 1/2 months . We live together and have been having unprotected sex since i moved in . For the past 3 months my periods have been all over the place . Last month i started 4 days late and this month i started 7 days late . I took a pregnancy test a day before i started spotting which by then i was 5 days late and it came back negative . Day after i start to spot , but it was only blood there when i wiped . Later through out the day , the bleeding/spotting stopped . The next day i went pee and ass soon as a sat down the " blood" that came out was brown . I wipe , it was pinkish with a hint of red . My boobs have been sore for awhile . And today I am cramping bad like my normal period cramps . What could be wrong?? I'm TERRIFIED to go to a gyno because I've had a bad experience with doctors having to stick things in me . I need advice , GOOD advice . Please!

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Jodi - posted on 03/25/2014

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Actually, I am not ignorant. I am not the one on a public forum freaking out that I have had unprotected sex but don't want to see a doctor. Good luck.

Kennishia - posted on 03/24/2014

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Hi Ariel, I'm no expert but you sound like you may be pregnant. The sore breast were a big sign for me being pregnant. my concern is that you are spotting. I think you should go to the doctor ASAP, they will do a blood test first thing to find out if your pregnant and it's the most accurate instead of spending money on those DIY home test. The pregnancy hormone can be detected in the blood as early as 5-7 days I believe, I always found out right away when I was pregnant ( I have three children 5 & under) and now a days my doctor or OB never did a Pap smear or stuck 'anything' in the vagina when there was a possibility of or if I was pregnant because they did not want to cause any complications. Make sure you have a doctor you feel comfortable with and explain to him or her your fear so they can help you feel comfortable. Hope this helps.

Rebecca - posted on 03/24/2014

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Yes 100% I would but I feel pregnant whilst on the pill so I understand how scary and frightening it is when u don't mean to get pregnant, yes your gonna get pregnant if u use nothing but some people are naive and think it will never happen to them. I'm just very for women and supporting them and no matter what situation a woman is in us women/girls should be here to help them. I don't mean to sound rude if i am but I just don't like when I see someone reaching out for advice and being shot down and yes in all fairness to u being told the truth but there was no support behind it

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Can you read? Did i ever say , " Oh hey everybody , can you tell me if I'm pregnant or not? " No I didn't so stop replying to my post , go do something .

Jodi - posted on 03/27/2014

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I'm still not quite sure why you think a bunch of women on the internet can tell you whether you are pregnant or not......

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I clearly know that , I wasn't born yesterday . My post wasn't about being fearful of being pregnant or any of things you or Jodi had said . So you two pointing out the obvious , something I already know could possibly happen , wasn't needed . I just wanted advice from women who might have experienced what I'm experiencing . That's it . So the same things you have said about your fears of going to the OBGYN every year is the same for me . I never said I've never been to one , I said I have had bad experiences . .

Allie - posted on 03/27/2014

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Unprotected sex could lead to a baby. PERIOD. Jodi has commented on a lot of things and her comments are bluntly honest. The best advice isn't always the nice comments..but the harsh reality of the situation. I am terrified of the OB-GYN checkups every year, because they are invasive and more-so painful for me. But, i go because I would rather know what is going on that to be sitting there driving myself insane terrified of whats happening with my body. It REALLY is in your best interest to go to a doctor...whether you're pregnant or not. and if you ARE pregnant, not going to the doctor could harm your baby. OR you for that matter.

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First and foremost I clearly know what happens when you have unprotected sex you could possibly end up with a kid . But no where in my post did state or even hint to being scared or being nieve to the fact that i COULD be pregnant . So JODI not only was your comment rude , it was not needed . I graduated highschool i know what happens . I know I'm going to have get checked but i don't have to allow someone to check me that I'm not comfortable with . So once again your comments are rude , uncalled for and you're ignorant . I never said i DIDN'T want to have a baby & I never said I did , i just wanted womeb who might have experienced this or ladies with good and encouraging advice to answer . Not a bitter lady . Now , please take your nasty attitude elsewhere . Thanks (:

To the other ladies , thank you for all your nice comments , helpful as well . I appreciate it very much . You all are right , i think my best bet is to go to a doctor . I've been looking for a great doctor i can trust and open about my fears so im hopeful ill find one soon (: Thank you ladies

Jodi - posted on 03/23/2014

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Rebecca, if you'd seen as many posts as I have of people having unprotected sex and then freaking out because they might be pregnant, you'd roll your eyes too.

I'm just blunt and tell it like it is. I'm not going to fluff around and blow smoke up people's arses.

Ingreid Sarahjane - posted on 03/23/2014

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What i would advise you is to see a doctor because everyone's body is not the same.Staying like that increase suspense and stress too,while you stress it will be more complicated so see a doctor dear.

Rebecca - posted on 03/23/2014

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It's really the way u said it. I've seen a few of your posts to people and there not exactly the nicest. This website is about supporting women and u don't seem to be doing that

Michelle - posted on 03/23/2014

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We really don't know what's going on with your body so it's advisable to see your doctor. If you are trying for a baby then you will need to find a doctor you are comfortable with because you will need to have examinations as well as regular pap smears.

Jodi - posted on 03/23/2014

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My advice was actually perfectly fine. I told her to do another test, and pretty much told her that unprotected sex leads to babies, so if you don't want one, don't have unprotected sex.

Rebecca - posted on 03/23/2014

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I think from the comment below it's not very helpful for u. I would wait a few days and take a test and if it comes back negative wait a few days and go to the doctors. If I don't want a baby tho it would be advised you get contraception. All the best xx

Jodi - posted on 03/23/2014

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What on earth are you expecting when you have unprotected sex? A miracle? You are probably pregnant. Do another test. But when you have a baby you ARE going to have to see a doctor and they ARE going to have to examine you. So basically, you're just going to have to get over it.

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