I ended up not having a baby shower because my friend that was going to host it wasn't taking my input seriously and so I decided to tell her I did not want the baby shower (even though I'm very disappointed I didn't have one). So I'm wondering if it is appropriate to have something like a 'meet and greet' for the baby shortly after his arrival...what do you ladies think? Also, I would definitely be hosting this one myself so things go the way I want. Is it tacky to host my own 'meet and greet' for my newborn??

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Stephanie - posted on 10/01/2013

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Iv got 2 children and i never held a baby shower for any of them , once the baby's born evryone will want to come and have a cuddle anyway so save yourself the stress and just let it happen on its own that way u dont feel under presuer that u invited them over lol so just let it fall into place no stress no hassle + i agree with the other girl some visitors want more coffee and forget to leave lol so make the most of quiet time with your bundle of joy things allways fall in to place in the end x

Gena - posted on 10/01/2013

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We didnt have a baby shower because its not popular here.We got beautiful gifts from friends and family when our son was born.I like the idea of a meet n greet. All i can honostly say is that if we ever had a second child i would somehow limit the time of the visitors in hospital and at home.It was abit to much for me having all the people come and hold my son and talking etc and some visitors just stayed for hours and i had to make tea and coffee.Where all i wanted to do was relax abit and enjoy my son alone with my husband. But thats just how i personaly felt.

User - posted on 09/30/2013

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I think it is a great idea to have a meet and greet for your baby and it is not tacky at all! That really stinks that your friend wasn't much of a help when you needed her. I am a single parent so my baby shower was a blessing, if it wasn't for all the generous gifts from my friends and family I don't think I would of been able to get all that stuff on my own. Also while your meet and greet is going on have your child's father invite his guy friends over to your place for a diaper party, that's were they bring some beer and a package of diapers for your bundle of joy. He can always host one before hand if your going to have both women and men at the meet and greet. The idea is though when the party is over he has some of his guy friends to help him load the gifts you get and bring them to the house. I have thrown tons of baby showers and another good idea is when you send out the invites ask people to buy books and sign them instead of cards. Cards just get thrown out and that way you will already have a little library of books to read to the baby. It is also neat when your child gets old enough to ask mommy who is that persons name in my book, you can explain to them that they were their to celebrate your birth and who it's from.

User - posted on 09/30/2013

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I think it is appropriate to have a meet and greet for the baby if it is your first. (Generally people do not have baby showers after their first child unless they are spaced far apart.) People do it all the time do to different circumstances. Some mom's are not able to attend/have their baby shower because they went into labor earlier then anticipated or were put on bed rest, or just not able to throw a shower before the baby came along. I feel as a mom you have the right to experience all the exciting things that come along with pregnancy including a baby shower or meet and greet. If your due date is close then I would do the meet and greet for the baby but if your not due for another month or so then I would throw a small one for close friends and family before your little bundle of joy arrives. I know my baby shower helped me out financially big time! I am a single parent and without all the generous gifts from my friends and family I don't know how I would of been able to get all that stuff on my own. Plus believe it or not your friends and family want to celebrate the arrival of the baby, it doesn't really matter to them if its before or after the baby is born. My personal opinion is a meet and greet would be really exciting because who doesn't love shopping for baby stuff, and you get to see the baby at the same time. Another suggestion I have for you is while you do the meet and greet or baby shower have your child's father throw a diaper party. While all the women are at the baby shower/ meet and greet all the guys get together and bring a six pack of beer and a package of diapers. You can also have him host one before that but the ideal is when the party is done your child's father will have some people to come with him to help load up all the gifts and stuff. I hope this answer helps you some... but you need to do what feels right to you. Again I love baby showers and one of my friends did a meet and greet for her child because she was born two months premature and everyone loved it! Just make sure if you do a party after the baby is born and your plan is to have the baby there your ready for the baby to be held and touched on by a lot of people. I know that made me very uncomfortable when my child was first born.

Michelle - posted on 09/28/2013

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No it's not tacky. I didn't have a baby shower for any of my children. It's not a must do event. You could have organized it yourself as well, it's not like your Hen's party where someone else is supposed to do it.

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