I feel like a terrible mother!!

Bekki - posted on 04/01/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I'm nearly 22 years old, have a 4 and half year old son and am 23 weeks pregnant with our second son... But I HATE being pregnant. Don't get me wrong I'm over the moon that we are having another child but I just can't stand being pregnant and keep fantasising about going into preterm labour just to get it over with. I feel like an awful human being. I fel pregnant with my oldest when I was 16 an pregnancy was a breeze. I hadd next to no symptoms and apart from having a slow labour that lasted around 4 days it was perfect. But with this little man I've had sickness from day one that's still not let up. I hurt everywhere, my back, legs, head and groin are the worst. I feel dizzy a lot and my nose bleeds every morning. I'm constantly tired because I can't get comfortable so I'm moody and grouchy. I've tried to talk to my partner about it but he doesn't have much sympathy. This wee one wasn't planned and because I've not been well enough I had to leave college and my partner thinks I brought it upon myself since I did want to keep him (he is happy we're pregnant he just is worried we will struggle like when our first arrived) my midwife seams to think that it's just Normal pregnancy symptoms and I should try rest. Any other mums felt like me? Or am I just horrible. Of course I don't want my baby to come soon, I want him to keep cooking, I just wish he would do it quietly!!

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Bekki - posted on 04/03/2013

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Thanks ladies! It's nice to know I'm not the only woman to feel this way. I showed my partner this message. He had no idea I was feeling so bad he thought I was just over reacting. Tonight he is giving me a lovely back massage and tomorrow he's cooking tea. The little things help!

Danielle - posted on 04/03/2013

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Oh hun dont feel bad!!...I'm the same way..Pregnancy is hard the second time around...my first was a breeze also and I am in the same position as you. Its okay to feel that way, it takes a huge toll on your body the first time and to do it again is just crazy but just remember that it will all be worth it in the end. NOTHING in life comes easy and you'll have to get through the HARD times in order to the GOOD times. :) Keep your head up and stay strong.

Ashley - posted on 04/03/2013

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I definately did not enjoy pregnancy!!! My first i was sick from begining to finish. I started off puking and it ended with me puking. I didnt sleep at night, every time i brushed my teeth my gums would bleed, my feet and hands were so badly swollen that i could hardly walk and they hurt so bad. Ugh i hated it! Then i got pregnant for my 2nd and thought okay maybe this time it'll be different. It definately was different but he was so big i could hardly move. he was in birthing position at 29 weeks and stayed on my bladder until i had him at 38 weeks. I had to pee every 15mins - 1/2 hr. I would sit on the couch and cry when i had to pee because i was so frustrated! lol I was like you by about 30 weeks i was done. I didnt want to be pregnant anymore. I wasnt sleeping so i was also grouchy and it took me FOREVER to do something because i was so big so that made me grouchy. I had him beg of July so i had to go through 2 months of summer before having him and it was extremely hot that year. Trust me i was more than done and never been happier when my water broke 2 weeks early. Some women enjoy pregnancy (like my sister..she LOVES it!) and others not so much. I dont think you are horrible. You are just having a tough time and the pregnancy hormones dont help it any. Just hang in and keep reminding yourself that you wont be pregnant forever. Just think you are over halfway there! It wont last forever and before you know it you'll be holding your new bundle of joy and it will all be done and over with.

Monnisa - posted on 04/01/2013

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I always try to think .... It could be worse you laid down and made that baby and a stressful pregnancy may come out of that

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