I feel like I lost my husband

Kim - posted on 04/16/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I feel like I'm not even married sometimes because he pays more attention to the game on his phone. He chats with people on there rather then his own wife. We also have a 17 month old. I feel like we aren't a family because he goes to work comes home and right to the game he goes .

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Amber - posted on 04/19/2014

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I defiantly know how you feel. I have gone through a number of problems with my husband and gaming has really been a problem. Im not sure that I have really figured it out but here are my thoughts. He spent a lot of time playing games when he was too stressed to “be here” mentally. We were struggling financially and to avoid the problem he would go play games. This, of course, got me heated. We had quite a few arguments over it but when we talked about it he said, in his own way, that thinking about the problem only made him mad. With time he risked getting let down and tried to change our financial status and vua la, we are doing better. He is still not much of a talker unless there is something to talk about but to get him to be part of our family I am trying a number of different things. One: having a long dinner at the table. This helps keep him somewhat focused and talking as a family. Though it may be talk about his work its still us talking. I try and bring out one thing at time, salad, dinner, side, something sweet. This was dinner lasts longer. Two: playing physical games. We play cards, dominos, we draw, and so on. While my daughter is still too young to really participate, she has fun trying. And even though he doesn't find this as “fun” as the other things he does on his own (like watch tv or play on his phone) it sometimes works to sometimes. I also try and find things for us to do out of the house but it is hard to really keep this family busy and I still have a long way to go.

I hope this helps.

Oh, and another thing. Try not to complain. Be as positive as you can, even if you have to bite your tongue. I have been trying a few different things and amazingly I am getting a lot from it. I try to only speak compliments and let the small things go and just be as fun and happy of a person as I can be. You should try this if you haven't already. I know that has been my problem as well. I was a grump.

Kim - posted on 04/16/2014

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Yeah I just saw now that he is talking to many girls online. And he said how are you my dear. . Then he said I will miss you when you go on your trip. My husband is a flirt to every girl out there. Maybe I shouldn't of married him or have a son with him

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My boyfriend started doing the same thing. He would play World of Warcraft and ignore me for hours. I got very angry at him and luckily he realized and toned it down with the gaming. We both play video games and we have a strict rule that nobody is allowed to interact with anyone of the opposite sex. I don't know if that's a problem for you, but neither of us want any online temptation in our relationship. You should talk to him about it. If you have and he still doesn't get it maybe try and find a hobby to do that takes up your time like that and see if he gets it then.

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