i got pregnant when i was 17 but i got an abortion cos d dad wasnt there and my folks wer havin trouble. now i'm 20 nd m thnkn of gettin pregnant again.m so lonely nd wen i have my baby he/she will love me unconditionally.what do u guys thnk?m in university in nigeria studying law and i have 2 years to go.


Firebird - posted on 02/03/2013




Just because you have a baby does not mean it will love you unconditionally. Having a kid because you're lonely is a really bad idea. Try to find a good relationship first. Make some friends. You're only 20, you've got loads of time. Being a single parent is really hard work, it's not something you should volunteer for just because you're lonely. Children aren't meant to be used as crutches.


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Crystal - posted on 02/04/2013




If you choose to have a baby, make sure it is for the right reasons. It is very hard to go to school and take care of babies, especially if it is just you, (I did it with my first two and it was hard to keep up with studies, and I had my husband to help) You have to be able to support the baby and yourself. It is also very important to not just try to get pregnant with just anyone. It is best if you have a lot of support, especially emotionally. It can be very challenging alone. If you are not in a committed relationship with someone, it is wise to wait until you are finished. While having a baby is the most amazing thing, but you cannot be selfish about it. Having a baby may not cure your loneliness. Remember, the baby will not stay a baby for long. You have to ask yourself if you are ready for the full-time responsibility. If you know anyone with babies or young kids you could ask them if you could babysit or just be around even to get an idea of what it would be like. Take time to really think about it. Think about what it would mean to have a baby, how it would impact your life, school, what it takes to take care of a baby, and child, constantly, what you would do to support yourselves....I hope you make the right choice for you.

Morgan - posted on 02/03/2013




i would only get pregnant again if the father will be there and if you can handle having a newborn with the amount of schooling you are doing... im 20 and im 25 weeks pregnant with a guy i was with for 6 years and granite hes not here now im 100% ready to raise my daughter Jayden on my own with the help of my friends family and her two god fathers and god mother...
Just make sure if thats the choice you want to make that even if the child doesnt love you as you hope for any reason that you wont just abort it like the first one...

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