I had my baby almost 8 weeks ago and still have no interest in sex....any advice?

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Nichole - posted on 08/24/2009

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I had my son 6 months ago and I still don't want sex. Have you been put on any kind of birth control because that's why I don't want it? Some times the hormones in birth control can cause you to not want sex. I would talk to your doctor about these symptoms and if you are birth control try a different one.

Kiandra - posted on 08/24/2009

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my child is 6.5 months and i do not have the drive for sex and have not since having her. i feel bad but he doesnt seem to mind, i have been told it is a normal process for most woman and it does come back. As long as you explain to him why you are feeling the way you do and it hasnt got anything to do with him, its just your hormones and body. good luck with everything :)

Eloise (Elly) - posted on 08/24/2009

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my daugter is 3 and my partner and I still haven't got a sex life back. We have other problems too tho, but I'm told it's pretty normal to not be very interested in it for a long while after birth.

Charity - posted on 08/23/2009

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Things aren't ever going to be the same and we have to learn to accept that. The initial foreplay was over for me after my first and the factor of being comfortable with myself set in. Like Melissa said you sometimes and I say sometimes just have to screw it and meet his needs. There are times when I want to initiate sex but don't have as much of a drive to actually ask for it. When your man asks if you want to and the lasy thing you want to do is have sex try just doing it. In my opinion when it is all said and done you will actually be very proud of yourself for having as good of of time as you did.

Danae - posted on 08/23/2009

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My Dr told me (since I'm not on BC) that until I had any desire I was probably fine and when I finally did watch out. Its perfectly normal your desire should resume when you start to ovulate again. Sorry it could be a while, if your breastfeeding it could be 6 mths

Melissa - posted on 08/23/2009

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don't worry it has only been 8 weeks! My daughter is also 8wks old and I don't have much of a desire either. We have had sex a couple times because it was important to meet my husband needs and it ended up being fun. Take it slow and if you aren't quite ready from sex then there are plenty of other things you can do to foster intimacy with your man. It also depends on how needy he is, if he is cool with waiting then that is awesome. If he is pushing a little more then try with making out and a little touching. Sometimes you gotta start the process to spark your interest, then once you are in that mode you may want to go all the way and have sex. Hormones and exhaustion are not friends of our sex drives :)

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