I have 2 boys one is 4 the other is 2 they don't listen at all..What can I do??

Brooke - posted on 08/11/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Kids not listening to there parents. Say in the store when the run off on you or act completley out of control or when you tell them its time to go to bed and they keep getting up??

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Brooke - posted on 08/12/2009

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thank you for all your help i will take everything in and try it out.. thanks agian!!

Cheree Thomas - posted on 08/12/2009

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Well Brooke, As far as the running off in the store, I always tell my kids before we get in the store, "Dont as for anything, and stay with me, other wise you will end up in the cart!" Most of the time with my youngest (he is 6, and likes to do things his way) he most of the time ends up in the buggy right when we get out of the car! He is also the one that likes to pitch fits if he doesnt get his way, and i dont know why he does it everytime because he knows it doesnt work....I tell him " has that ever worked for you?" and he usually says "no" lol. But any how, If you can get them to listen long enough tell them that if they are good in the store you will get them something special either in the store or make a special snack when you get home...BUT they have to be good!!! Another thing is my 6 year old still takes naps when he is at his worse! seems to be the only thing to chill him out sometimes...is like he woke up on the wrong side of the bed and started over, because most of the time we have a much better little boy after the nap! Ummmm..I do the 1 2 3 also with ALL of my kids, and they are 6y, 9y, and 12y....it even works on my 12y old and so long as you are consistant with your disapline no matter what it is, you will get results...but the key is consistant! If you say one thing you have to follow thru other wise they know when you say "if you dont do _____, you are going in the corner!" if you have said that many times before and not done it.......they know you are not going to do it this time either!

You may have to do it over and over but it will pay off, be patient, persistant, and be the BOSS!!



I hope this helps you! Good luck!!

Natalie - posted on 08/11/2009

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Hia. I have read the posts of others and its all trial and error - i have done the nice person routine - naughty step routine and putting them to there room - try whats best for you - but u need to make them listen now - otherwise - it will be too late - my two girls are 6 and 7 - the eldest is the worst with her attitude but it comes and goes!!! the worst thing u can do is give in to them as u may as well let them rule the house and then where will the kids end up then??????? hope that helps xx

Toni - posted on 08/11/2009

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sorry but i just read your comment brooke where you said that when you shut the door they scream and cry...just let em scream and let em cry. i will go into my sons room and say to him " keep crying, i dont care. you cant act like this and im not going to tolerate it. so keep it up and you'll stay your room" and i leave, i let him scream i let him cry. when he starts to kick or get really wild i will go back in there and firmly tell him he better stop. we do the 1, 2 , 3. if i get to 3 there are bigger consiquences. Not saying you have to spank your kids. for my son if i get to three he does get a spankin but there are always other consiquences. none worked for my kid thou.

Alana - posted on 08/11/2009

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my (now) 6 year old was pretty bad. i simply shut the door and let him scream or cry himself to sleep. putting your foot down and showing your child who is boss is the best advise i could give you. my 6 year old knows when he can be upset and knows when he has to be a big boy.

its odd to know that boys and girls are basically ruling the roost in todays homes. put your foot down and let them know that you are the parent...our parents did it to us right?!

Toni - posted on 08/11/2009

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i have a 4 year old boy and i know with him he is usually a really good listener. He kinda goes threw these stages that i call "testing his boundaries". He will be doing great with listening and then all of a sudden its like doesnt know how to use his ears. When he first started doing it my husband and i were so confused as to why he wasnt behaving like he ususally does till we realized this whole " boundaries " thing. I think kids will always and forever test their boundaries to know where they stand with mom and dad and what they can get away with. So when our son starts disregarding everything we tell him to do we get tough and its so hard. I hate it. my husband is better at it than me, but i found i only have to be mean and tough for about 3 days before our son realizes that he better start listening or hes gunna spend alot of time in his room and alot of time in trouble. i just say dont tolerate it at all and after a few days they will catch on that its moms way or no way. your the boss. not them. :) i dunno if i helped but i know that helps me

Brooke - posted on 08/11/2009

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i have done that shut the door a let them cry... my boys scream and yell its bad..

Lindsey - posted on 08/11/2009

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I have 2 girls one is 4 and the other one is 2. i had that very same problem. when it came to bed i would out them down and shut the door. let them cry for a little it doesn hurt them. the best thing you can do is always keep your cool.

Alyssa - posted on 08/11/2009

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I have that same problem sometimes with my daughter she is 4 and she HATES going to bed and she has a bad attitude! Throws BIG tantrums what can i do as well?

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