I have 2 kids, one aged nearly 3 and a 10 week old baby. How do you cope?

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Allison - posted on 09/18/2009

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Let me know how you're doing it, cause I'm expecting my third in 6 weeks. I have a 9 yr old girl, a 2.5 yr old girl and I know it's going to be tuff, because I'm pretty sure my oldest is going through puberty. And my 2.5 yr old is the busiest kid I know. My husband works all the time and he helps out when he can. But I'm the one who spends the days/nights with them. It's going to be an interesting ride.

Jessi - posted on 09/18/2009

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hey my name is Jess and I am a 22 yr old stay at home mum of a 4 yr old,3 yr old and a 1 yr old.And my husband is currently away until november(left in may this yr)training with the Army so I do it all!!!I can tell you I have hair pulling moments(my own hair not the kids)but to be totally honest,I love it.Yes it can be crazy,and the kids can get on top of each other and that I find is the hardest.Since they are so close in age,they like the same things,but are developing at different rates.So my 3 yr old wants to do things she just cant yet,and it frustrates her,which brings on an entire other spectrum.
But I really have never had any huge dramas.I find having them all so close was a blessing for us,because they do not know life without their siblings,and therefore we have had no jealousy.
I also find structure and routine are the winners!
Right down to the time I put food on the table,to bath and bed.It all makes a huge difference.And I always need to make time for them each individually.Remember that.Mine is to allow my eldest daughter to do what she loves with me-which at the moment is doing the dishes..(i am hugely domestic)so we do that together,and then my 3 yr old is toilet training so thats our time..and my 1 year old gets quiet story and song time with me at night.Its not always easy,and most of the time you feel like your never accomplishing anything..but we all know at least that its worth it.If your children are happy,thats all that matters.I also have a few good girlfriends who are very helpful,right down to dropping off groceries on their way home from work to save me dragging the kids out to the store,to going on a long bus ride so we can try ''something new'' with our kids!

Maggie - posted on 09/15/2009

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OH i understand completely i have a 2.5 almost 3 year old little girl and an 11 month little girl, it gets easier at about 6 months when the baby can play more with his older sibling..its hard but you have to take time to yourself also.

Kylie - posted on 09/15/2009

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Hi desiree, my name is kylie i have a 4 year old boy and a 7 month oldboy and it is hard but it does get easier i found if i had a routine and got most things done when the boys were asleep i could keep up with the housework, bottles etc but there are some days that everything just goes haywire. What i found was my 4 year old gets jeleous so i started involving him in everything i do with bub and he loves helping by getting nappies or wipes for me. Most mothers are sleep deprived and its very hard to cope with very little sleep and hold ur patience cause i no it's hard for me, if everything is done like housework,dinner,bottles etc go to sleep when ur kids are asleep and catch up on all the s;eep u hav missed so u will feel a bit better when u get up. i hope this helps you kylie

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It's so tough having small children. I have 3 under 5, and it aint easy. I think the only way to cope is to trust your instincts and do things the way thats best for you. Forget tradition or what other people think. Also, ask for help from family and friends, or even other mums and dads at school or playgroup. And treat yourself. You've got to find time to do something for yourself. Like reading a book, having a relaxing bath, having a glass of wine, etc. Good luck

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