i have 4 children and would love another but is worried what other people will think ?

Natasha - posted on 10/14/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

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im a mother too 4 beautifull children i have 2 to a previous partner and 2 to my now fiancee.im 24 not married but planning a wedding for 2012 my children are 5,4,2,and 8 months i love being a mum they are all well looked after .im just concern that people will think rudley of me or something im not sure ??????????????

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Letty - posted on 04/22/2013

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Hi I'm 33 years old I have 4 wonderful but crazy kids... The oldest is 14 and the youngest is 7 ... I'm so confused I think I been prego since I was 18 and had little kids pretty much growing up with me.Now that my youngest is 7 and she swears she is 17 I'm starting to feel lonely I miss having a baby around. (They have same daddy) I been a stay at home mom for 5 years until just a month ago I started working. My question is am I being selfish to my kids and husband by wanting another baby ? My husband doesn't want any more but I do before I hit 36. Please help I'm open to any advice ....

Marie - posted on 10/28/2010

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It really don't matter what others think as long as you and your children are happy. As long as you as a mother can handle another, afford another and have the resources available for another then there is nothing wrong with it. So if you choose to have another good for you! It really is a personal choice though.

Jordan - posted on 10/28/2010

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Screw what people think, you and your partner should be the only opinions that count or matter! Don't ever second guess planning a family unless you cannot afford to take care of your children.

Amanda - posted on 10/28/2010

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well, there's your answer. do not do ANYTHING to pleas other people. do it for you. if you want to have another child, then go for it. do not worry about what others think,. that is not the way to live. everyone in this world thinks they are right, and have some sort of opinion on everything even if it doesn't concern them. block everyone out and then rethink. do it because you want to or don't want to and leave it at that.

Sara - posted on 10/28/2010

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Hi Natasha I have 5 children and one on the way in Dec.I had my children young and wondered what ppl thought of me considering I was a child have a child.My oldest is 10 and my youngest is 16 months and like I said one on the way.If you and your partner are happy and serious about eachother I would not car what ppl thought of me.I was 7 months preg with my third child while getting sized for my wedding dress.If the two of you are happy and wish for more children I say more power to you and who cares what other ppl think its your life not theirs.Good luck and congrats on your up comming wedding.

Natasha - posted on 10/28/2010

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i take very good care of my children they are always dressed nice an right for the weather im amazed at how many there are with 4 or more kids i think its wonderfull i love being mum its the best thing ever :)

Christina - posted on 10/27/2010

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Who cares what others think. If y'all are raising them, can afford them, and don't have to rely on others, have a dozen if you'd like :) I have four children, and my husband has one, and our kids are 10, 8, 7, 5, 4. We love it, but it does get hectic at times.
*Note to all, I have no problem with welfare. I just have issues when people keep having children when they can't provide for the ones they have because they know they will get more welfare money to pay for the baby. Anyone should be allowed to have a child whenever they feel like it, but I feel people need to be responsible and do what is fair for their children.*

Aimee - posted on 10/27/2010

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We are the same age :) I too have (almost 4) I have one in my tummy and a 7 month old and then 3 and 4 yr old. My hubby got snipped and it just sunk in that I CANNOT have another one. That thought breaks my heart a little. And we too are not married. I dont believe that people should be judging your parenting on whether or not you have a marriage certificate so dont let that hinder your decision! I absolutely love having a big family (I grew up in a family of 7 kids) and wish I could have another but if I had 5, I would be afraid I would never want to stop lol. Good luck!!

Kelly - posted on 10/27/2010

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If you love your children and are taking care of them then who cares? If having another child will make your family as a whole happy and it doesn't pose any health risks to you or an unborn child then more power to you! My grandmother had six and said if she didn't have health problems with the last one she would of had more! I am 28 and have 3 now (10,5,9 weeks) and want another one. I get a lot of rudeness because they all have different dads. I had my 1st my senior yr in hs and her father and I broke up about a year later. I met someone a few years later, got married and had my 2nd. That marriage didn't work out and we divorced. I am with an amazing man now and we had our son (his 1st child). Who's business is it anyway? I take care of all 3 of my children and love them unconditionally. Is it not okay for me to be in love with someone else and find happiness and want a child with them just because one relationship didn't work out? There will always be rude people who think they should be able to make decisions for you but just brush them off!

Eva - posted on 10/27/2010

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I understand completely. I'm 25, married, and just confirmed this morning that we are expecting baby number 4. We're thrilled, however we're sure to get the comments/questions from our family members. (for some reason, we've been the ones to hear it each time despite the fact that they are all beautiful, as well behaved as a 9, 4, and 2 y/o can be on a regular basis, healthy, and financially supported by us). As others have said, if it makes you happy and the two of you can manage, then go for it. Ideally, it would be best after your wedding, but at the same time, God does/allows things on His time, no one else's. Even though we'd been trying for months, I resolved myself to one simple thought/prayer, if it is in God's will for us to have another child, it will happen and He will work everything out. He will never give you or put you through more than you can handle. So just relax, enjoy your family, and when/if the time is right, it will happen. :o)

Liz - posted on 10/27/2010

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If that is what you and your partner want and both agree upon then go for it. It doesn't matter what other people think. I am 23 years old and I have three children. A set of two year old b/g twins and a three and a half month old son, and am married. But still just because I'm young we always get nasty looks or comments about it all the time. Do what is best for you and your family and don't worry about the criticism of other people. It'll happen regardless with this day in age so as long as everyone is happy then go for it.

Kristen - posted on 10/27/2010

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who cares what people think. i myself want like 5 children. ive always wanted a big family, and i will not let what people think about me stopping me from what i want :)

Sammi - posted on 10/27/2010

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Ur body Ur choice if people don't like it then they no where the door is, it's that simple......and if there looked after wheres the problem u go for it hun xxx

Bonnie - posted on 10/26/2010

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You know what, it is your body, your time, your money, and your patience you are dealing with. The decision is completely up to you and your partner. Don't let anyone tell you differently.

NATALIE - posted on 10/26/2010

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HI, I AM A YOUNG MOM OF 4 & 5TH ON THE WAY ALL BY 1 LOVE. U HAVE TO DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR U BOTH! HONESTLY I THINK YOU SHOULD WAIT UNTIL AFTER THE WEDDING. JUST B/C U NEVER KNOW WHAT 2MORROW BRINGS AT U! I SAY THIS B/C A FRIEND OF MINE WAS JUST LIKE U WANTED ANOTHER BUT, WHEN THE BABY CAME THE WEDDING NEVER HAPPENED. SO MANY PEOPLE FEEL PRESSURED WHEN THEY ARE GETTING MARRIED & SOMETIMES MORE CHILDREN ADD TO THAT. DON'T ASK ME WHY~! I THINK. IF NO ONE ELSE IS HELPING SUPPORT UR CHILDREN & YOU BOTH WANT MORE THAN GO FOR IT! LIKE I SAID I AM YOUNG MOM PEOPLE ALWAYS HAVE COMMENTS BUT, I COME RIGHT BACK AT THEM! U COULD SAY WHAT I SAY OH, YES I KNOW THEY ARE ALL BLESSING FROM ABOVE(GOD) THEN THEY FEEL STUPID WHAT IS THE RESPONSE AFTER THAT lol NO ONE SUPPORTS MY CHILDREN BUT US & ONLY US SO NO ONE COULD REALLY SAY ANYTHING THAT BOTHERS US!! OUR CHILDREN ARE SO WELL BEHAVED & HAVE THE BEST MANNERS CHILDREN COULD EVER HAVE! JUST WAIT TIL AFTER THE WEDDING ^ SEE WHAT HAPPENS A LOT CAN HAPPEN IN 2 YEARS! WHO CARES WHAT PEOPLE THINK! GOOD LUCK! U STILL HAVE 2 OTHER BABIES AT HOME NOW CHERISH THEM BEFORE U HAVE MORE B/C U CAN'T BRING THOSE BABY YEARS BACK & THEY ARE NOT THAT EASY TO SHARE EITHER!

Bethany - posted on 10/26/2010

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the decision whether or not to have more kids is yours and your significant other, not you guys and everyone else.

Danni - posted on 10/15/2010

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who cares what other people think if you look after kids and love them who are they to judge. I myself dont want that many children but your a good mum and love and care for children noone can judge you everyone does the best they can so bugger them you want another baby go for it if thats what make you and your family happy good luck

Heather - posted on 10/15/2010

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As one of six (only four were planned) I can say only two things: 1) I wouldn't give up any of my brothers or sister for all the extra money/clothes/normalcy etc in the world. and 2) who cares what other people think!? Just because most people don't have the guts to take on 5 kids doesn't mean that it's not the perfect thing for some people out there. (Not meaning that as a shot to the people who just plain old don' want 5 kids, that's perfectly fine too!) Most people today are shcked to hear of even four kids, especially from a younger mother, and since it is out of the social "norm" or 2.5 children, they think you are weird for wanting it. I think if that is what you want, you should totally go for it!

Natasha - posted on 10/15/2010

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yeah im always getting coments like o you have your hands full or u have been busy i take them as good comments because my children are so well behaved they have there moments but they are great a couple of elderly people go u have 4 wow thats great good on you ,but then my friends are like no dont have another i think i will though :)

Sarh - posted on 10/15/2010

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If you want another child and can truly handle it mentally and financially then go for it! Who cares what others think!

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you shouldn't worry about what other people think. if its something the you and your fiance want then go for it. you shouldn't let anyone stop you.

Ciara - posted on 10/14/2010

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If you want another baby go for it, who cares what others think. It's a decision made between you and your fiance no one else

Jessica - posted on 10/14/2010

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Well I believe that it is everyone's own choice! If you can love and afford it why not!!! People only talk bad b/c they could never do it themselves or b/c for people like me 4 and 5 children just isn't for us. I don't ever look down on someone just b/c they have 4, 5, or 6 children. I do tho disagree with people who keep having children that they can't afford!! I would just say who cares what ne one else thinks...do what makes you happy and what is good for your family!

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