I have a serious question!! No rude replies please!

Danielle - posted on 09/19/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )




I have a question for all the moms out there that might have dealt with the same senerio. My mother is in hospice as we speak. We don't know how much time she has left. My oldest is 3 1/2 and she loves her grandma. My youngest is 10 months. When the time comes to say our goodbyes, I want to know. Is it appropriate to bring my daughters to the funeral? I know some moms would say why would that even cross my mind but I'm thinking about my oldest. She will be asking me about her grandma and why she can't see her anymore. If any moms have any advice or suggestions, please help me. This woman is one in a million. I can't imagine life without her, she loved her granddaughters more than life itself. Thank you very much in advance.


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Gena - posted on 09/25/2013




I agree with the other ladies,i would take them with. Sorry to hear about their grandmom.Wish you and your family all the best

Diana - posted on 09/21/2013




Yes i think it is absolutely ok when i was little my dad took me to my grandfathers funeral and i put a locket with a picture of me and my dad in it in his pocket and that always made me feel better. cause when i would get sad my dad would remind me we were still close to him

Ebony - posted on 09/20/2013




of course!! its a way for them to say goodbye as well and will help understand. even more so if your children are close with your mum. this is what id do if I was in your situation, in saying that its what you feel is right, your children will not fully understand its not going to traumatise them at all, your children your choice. sorry to hear your bad news :( but I hope I helped in some way.

Michelle - posted on 09/20/2013




My Grandmother passed away Mother's day last year and my Daughter was just over 2 at the time. We brought her to the funeral and she was very good. She does still ask about "Little Mormor" but when I remind her that we said goodbye to her she understands and tells me the Little Mormor was very sick and she's happier now.
I took all of my children but my boys are a lot older. I don't see a problem with taking your daughters along, especially since you are close family. If it was a friend I probably wouldn't.

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