I have no options and need suggestions

Sabrina - posted on 08/16/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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i have amother who is very difficult to deal with, she fights with me for every lil thing and its ussally about stuipd stuff, she acts like a 5 yr old, she already told me that she hope i lose my baby and much worse things. I have no family i can move with and i dotn want to go in a homeless shelter and i deff dont want to giv up my son, i just have no idea what to do. i dont want him to go threw what my bro and i did as we grew up always seein mom and our grnadmother fight and physically sometimes to like trowin drinking glass's at each outher. beuz that can mess you up mentally it did me, and my son doent deserve that, i just dont have the money to get my own place or a job, im trying to get on my disability and if i go job huntin it will mess with my claim. I just really could use some good sugestions. thx

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Joy - posted on 03/04/2014

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After my husband was killed in 1999 my so called family choose to take my babies rather then help. I'm sure the money they received was motivation! They left me without even enough to fight back. Therefore they won. (Money usually does) My baby now 18 in USN & married I'm still unable to get any info as to be able to contact my daughter. Her name is Jennafer Michaella LeJeune. (Cooper) her married name. Any one who can give me even the slightest info would be greatly appreciated. It's time she knows the REAL TRUTH!!! I beg of u for whatever u can do to bring my family back together!! The lies must STOP NOW!! I thank u from the bottom of my long time BROKEN HEART just for listening. I hope none of you ever know this pain.

Sara - posted on 08/16/2010

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go to social services and apply for housing food stamps and temporary cash assistance and if you explain your living situation to your case worker they might help you with a place to live as well because they dont want to see any child in a home environment like that

Nicole - posted on 08/16/2010

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also for got about wic...babies don't qualify on food stamps any pregnant woman can get on WIC if you meet the dietary requirements and they provide you with healthy food and things you need during pregnancy like milk eggs cheese bread cereal peanut butter fruits and vegetables . and once the baby is born they will give you formula or a breast pump if you deiced to breast feed and give you food to help with milk supply. then they provided the jar baby food and cereals as the child grows they can stay on wic till the kid is of 5 years of age.

Nicole - posted on 08/16/2010

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depending on the state you are in there is help and no you do not have to go homeless.
my best friend got pregnant with her second child her mom told her ..i can’t keep you and your first daughter here if you are pregnant again. she was practically kicked out....she had no job full time student and no money. She would have been homeless she found an apartment complex that does what is called private section 8.
this is where the apartment complex itself offers free to cheap living to those who meet the income requirements. and if you qualify you can get checks from them to pay the electric bill and phone bill. .
You need your social security card and birth certificate to sign up at these places that offer private section 8. You will also need these things for your child to keep him living there with you once he is or she is born. The thing with private section 8 is the waiting lists. you have to call around see if they offer the section 8 and then you ask how long their waiting list is. The one my friends and I apped to has a waiting list of 2-4 months i got my notice for final processing and apartment in 3 months. She got hers in 2.
you do have to play a bit of a waiting game ...some places having waiting list from 6 months to a year or longer ! So if i were you i would get the ball rolling now so you can be out of there as soon as you could.
LMHA Lorain metro housing association this is true section 8 for Lorain county in Ohio. in Cleveland it’s called Cleveland metro housing association. you need to answer 6 questions and as long as you can answer yes to three of them you qualify...like are you employed ? Do you have income? Do to that kind of thing you need an income whether it be social security disability checks hell even child support will qualify you. The office for public housing is what is known as public section 8. They have stricter rules and you NEED some sort of income cause they do not do utility checks. And most of the time is income based but that you have to pay something for your housing. The fact you are pregnant means you will get through the system faster than a non-pregnant person. Even with private section 8 mention your about to be homeless and are pregnant you will be bumped up closer to the top of the lists.
so i suggest get your disability in swing if you are over the age of 18 you can apply yourself to get food stamps through the welfare office. And you get state medical so everything with the baby and giving birth is no cost to you. Here in Ohio they offer that to all women who meet the requirements. Now the thing with both is you have to be 18 and older. They won’t give an apartment to a minor. Nor will the office issue food stamps. But you can get the medical no matter the age .
I went through the system and so have a few of my best friends. We had to do what we had to . to get by. No one is proud living off the government but we are not like the majority that are the deadbeats that like to live off that shiz for the rest of your life. But it’s there use it as your crutch. My friend will probably soon be getting off her assistance once she finishes college. And starts her career. Which she also got through fafsa and grants just for being a pregnant single mom! 4 years criminal just and she will be graduating in one or two more semesters=) when I can get vouchers to put my daughter in daycare I will also be going to school and signing up for the grant money 5,500 for one semester till you graduate. The US government is there for single moms and the pregnant use it. My cousin even did it.
My cousin was a single mom from the age of 18 her bf at the time was a dead beat and she kicked him out got on gov’t benefits went to college became a medical coder and is now making good money has her own home has her own car and can get the things she wants to for her daughter. Sure they had rough times but its better now and she just got married not long ago either. It will not be easy but it can be done. You get on them to turn your life around. Life is like poker…you NEVER have to stay with the cards you were dealt at the beginning.

Destiny - posted on 08/16/2010

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alot of states have programs that work with single mother to get housing and anything needed for you to take care of your children. and most of them are called subsidized housing and things like jump start.. they are nation wide.. just look in to those they will help with getting your disability in order and what ever else you need...

Jenna - posted on 08/16/2010

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You can always check with your local welfare office or even the YWCA for some options.



I'm not sure how old you are, but if you are under 18, you may need to become emancipated.



Good luck to you.

Chris - posted on 08/16/2010

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Don't give up your son unless you believe you can't take care of him. Just out of curiosity, wouldn't it be easier to get a job than disability? You can get state assistance to help with housing and meals and such,but I wouldn't recommend it without some sort of effort to get a job... if you want to go it alone, you need to make sacrifices... for the benefit of your son

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