i have to lay with my 3year old to get her to bed

Lindsay - posted on 04/15/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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MY DAUGHTER JUST TURNED 3 AND I STILL HAVE TO LAY WITH HER FOR HER TO GO TO BED.

IVE BEEN LAYING WITH HER SINCE SHE WAS 1 TO GET HER TO GO TO SLEEP IVE TIRED JUST

LETTING HER CRY A FEW TIME AND EVERY SHE JUST THROWS UP (EVERY TIME ) SO I WAS JUST WONDERING

IF ANYONE HAD ANY OTHER IDEAS . THANK YOU

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Megan - posted on 04/15/2009

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A reward is always nice for them but not that you have to go buy one. I had a little bit of the same problem with my son when he was younger. I would play music in his room and when he would get out of bed I would just put him back to bet and don't say anything to them. If you say anything to her then its like a game and she is almost winning cause she  gets the reward of you talking to her. It can get frustrating  but it worked and you have to stick to it or they win.  It took a bit but now he understands that when its bedtime its bedtime and i don't have to fight with him to go to bed anymore unless he is really tired.

Marissa - posted on 04/15/2009

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My daughter was the same. I had her in my bed because she used to wake up in the middle of the night and I would have to do the same thing all night so I gave up and just put her into bed with me. I too tried everything. I decided enough was enough about 6 weeks before her 3rd birthday. I bought her a Dora the Explorer bed sheet set and told her she was now a big girl and she had to sleep in her big girl bed. I also made up a star chart (really thinking she would not care) and she would get a star if she slept in her bed all night by herself and went to sleep by herself. To my amazement it slowly started to work. She loved putting the stars on her chart when she woke up in the morning. I think together with my new 'no nonsense attitude, the new sheets, and the star chart, it worked really well. Sometimes I also cut out her midday sleep, and by the time it was bed time she was so tired, she fell straight asleep. You need to talk it up and tell how big she is now and how 'Super Duper Happy' you will be in the morning. Also my daughter was falling asleep on her own at kindy during the day, but not at home. She know's that you will eventually give in to her. This is what made me realize she could do it.....

Alisa - posted on 04/15/2009

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Try leaving the TV on in her room ( if she has one) or the CD player with lullibies with a night light on. I'm sure that she just has a fear of being alone. It can be frightening for kids to be alone in the dark. We always talk about my daughter being a big girl and having a big girl bed and if that doesn't help sometimes bribes do :)

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Lindsay - posted on 04/16/2009

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thank you for the help every one im going to try some of them to night. let s hope they work lol i know its not going to happen over night though lol

Lindsay - posted on 04/16/2009

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Quoting Marissa:

My daughter was the same. I had her in my bed because she used to wake up in the middle of the night and I would have to do the same thing all night so I gave up and just put her into bed with me. I too tried everything. I decided enough was enough about 6 weeks before her 3rd birthday. I bought her a Dora the Explorer bed sheet set and told her she was now a big girl and she had to sleep in her big girl bed. I also made up a star chart (really thinking she would not care) and she would get a star if she slept in her bed all night by herself and went to sleep by herself. To my amazement it slowly started to work. She loved putting the stars on her chart when she woke up in the morning. I think together with my new 'no nonsense attitude, the new sheets, and the star chart, it worked really well. Sometimes I also cut out her midday sleep, and by the time it was bed time she was so tired, she fell straight asleep. You need to talk it up and tell how big she is now and how 'Super Duper Happy' you will be in the morning. Also my daughter was falling asleep on her own at kindy during the day, but not at home. She know's that you will eventually give in to her. This is what made me realize she could do it.....



thanks everyone had great ideas but i really think my daughter will like the sticker thing thanks agian

Renee - posted on 04/15/2009

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Quoting Erin:



Hi! I have a 10 yr old daughter. I lay with her and talk to her everynight when she goes to bed. Any night I haven't she stays up later than normal. The way I see it is it's your time to relax. It's hard but its easier than getting stressed and listening to the crying. Instead you hear her happy going to sleep. Its hard but it just lets her know your there.



 



 





You also have to look at it from this point...by doing that night after night, you are only giving in to their every desire!  Teaching them that you will give in if they cry.  Keep in mind the longer you do it, the longer you will be tied down to personally putting your child to bed.



Try some soothing music, pray with her before bed time, have a night light on (if you think she's afraid) and explain to her that she is a big girl!  I like the sticker chart idea...she's def. old enough for that!  





Erin - posted on 04/15/2009

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Hi! I have a 10 yr old daughter. I lay with her and talk to her everynight when she goes to bed. Any night I haven't she stays up later than normal. The way I see it is it's your time to relax. It's hard but its easier than getting stressed and listening to the crying. Instead you hear her happy going to sleep. Its hard but it just lets her know your there.

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