I just found out im pregnant with my third I just had my som three months ago... needing some emotional support

Melody - posted on 12/18/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am 21 I have a beautiful 4 year old daughter and a amazing miracle baby boy who is 3 months old. I have extremely high risk pregnancies with bleeding, bed rest, preterm labor, and high blood pressure... with my son the high blood pressure caused me 2 strokes and seizures and him to be in the nicu for 3 weeks... needless to say I am terrified on several levels and I am trying to get my husband to stop being so scared for me so he can be happy any advice or ideas?

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LalaBoom - posted on 12/20/2013

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Expecting your husband to be "happy" for a pregnancy that could literally kill you, leave your other children motherless, and your husband spouseless is asking for a bit much.

Beside the health ramifications that this pregnancy will present, it doesn't seem you are very concerned about anyone other than yourself. To be happy about the collateral effects the difficult pregnancy, and subsequent baby (assuming you make it through a third when your body has barely gotten over the recent one), will have on your husband and your other children is also asking too much of THEM.

I suggest you think very carefully about your decision. I'm not a proponent of abortions, but I am a proponent of life: mother's life, children's lives, and your husband's life. Ask yourself, is a third child worth the risk? Or is it in the best interest of your entire family that you indulge in babyfever during a more appropriate time?

Good luck to you!

Sierra - posted on 12/18/2013

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Talk to ur neurologist about ways to reduce the seizures to comfort you and ur husband. Also jus remember everything has its purpose and u won't have more than u can bear....Jus take it one hour at a time and try to enjoy the ride. Hugs

Arianabrq - posted on 12/18/2013

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I had seizures and high blood pressure too but I sticked to my pregnancy but being as though you have 2 little ones that need you . You need to decide yourself if you're willing to risk your life again or do an early abortion .. Nobody can make the decision for you

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