i just had my son 8 weeks ago.well i was stiteted down there now my hubby thinks that now am ready bt i dnt feel ready at all is it ok or ????

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Denikka - posted on 12/09/2012

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I'm guessing you mean ready for sex.

Number one...get the ok from your doctor. Some women are good to go within days, others take longer to heal, especially if there was trauma and stitches.



Second...if you don`t feel ready...you`re not. Never let anyone, husband or not, force you into having sex if you don`t want it. You are the master of your own body, you decide when you`re ready.

Michelle - posted on 12/09/2012

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You are the only one that can decide if you're ready, not your husband. With my first I had 37 stitches and tore all the way around and it took me a long time before I was willing to let my husband near me!!!! He also was well endowed so I knew it would hurt.



With my 3rd (2nd husband) I only had 5 stitches but still took a while before I was willing to go there.



The main bit of advice I will give is that when you are ready, make sure you use a good lube.

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Cass - posted on 12/09/2012

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its your body & your decision when youre ready. your husband wasn't the one who had his vagina split open and stitched back up, you were, and he's just going to have to wait until you feel ready.

User - posted on 12/09/2012

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I ddnt try for while because i didnt feel ready,I had an episiotomy and it took me9 to 10 weeks to heal. When we finally did we kinda had to take it slow because I was still sore. I agree wiht the others it did feel like the first time again.

I say just wait until you are ready, the time will come and you will know when you are comfortable to do it.

Shawnteria - posted on 12/09/2012

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I completely agree with sarah. I had sex 5 weeks after childbirth and also had an episiotomy but only because i felt my body was ready and although it felt like the first time all over again i was ready. its normal to be scared but i would wait til i was ready if i were you, you dont want to start something because you feel pressured and not go through with it because your scared because you will feel discomfort which may scare you and cause you to stop.

Sarah - posted on 12/09/2012

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If you are not feeling ready to have sex then don't. You may resent him for making you have sex before you feel up to it. My hubby and I couldn't wait at all. We had sex at 5 weeks and 6 weeks after I gave birth to my kids. If you are willing to compromise with your hubby then try that. Maybe no intercourse, but all the foreplay. When you are ready, my advise would be to take it really slow. I found that stitches healed me in a way that was slightly different from what I was before childbirth. This made sex a little uncomfortable, like it was my first time again. We took it slow and I was able to get used to him again. Good luck.

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