I lost my daughter june 4th ?

Anita - posted on 06/15/2013 ( 14 moms have responded )

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I have had a lot of depression sense I had my daughter March 24th. She was born too early and so when I had her I was in total shock they had to cut me a little to get her out when she was not crying i freaked out. However, that night I got to see her and I was so happy but then when I got home I have been nothing but depressed like hell when she passed things got worse. I do not know what to do can anyone help me out.

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Anita - posted on 06/17/2013

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Alisha, Thank you so much for those wonderful words. Its makes me feel a little better.
Stacie you are one amazing kind hearted person thank you for the wonderful words I know that I have you all on here as my support team.

Stacie - posted on 06/17/2013

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You have my sympathy at this time in your life. One thing I know for sure is we are not to judge..so I will say a prayer for you that you gain the strength to go through this w/o people depressing you further. Find some compassionate people that will support you.

Alisha - posted on 06/16/2013

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I have plenty of gay,lesbian and bi friends so no judging here promise. I can't speak for others sadly thou. :( I think judging something like that is really stupid and petty. I am sorry the relationship was a rather toxic one I guess everybody has a least one of those in their lives. Sometimes all a person needs is someone to listen to them. Well she shouldn't blame you at all it is after all her fault not yours so just remember I know it is hard but it is not. What helped me was posting sticky notes next to my bed saying it is not your fault and take one day a step at a time also just crying helps just let it all out cry for as long as you need.good crying section always helps. You are stronger then you know. I can give my email if you need it.

Anita - posted on 06/16/2013

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I have my friend Amber but she does not really understand but I am trying to talk to her more often. I was beat up by my ex girlfriend and that caused me to go into labor and I thought it would be okay but it was not okay at all. Brittany is blame me she is an ex who I was going to get married too but that did not happen Yes I am lesbian and I do not need to be judged so please please please do not judge I do not need that right now

Alisha - posted on 06/16/2013

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There has to be someone..Do you have a lose support group there in your area? but still look for a therapist he/she could help point you in the right direction. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. Lose happens and it can't be explained, unless of course you were on illegal drugs then it is a possibility, but I don't think of you as a drug addict. May I ask who is blaming you for this lose?

Anita - posted on 06/16/2013

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I do not have family I do not really have friends either so therefore I got no one. I know its not my fault but its not easy to believe sometimes when someone is sitting there telling me it is my fault

Alisha - posted on 06/16/2013

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Find a good therapist that is the most important thing to do. You need to take care of you now. Do you have any friends or family to help you? I am sorry for you loss when I was 17 I had a miscarriage and it racked me full of guilt even though I was told it wasn't my fault for years I felt it was and over time I over came the loss and I hope in time you will as well.

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