i lost my little girl last year as some of you know

Samantha - posted on 08/28/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




i lost my little girl last year as some of you ladys will know and since the day she died in january my husband has drunk alcohol none stop . Now i am pregnant with my son and he is kind of making an effort but its not good enough to stop and i am worried by the time our son arrives he is going to be drunk around him and hurt him not purposley but matbe fall on him or something he also smokes which i am extremely worried about cot death and dont want smoke in the house he smokes at the back door but it still drifts in. Not only that but he has caused hiself liver damage and i have threatened to leave and everything nothing seems to work been to councellors the lot

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Samantha - posted on 08/31/2009




Quoting deon marie young:

hi my name is deon i lost my 1 year old son from numoccol desies his name is jake ill never b the same but i got another boy so i gotta b strong for him

its not the fact of losing my aughter i needed help with its my husband has a drink prob

Alice - posted on 08/28/2009




I would go to a christian counselor, if you and him are christians. I would encourage him to attend AA meetings and find an accountability partner. If he really wants to quit drinking he has to do it on his own with your support. This is a decision he will have to make. I hope and pray that he will turn around and deal with his addiction and feelings from loosing a child. Blessings and prayers to you and your family.

Nicole - posted on 08/28/2009




I'm so sorry about the loss of the your little one. My husband also had a drinking problem. We would fight when he came home drunk, and it would be rough for 2 days until I didn't want to fight anymore. One day he was so bad, after 7 yrs, i finally said enough, and I called the cops. They didn't arrest him, but made him leave the house, and wouldn't let him drive, so he was on his own without a car. I worried all nite long that my daughter would wake up and see what was going on, but luckily she didn't. He hasn't drank since that day. I didn't want to do it, but it made him open his eyes. I can't tell you what to do, but if it's really as bad as you say it is, ultimatums won't work, so maybe it can't hurt to do this. Be well.

Audrey - posted on 08/28/2009




I'm so sorry for the loss of your little girl, I can't even imagine. The birth of your baby boy will be a blessing to you and your husband. Lay it all in God's hands, he will take care of you and your new baby.

Tarry - posted on 08/28/2009




I'm so sorry to hear about your loss... I had a hard time trying to tell my husband how his drinking was effecting our children and our personal life, until one day he returned home so drunk that all he could do was blame me and neglect his children. I was so upset that I didn’t know what to do. so I decided to write him a letter explaining how his drinking was making me feel and how his children were afraid to be around him in that condition. I posted it on our bedroom door and when he woke up the next morning he found it, I don’t know if it'll help or not. but maybe if when you try telling him he always ends up yelling and blaming it on you, maybe it'll be best to write it out and let him read it, that way he cant interrupt you and you'll finally be able to tell him how you feel... I know that it has help my husband a lot and he hasn’t done it again since I wrote him the letter..( he keeps it in his walet as a reminder of what he can loose if it happens again) hope this helps

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