I'm 13, and pregnant. Tested 4 pregnancy test already. How will I break the news to my parents and my boyfriend??? Please help :'((((

Xin Carla - posted on 03/27/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )




My mom disagree on having a boyfriend, my dad is hotheaded. My 3 years boyfriend is loyal, respectful, caring, smart and almost perfect, and yes we do have sex almost everyday. How will I tell them? Or I should abort it? But no! I wanna keep my baby! I just don't know on how to tell them! On what to do :'((((


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User - posted on 04/01/2013




Seems like you agree, but you should keep your baby. I dont want to sound mean or anything but Im going to be blunt. You became pregnant, yes at a young age, but this happened for a reason, and now you need to follow through. The main thing you need to do is to find a obstetrician. Your baby needs care and you need to be taking prenatal vitamins, the doctor will prescibe them to you and they can even give you samples to start you as soon as you leave the office.

I know that it is going to be really frightening to approach your parents on this, but you have got to do it as soon as possible. I think you should go ahead and tell your boyfriend. He will be there with you and will be there for support when you tell your parents, expecially if they take the news hard. But right after telling him, you should gather not only your parents, but also his parents together to announce this. It will make it easier in the long run, and eveyrone will have a chance to discuss your plan together and figure out what steps to take next.

Having a bay is a huge responsibility and at 13 you are in school and do not have a job, nor are you at the age to work. SO you really need the support from your parents, I do hope that both your parents and his are supportive in helping taking care of you and the baby. You will probably have people around giving you negative attention, and you do not need that. You need to stay positive and keep only positive people around you. You might not know now but this did happen for a reason and having a baby really is a blessing. Just keep your head up and do what you have to do to take the best care you can give to that baby. Stay in school, it will probably be hard, but in the long run you will be sooo glad you stuck with it. When you become of age to start working, find a job, thats goes for you and your boyfriend. Start a savings account to have money put back for the baby when you need it. Just dont give up, and remember your parents will probably go through phases of acceptance that your pregnant. Anger, sad, happy, etc Just dont let the neg. feelings affect you, its norml for them to have these feelings and know eventually sooner or later they will accept this and embrance it.

Wish the best to you!

Sarah - posted on 03/31/2013




tell your parents as soon as possible your parents will be mad upset scared all of them emotions because your there little girl you are to young to go though this alone or go making serious life changing decisions like this alone you need the love care and guidance your parents will offer because they love you please go and tell them

Sena - posted on 03/30/2013




Well kiddo, u should start with dr app to confirm your pregnancy. 4 over the counter tests are probably accurate, but u still need a definitive answer. U should also tell everyone sooner than later. The hurt and anger will subside by the time it's important rather than waiting to tell everyone. I personally would start with the boyfriend and have him by your side when u tell family. Now for me being a parent of a 13 yr old girl, I would flip my lid if she came home telling me she was pregnant. Then I'd be angry cuz she was having sex at such a young age. This isn't Romeo and Juliet times where girls get married off at 14. But then i would appreciate such a mature and grown up attitude of coming to me for help rather than trying to hide it or have an abortion against personal feelings and beliefs. Girls now days have so many choices and options to be successful. You shouldnt let boyfriends and sex change your course if direction. But, what's done is done, and now is time to deal with it. Be strong and stand up for what you believe in. Someone will have your back after the initial shock. Embrace this life lesson and good luck to you!!!!

Gena - posted on 03/30/2013




If you didnt want to get pregnant then it isnt smart to have sex with out protection. You should tell your boyfriend and parents soon,and if your boyfriend is so smart,caring etc he will help you tell your parents. Good luck

Eileen - posted on 03/27/2013




No matter how hotheaded your dad is & no matter how much your mom can keep disagreeing of u having a boyfriend, they are still your parents. They brought you into this world & they love you. So, you just have to gather up your guts & speak to them. So does you boyfriend. He has to do it with his family.. & then, both families, meet up & discuss on what is the next rightfully step to take. What is the most that could happen to you? Your parents scolding you & screaming at you for not listening to them? Whatever it is, they are & will always be your parents & they love you. Just remember that. Act on this fast, so that you can go for regular check-up's and eat proper food & be loved by all around you.

S - posted on 03/27/2013




Tell them sooner rather then later...they will help guide you and hopefully support you in whatever decision you make about your child.

Scarlett - posted on 03/27/2013




you simply tell them you are pregnant. you are some ones mother now so you have to act, think and be an adult, and make adult decisions, you made one before and you can make one again.

Good luck!!

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