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Kimberly - posted on 10/12/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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15 weeks and 7 days pregnant. me and my boyfriend are going through rough time right now. we had an argument lastweek and i mention abortion again which made him so mad. i understand i admitted to it but now its's been a week and he doesnt even talk to me, all he wants is for me to ignore him or leave him alone and the only time we talk if its about money. im so depressed because i'm the type of person that wanna works things out but he dont.. what makes it even more depressing is im still in school although i have a job its not a high paying job.. i use to work in a great bridal place but when they found out i was pregnant they never called me for work again which made me even depressed more cause im depending on him with all the expenses and he dont even understand what i'm going through. now im scared that he will just leave me and the baby. ive been fighting so hard to have a family. but sometimes i can't help but think maybe its time to give up..

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Jayna - posted on 10/13/2013

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I have been through that when I was preo but an if he doesn't wanna give you the attention you need there are lots of men that want a family that's already been started don't give up on life

Sarah - posted on 10/12/2013

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If you are fighting so hard to have a family then you have to look at the words you are saying. You state that you had an argument and mentioned abortion AGAIN...so you have threatened abortion before. Imagine how he feels when you say that. I know you are arguing and it might be something that is said in the heat of the argument, but you said it. You have just told him "I don't care about this baby and I wish this baby was dead.".....even though you may not mean that you have said that more then once. Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot and he was saying that to you and you had no control over if he did actually have the abortion or not. That would be pretty hurtful. If that is something you heard multiple times my guess is that you would feel like giving up just as he is feeling like right now. Words have consequences and this is the consequence of multiple threats of abortion. In some ways putting that threat out there he losses trust in you because he does not know if you will follow through with that threat or not. You have to show him by your WORDS AND ACTIONS that he can trust you. You need to stop making the threat and start dealing with what is. It might also help to talk to a crisis pregnancy counselor at a crisis pregnancy center. They can help you figure things out and can also help get you connected with different resources that might be of help to you.

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