i'm annoyed by an overly involved grandparent

Kristan - posted on 06/05/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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my mom thinks as soon as my daughter gets a cold, a little runny nose and a fever, that she needs to see the doctor. if i don't carry her to the doctor she thinks i don't care enough about her. its not like she offers to pay or anything- not that the money is the issue. she just gets worried over nothing.

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Teresa - posted on 06/07/2009

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My sister is like this. My parents know I will not run my children to the Dr. for every little sniffle. My daughter coughed and because my sister is an EMT she told me my daughter had croup and I needed to take her to the hospital. If her daughter gets a hangnail they are running to the Dr. It is annoying but I know it is meant with love and affection. I just tell her that we don't all find in necessary to run our kids in over every little thing.

Lisa - posted on 06/06/2009

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I'm having that problem, but I'm just going to ignore it and pray that I can move far,far,far away from them so they will leave me alone..

Let your mom say what she thinks needs to be send and then its your turn...you need to tell her that it is your daughter and your decision and for her to back off.

Alaw - posted on 06/05/2009

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My side of the family are the same. They seem to think that only they know whats best for my child, and I often find them looking at me with a "she doesn't know what she's doing" look on their faces!! What gets on my nerves most is when he is desporate for a nap and they're determined to keep him awake saying he sleeps too much!! My son is 12 months old, going through a clingy stage and needs lots of entertainment to keep him happy. I love spending time with him, but Im also 32 weeks pregnant and get tired easily so the house work has taken the back seat! Not once have they offered to wash the dishes or hoover so that I can have some extra time with my son!! It really pisses me off. They only want the baby!lol. Ive learned to ignore their looks and comments and continue to do it my own way, as mother knows best in my opinion!!

My partner's side of the family are totally different though!!! We never see them, and they only live 10 minutes from us! I wish they would take more of an interest in their grandson!! It's been 3 weeks since we've last seen them, and if we didn't drop by from time to time, I doubt they would ever see my son!!

Things have got to change on both sides when the new baby comes, there will be no more Mrs Nice Guy!!lol. Any way, thanx for posting your post, opening up makes a huge difference!!xx

Ivelisse - posted on 06/05/2009

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I've had it by both ends for all of my 4 kids and I completely understand you. I recently had to take two of my kids to the emergency room for real emergencies and it was like the world stopped. They are alright, I mean have you ever heard of a kid that never gets hurt? But it is true, you do have to set your boundaries and remind them that you are the mom and the last and ultimate decision will come from the parents. And as far as a little sneezing or coughing, unless you want to waste your time in a doc's office for them to tell you what you already know your child has, then let the grandparent take them if they insist that they need to see the doctor. Unfortunately, I do tend to have a smart mouth when it comes to things like this. Not everyone is a perfect parent, a little advice here and there is fine. But unless you're child's life is in grave danger for your decisions made, then they need to step back and remember that they already finished raising children and grandchildren are to be enjoyed, not annoyed.

Tonya - posted on 06/05/2009

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I am annoyed by a grandparent also my babys daddy mom wants to get my girls all the time and im very annoyed by that because she babys them and she has no rules for them they can do whatever they want around her and when they come home they try and walk all over me all the time its driving me nuts

Angelique - posted on 06/05/2009

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i have the same problem and eventually i said, "thanks for all your help and advice but i have it from here thanks and i am her mom" . You have no option but to put up boundries or else they can mess up things like routine and eating habits ect.

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