I'm boring.

Twin - posted on 07/07/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I've been married for three years and I have 20 month old twins. My husband both teach so we have busy schedules. That means we don't get to see each other that often. The problem is my husband gets home, has dinner and either goes to sleep or goes back to school to do some "extra work". Then on the weekend he also spends most of his time working. Summer comes along and he picks up extra hours or spends his free days sleeping or cruising around in his car. He refuses to take me with him a lot of the time. I'm usually stuck at home taking care of the kids. When we do go out he somehow had a way of making me feel guilty about it. He either talks about how much it's costing him or he says what about the kids. I try to organise nights in and nights out but he usually ends up either with plans or with friends. I feel like he's bored and tired of me and it makes me angry. When I get angry he makes me feel like I'm crazy. Help

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Dchector24 - posted on 07/10/2013

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I agree with Brooke. Definitely start making yourself less available to him. He will begin to wonder what you are up to. Also, it's important to act like you are perfectly fine with him doing his own thing. If you get mad about it, it just becomes even more fun to go out without you. Be happy most of the time or just indifferent. Do not act upset. Just make plans with friends or just go out on your own. Come home and be mysterious but let him know you had a great time :) This will work.

You are not crazy. You are not boring. He is just kind of a douche. (no offense)

Also, please take this time to enjoy your own company and get back in touch with things you love, and things that make you feel good!

Brooke - posted on 07/09/2013

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Sounds like he wants a babysitter, not a wife. If he doesn't want to go out with you, arrange to have the kids taken care of and go out by yourself, or with a girlfriend. Believe me, when you become less available, you will become more desirable. Stop chasing him, he will start chasing you.

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