I'm boring.

Twin - posted on 07/07/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




I've been married for three years and I have 20 month old twins. My husband both teach so we have busy schedules. That means we don't get to see each other that often. The problem is my husband gets home, has dinner and either goes to sleep or goes back to school to do some "extra work". Then on the weekend he also spends most of his time working. Summer comes along and he picks up extra hours or spends his free days sleeping or cruising around in his car. He refuses to take me with him a lot of the time. I'm usually stuck at home taking care of the kids. When we do go out he somehow had a way of making me feel guilty about it. He either talks about how much it's costing him or he says what about the kids. I try to organise nights in and nights out but he usually ends up either with plans or with friends. I feel like he's bored and tired of me and it makes me angry. When I get angry he makes me feel like I'm crazy. Help


Tina - posted on 07/12/2013




I can't give much advice. But I'm sorry that you feel like this must be a horrible place to be in. I know it's hard with 2 young kids but maybe find something that you can do without your partner. Even if that means finding a playgroup or something in your area where you can socialize with other Mums. I do now. It's a way for my kids to play and learn with other kids and an opportunity for me to actual get some adult contact. You find yourself falling into a depression without it. I have a 2 and 3 year old I honestly wish I'd done it sooner.

There's not much you can do about your Husband. You can only express your feelings and he'll either take it on board or he wont. It's a pity he's not more open to it. He could be going through his own issues. It could be that he worries about money or maybe there's something else also bothering him. Who knows. It sounds like you've tried to get time with him that's the main thing. Maybe it's just time to find something that you can do yourself to get out and do something different.

Goodluck. I

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