I'm boring.

Twin - posted on 07/07/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I've been married for three years and I have 20 month old twins. My husband both teach so we have busy schedules. That means we don't get to see each other that often. The problem is my husband gets home, has dinner and either goes to sleep or goes back to school to do some "extra work". Then on the weekend he also spends most of his time working. Summer comes along and he picks up extra hours or spends his free days sleeping or cruising around in his car. He refuses to take me with him a lot of the time. I'm usually stuck at home taking care of the kids. When we do go out he somehow had a way of making me feel guilty about it. He either talks about how much it's costing him or he says what about the kids. I try to organise nights in and nights out but he usually ends up either with plans or with friends. I feel like he's bored and tired of me and it makes me angry. When I get angry he makes me feel like I'm crazy. Help

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Amanda - posted on 07/07/2013

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well first off he need to take a weekend off and find the kids a babysitter like family or friends or even just for a date ask him what he'd like to do and say hey youv'e been working really hard what would you think of taking a sick day or two anddoing something and suggest a few things he likes like fishing and even if its not your favorite and if he knows it say I want to try it because I know how much you enjoy it :) showing interest in his interests will turn him back on to the relationship aspect and he'll want to spend more time with you maybe make him his favorite meal and ask him for dinner or perhaps his favorite movie came out and then you can go out to eat talk about things he likes and I betcha it'll do the trick :) and he'll slowly gain more interest in you and what you find fun :) give and take always find a way to find equality and balance in your relationship :) (and if all else fails or maybe just from the get go suggest that you haven't had a fun family outing together in awhile and the twins would probably enjoy going to the park and feed ducks some bread you might have laying around or to play in the sand and make creatures or just to run off some excess energy to have time there needs to be time find a way to key into his heart :) Kids are always a great reason to spend time together :)

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