i'm nervous is that ok?

Stephanie - posted on 07/29/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Ok so this is my first baby and I'm kind of learning as I go, but I think I've been "protecto-mom". I manage all of Bradley's care in every way. Well now daddy wants to take him overnight camping alone without me. I'm really freaking out. There hasn't been anytime where I am not with him except for work and then I leave him with other moms that I trust completely. I'm not knocking my fiance I'm just stressing what if he needs mommy and I'm not there. Daddy still gets a little over stressed at times and that makes me nervous. This baby thing hasn't quite clicked for him as quick as it did me. I'm just scared and I don't know what I will do with myself. I'm trying to look at it positively like I can catch up on housework and homework, but I haven't let him go away with anyone but my mom overnight and I about lost it, but she raised me and is the best mom in the world so I know everything is fine. I guess I'm just looking for encouragement am I crazy to be worried. What should I do to quit freaking out anyone else get the first time jitters ;o(

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Elizabeth - posted on 07/29/2009

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Well your not crazy i would think you to be crazy if you weren't worried or nervous. Thats what are jobs of mothers is to worry protect and make sure everything that we can control is perfectly okay. My son is four and he still doesn't stay with anyone but my mother.

Melinda - posted on 07/29/2009

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no your not crazy, don't think that, there are many moms and dads like you, who have never been away from there babies before. you just need to do what feels right for you.
listen i'm one of thoese moms, who get up 10 times a night to check to see if my 5 , 4 and 2 year old are still breathing, so your not crazy i am, try not to take that title away from me ok.lol

Jessi - posted on 07/29/2009

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You sound just like me. I was a wreck, when I left my baby with their dad. Even to run to town and get milk, I was rushing like a mad women. I didn't know if my husband could handle it, because he seemed to get stressed out easily. Trust me it takes time to get use too. I just kept telling myself, they are part of him too. Children do need there mommies, but they need there daddies too. As a mom, we do need a brake, once in a while. I am a stay at home mom, I do work part time now. But I never left my house for weeks, and finally my husband made me get out of the house. I believe its good for you and your baby to have brakes from each other. When you do, the next time you see their little faces you just want to kiss them extra hard. I don't know how old your baby is, but if he's walking or crawling, tell dad to watch out for the dirt (eating things) and the water....and to be safe bring a first aid kit. Little ones like bandages even if there not bleeding. Don't stress, you should be happy he wants to take your baby. Some dads don't even come around.

Deidre - posted on 07/29/2009

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Definitely not crazy. My daughter is 14mo and I've never been away from her overnight... I've never been away from her for more than 3hrs at a time. How far away are they going camping? And when will they be going camping? Is it really soon or a couple weeks away. Is it only one night or two or three nights?

Depending on those answers would stipulate whether or not I'd allow it personally. If it's only one night and within two or three hours from home I would try to be okay with it. If it's more than either of those though I would not be able to do it heh.

Also want to let you know that your fiance will do a great job just the two of them and I bet he's super excited about the idea of it :) I guess really talk to him about it and make a plan for emergencies to help put your mind at ease some. Write a list of everything you're worrying about and have him answer (and write down) what he would do with each situation. He may think it's tedious but just remind him that it's your way of trying to cope with the idea of being away from your baby. Also see if it would be okay if you go to join them if it becomes too much for you to handle being apart (that is, if it's within driving distance to do this).

Stephanie - posted on 07/29/2009

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I think maybe the fact that they are going on an overnight camping trip. Limited to no cell service, bugs, danger danger. My alarms are going off ;o)

That was encouraging though that I'm not crazy...

Ashley - posted on 07/29/2009

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I don't think you're crazy at all. My son is 14 months old and I've only been away from him for 3 nights b/c I was in the hospital when he was 8 months old and even then he was with his Nana. My husband has only kept him alone during the day for the most 3 or 4 hours by himself and I worry everytime and usually I'm just going into town. We also have a 5 year old I do the same with. I think you won't ever get completely rid of the 'what ifs'. Overnight is a huge thing and all babies need their Mommy. I would suggest 'check in' calls. Not to check to make sure the baby's taken care of but to ease your mind. Call every hour and once you realize over the first few that he's fine...you might be able to accomplish this next time with no calls. All dads are that way I think and that's what gives you the 'what if' thoughts anyway. When it's just up to him....he can handle it...it will be a big surprise. It's not that he can't do it but he won't be doing it the Mommy way.

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