I'm not ready!

Cerina - posted on 09/23/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hi, I am a very happy mommy of 2 amazing little boys age 5 and 7 months. I just found out I am pregnant again(via home pregnancy test)! I don't know how far along yet. I feel so lost I have always had irregular periods and have been taking my BC pill like I was I timed robot for 6 months. I don't think I'm ready for this again. I been having panic attacks and horrible dreams. Does this feeling go away? I don't know what to do? My husband says it's my choice to have the baby or not but I don't think I could live with myself if I took the "not" route. And if I have the baby...will I hate him/her?


Sarah - posted on 09/23/2013




I can never understand how people that have children of their own can consider killing another child just because it was not the right time or not in the plan. I understand the overwhelming feeling and the feeling of how will we make this work. I get that and I have been there. But how can you look at your kids and not be grateful for having those precious kids and know that the next will be just as special and precious. I know that for some it really is too much either financially, emotionally, and/or physically, but that does not mean you prevent that child from having a life. You give them life and allow them to show their precious selves.....but maybe it is through adoption. I know many people say that they could never do that. Which that sounds SO selfish then......I would rather you die and no one have you if I can't have you.

What I would suggest doing is just sitting down and writing things out. If you are worried about finances make a budget. Figure out what you would need. Find out what help you might qualify for. Look at where you can cut costs. If you have a boy you already have the clothes, toys, etc. If you have a girl do you have friends that might be willing to give you clothes? If it is physical/emotional talk to other moms that have three kids. Find out how it works for them and get tips on how to make it work for you. Write out a daily routine......this does not need to be in stone (meaning it can be flexible and can be changed) but it breaks things down. I do day care and during the day I have 6 kids 2 yrs and under. If you look at all the things that need to get done in the day it can be overwhelming. But if you have a routine then it becomes more doable and instead of looking at all the things that need to get done you focus on the task at hand.

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