I need a break!

Melanie - posted on 10/09/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hi

just wanted to share in hopes of getting some ideas or someone who relates. I am on maternity leave with my 8 mth old and my 3 year old. I love my kids i truly do i always say that i didnt know what love could realy be until i had my daughter it is obselotly amazing to me. But i i need a break from being at home with two kids...my son is (8 mth old) is very needy at least compared to what my daughters was at the same age...he is hard to keep entertained he seems to get bored easily, he still doesnt sleep threw the night and i never know what a day can bring me with him sometimes he naps in the am sometimes he doesnt same with the afternoon and at night it is the same sometimes he wakes up for 2hrs and others 15 min and quiet rarely he sleeps threw the night (about 10 times since birth). Therefore no one wants to babysit him. With my daughter i was way to attached and wouldnt let any watch her but with him i want him to be able to let go of me. My mother used to beg me to watch my daughter when she was younger and seems to only enjoy my son for about 30 min at a time when im there. BC of the reasons above. He is also breast fed still. I caint realy bblame my mom either coz when he was 2mths me n my husband went out and she had both kids and he decided that night that he would no longer take a bottle...so needles to say she had a pretty hard time with him (6hrs) and he hasnt wanted a bottle since then.I do have my grandmother who has offered to watch him but then i would feel incredibly guilty if he cried the hole time. Itsd just getting to b to much i am the only who can put him to sleep and take care of most his needs and i also have a 3yr old who is def not getting the attention she used to she is a great child but i can see behaviour isue she never had before. I miss her soo much as well i would love to have day alone with her to do special things alone like we used to. I sometimes feel guilty of wanting to have another baby i almost feel like it was a selfish move on my part considering what she has to go threw. Now dont get me wrong i adore my son he was even perfect as a new born no colics amd cosleept with me for 1 mth he was happy as long as i feed him and i was mostly ok with it since he was happy.Anyway had alot to say lol but i got some feelings out .Thx lol

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Kimberly - posted on 10/09/2009

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I know the feeling. I had to have my brother in law stay with us while the twins were in the hospital. They older 2 were sleeping and he would stay at the house and clean a little and all that. He didn't mind until the twins came home and he was like I'm moving out....lol I don't blame him however I miss the helping hand!

Melanie - posted on 10/09/2009

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Thanks girls :) Some days i feel great but dayz like today im just exhausted...Its a rolercoaster.I feel the same way kimberly i feel that i chose to have kids therefore they are my responsibility n that noo one should feel like they have to watch them. I couldnt imagine having twins though.It probly go nuts lol... the pro is that my younbger sis has ben stayin with me (shes 20) she helped out alot at first but now she isnt n e more too much to handle i guess...but she always told me she was ready to have kids n i kept telling her to wait longer after truly seeing wot its like shes changed her mind lol

Natasha - posted on 10/09/2009

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omg!!!!! i feel like you story is almost like mine except i still co-sleep with my 8 month old daughter and i dont have any other children. this is my first and i find it soo tough sometimes. she wont go to sleep without being breastfeed and has never slept through the nite at all since she was born. i dont go back to work til jan and i find it really hard somedays. no one will babysit because of this as well. my sister and mother in law have both tried and she cried bloody murder till i came and got her.



im in your shoes and i know how you feel i hope everything works out for you :)

Kimberly - posted on 10/09/2009

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I am in the same boat! I have 4 girls 4, 3 and 11mth old twins. I have people willing to take the kids every once in a while however feel like I shouldn't put the responsibility of all for girls on one couple. They aren't used to their routine. I guess it's just me being over protective and need to get over it....lol I def know the feeling though. I also work 2 jobs so the day to day grind gets over whelming sometimes.....

Melanie - posted on 10/09/2009

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Im also kinda worried that she would let him cry all day. Might be paranoid but i know that she was strik when i was younger ive seen her force my cousin to eat bout 2 yrs ago which i wouldnt aprove.Like he was crying and she would stuff food in his mouth.

Anna - posted on 10/09/2009

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Maybe if your DS won't take a bottle he would be willing to take your milk from a sippy cup? IMHO, you should take advantage of your grandmother's offer to watch him and have a nice day with your daughter. I'm sure your grandmother understands that some children have higher needs than others and you should NEVER feel guilty for your baby being himself...even if he is a little stinker sometimes!

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