I need help with sleeping troubles!

Jade - posted on 09/20/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My six month old son has never been a good sleeper, but recently he has started screaming and crying when I bend down to put him to bed (day and night). He doesn't even touch the bed! I don't know why he does this and it feels like we've tried everything. I've tried a wind up mobile, a battery operated mobile, not having anything (musical) going, just the dummy, putting toys in there to look at, toys to play with until he drifts off, letting him cry... All of these things worked for a short period of time and now I'm all out of ideas. Any ideas or something that has worked for you, please let me know! I don't think it's because of teething or a growth spurt because it has been going on for far too long. I'm getting too tired to put up with it for much longer.

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Jade - posted on 09/26/2009

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My sister helped me to do the 'crying to sleep' method. I never thought I could do this as when I tried when Zac was only a few months old, he screamed in terror! But my sister gave me the support I needed and this time he cried, it was only in frustration because he wasn't getting his own way. He was not distressed at all, otherwise I would have picked him up and cuddled him! Once I did it once and found that he was ok and not scared that I wasn't coming back (I did go in to settle him periodically, I DID NOT let him cry for the whole period), it has become easier to do. I have found that he doesn't cry for as long now, and tonight I gave him his last feed just before 8pm, read his his nightly story, then put him to bed. That was it! No crying, to grizzling! Nothing! It is now 8.38pm and if he wasn't going to sleep, he would have let me know by now. So thank you to all of you who have given advice. It is comforting to know that there are others out there in the same situation. I don't feel like such a failure as a mother! Thank you!

Rebecca - posted on 09/25/2009

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yes its hard isaac sometimes wakes up like that but hes getting better i must say that being able to put them in bed and thats all is the quickest and most less stress full once you teach them to bed in there own bed as we are there parents they dont no anything other than what we are here to teach them i do alot of research before i change my sons ways of living if not rocking him to sleep anymore but you could research it huggies website is also good but im sure youll find what works for you best of luck

Jade - posted on 09/21/2009

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Thanks again Rebecca! Carly, it can sometimes be the worst thing in the world to cuddle him to sleep. No matter when you put him in bed after he falls asleep, he will wake up and scream, if he doesn't, he will wake up screaming after a short catnap and wont go back to sleep. So when he gets no sleep during the day, it's even worse putting him to bed at night because he's overtired and had a bad day. I'm sorry if this came across as rude (I really didn't mean to have that tone). Some children it doesn't matter how you put them to sleep, and it never used to matter when Zac was only a few months old, but now he's more aware, it's just too hard.

Carly - posted on 09/21/2009

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Is it really the end of the world if you cuddle him to sleep? If it works and is the quickest and least stressful option, I say stick with it! Your bub is only 6 months old. He may change again in a months time and be more than happy to go to sleep by himself again. Don't worry about "bad habits" - you can always teach your son to sleep on his own when he is older and can understand better. At his age, he really hasn't got a grip on the concept of "mummy goes away, but she DOES come back again" - otherwise known as object permanence. He still feels a little bit lost without either you or Daddy to keep him company.

Rebecca - posted on 09/21/2009

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its also good if oyu need to be away for a few hrs and someone watches him they dont have to try to put him to bed they just put him in bed and thats it such a treat....

Rebecca - posted on 09/21/2009

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thats ok i hope it helps you just ned to keep it up to see the result if your partner gives in you remind him how easy bed time could be :0 lol it only takes a short time but he must be put to be awake so he learns to settle himself and fall asleep knowing your around best of luck

Jade - posted on 09/20/2009

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Thank you Erin and Rebecca. Your advice is great. I know that my husband and I are to blame for his sleeping habits. We used to (my hubby esecially because he doesn't get to see him all day and just wants to cuddle him) cuddle him to sleep. Zac was putting himself to sleep for a while, but just recently started this screaming match. My hubby and I both agreed not to cuddle him to sleep, but m hubby gave in last night. I have a feeling that set us back to square 1. But we'll get there! Thanks again.

Rebecca - posted on 09/20/2009

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yes well my son has been a good sleeper but resently we have changed his sleeping so i went to the health plaza nurse for sleeping help you need to give your son a cuddle or some love before you put him in bed then stand by his bed and hold him down if he wont stay and pat his bottom for a few mins then stop and then keep doing it for a little while till he settles if he trys to get up lye him straight back down do not give in then about a week later just cuddle him and put him in his bed and dont pat his bottom stay where he can see u so he feels secure and then a week after that or when u feels hes ready to go to sleep alone put him in bed and walk out and shut the door he will cry for alittle 1st up but it soon stops it didnt even take me 2wks to get him used to it and now he falls asleep alone its so easy sleep time is a blast but you must get him used to a cuddle then put him in bed pat his bottom and so on it works a treat if he crys for longer than 15min i go in and settle him pivk him up cuddle him and straight back into the bed without saying a word to him best of luck it works for me you just have to stick to it so he learns wat to do

Erin - posted on 09/20/2009

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Hello. My first son did this. We put him in, no toys and let him cry. He would cry for abour 30 mintues but finally go to sleep. It took him a while to finally give up and know I'm not going to get him. If he cries and you pick him up, then you are training him that he gets what he wants when he cries. It broke my heart, but it was worth it. You have to do this for naptime and bedtime, until he gets used to the schedule. Now, he sleeps no problem all by himself and actually puts himself to bed sometimes. Good luck!

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