I need help with with my 9 month old's sleeping habits

Tonimarie - posted on 03/27/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Doctors keep telling me to just let her cry however when I do she cries for over an hour until I pick her up.

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Fiona - posted on 03/30/2013

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My theory is if it feels wrong to you, don't do it.

My daughter has always been difficult to get to sleep. I eventually went to a sleep clinic for her, where they made me let her cry it out. She just kept crying, turned out her reflux was causing her pain and they just let her scream. The only thing that fixed that was a chiropractor, again something doctors would never suggest. Doctors just caused her to be so stressed about bedtime that even at almost 5 she'll only sleep in my bed.

Lynelle - posted on 03/29/2013

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You can try Elizabeth Pantley's no cry sleep solutions. My son was a swaddle addict so I found the zip-a-dee-zip blanket. It didn't work for him like the testimonials said but it helps him sleep for longer stretches. He currently sleeps in my bed and nurses to sleep. I have to put him back to sleep 2-7 times between 8 when he goes to bed and midnight when I go to bed. Its demanding sometimes since only I can put him back to sleep but at least he sleeps and I get my homework done. Its working for now! Oh also google attachment parenting. There's a whole school of thought that says sleeping in their own bed its a developmental milestone. Hope this gives you some direction!

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Jessica - posted on 04/02/2013

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I never let my kids cry.. I always picked them up. They are now 6-3 an they are fine. My doctor told me I you let them cry it puts stress on them..

Karissa - posted on 04/01/2013

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I realize the Ferber method is not for everyone, but giving the gift of good sleep habits is important for any child. If you do want to try again with Ferber, it's not about letting your child cry for an hour straight all by herself. The first day they only recommend leaving her alone for 1 minute the first time, 2 the second, and 3 minutes until she calms down. Stay less than a minute to soothe and then leave again without picking her up unless something else needs to be addressed. Any subsequent wakings that night should be started at 1 minute again. If you can't wait that long, make smaller increments. Each day, you add a little bit of time to the increments until they learn that everything is really okay and they can put themselves to sleep. With my first, I waited until 9 months....it's much harder to do a 9 month old and will take a few weeks, most likely. My second I did around 4 months and it took 1 1/2 days. Do bedtime first if you want to start slow, then tackle naps when that's done. I'd also recommend getting the book, Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems for guidance on the method. If you choose another method, good luck there too. :) One more thing...the Ferber method should only be done if nothing else is wrong.

Tonimarie - posted on 04/01/2013

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Aw that's a bummer I'm sorry you have to go through all that. Thank you I feel you on that now every time I put her down she freaks out! She never used to do so. Now it's hard because she don't want to be left alone while napping

Tonimarie - posted on 03/27/2013

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My daughter hates blankets and she nurses so I think she is just attached to me. I'm trying everything but it seems now that I let her cry shes afraid for me to put her down any where

Elizabeth - posted on 03/27/2013

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I have the exactly same problem with my 10 mo old. Unfortunately I don't have too much advice because I haven't found anything that works for my LO yet... but some things have started to work and then stopped after a few days, but maybe you can try it an it'll work for you..

Try wrapping LO in a blanket before you put them down in their bed.. I found that it helped my LO feel that I was still with him in his bed. Playing music while I put him to sleep and then keeping that music close to his crib as I put him in also seemed to help. I hope something like this works for you.. If you find something else please let me know!

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