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Yomna - posted on 07/07/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )




Hey all i have a noisy sound always telling me that my baby will not know me well,coz am working from 8:30 am till 4:30 pm almost 8 hours daily exept fri. & sat. off,am leaving her with her nany So,am spending all the time after work with her to know me well but i think this is not enough time for my baby girl,anyway its all coz of her at the end..........:(,


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Paige - posted on 07/07/2009




She'll never forget who you are, its what you need to do and im sure she loves the time you spend together with her, no matter how short it is. I worry about that with my partner, he is gone 15 hours a day 5 days a week, but she never forgets who he is the moment she spots him come in the door, she has the hugest grin on her face.

My mum was a single mum and worked alot when i was growing up, but i never resented her for that, its what she had to do and the time we did spend together was always precious. Good luck with everything and dont worry yourself sick about it.

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she will always recognize you as her mom, but be prepared to be envious of the relationship she will likely have with the nanny. I left my oldest w/ my MIL a LOT her first year while I worked. As a result they have a very strong bond that makes me greatly regret working so much. It was a necessary evil of course, we needed the money, but it will always be one of the greatest regrets of my life that I didn't get to spend more time with her that first year.

Tameeka - posted on 07/07/2009




she will know u regardless nine months w/ u and then however long w/ u b4 u took her to the nanny.... wat may help is sometimes wen she is sleep lay her across ur just for u and her time but believe me she will no who mommy is

Nora - posted on 07/07/2009




I've been working 8 hours a day 5 days a week since my son was 6 weeks old. He is now 16 months and very much a momma's boy. He has always been extremely attached to me. When I pick him up, he gets so excited and runs to the door and can't wait to get home and do our night time routine.

Rose - posted on 07/07/2009




I have this same problem. I'm trying to find a job because I really need the income, but I'm scared to leave my baby with a nanny. However I'm not so much worried that she wont know me, but that I wont know her. I dont want to miss out on all of her Firsts and her just growing up. She's 7 months, doesnt have her 1st tooth yet, is just begining to try to crawl, and she has so much more to go. I dont want to miss it:(

Veronica - posted on 07/07/2009




Dear Yomna,

I heard this once, I think it is beautiful, and soo true -- babies who are separated from their mothers at birth, and then reunited later, still recognize their mothers voices -- I feel its true, and if you think about it, they spent 9 mo. in your womb - they also recognize your heartbeat too. (I dont know what length of time this is) but you get the point. Your little one will and will always know who mama is! Take care, and know that you are providing her with the best of your ability, and im sure when she is older and understands she will be very appreciative.

Otherwise, I also would like to offer you a business opportunity, it allows you to work part-time for a full-time income - you dont have to quit your job to do this - you work it through your schedule. It is a 2 -3 year plan, so you have plenty of time to develop it, and secure your financial future. I am a mother of 5, Ive been doing this for 8 mo. now, and am set for life already. Im a stay at home mom, and although im home all day, its still a full time job - so it gives me plenty of time to set my own schedule, and work at my own pace. And the products, and online shopping are phenominal. I personally am a Senior Motives Consultant - I do custom blend foundation, makeovers for all types of occassions/parties, and soon I will have my kit to do custom blend mineral powders, blushes, bronzers, etc. Its an awesome cosmetic line that is movin on up in the world - we are getting a lot of media attention. You can take a look at my two webportals: www.marketamerica.com/cvk (online shopping - partner stores, and exclusive brands), and my mini-Motives site: vvs.motivescosmetics.com -- send me a message if this interests you. Otherwise, take care, and just spend what time you have with your daughter, and cherish every moment - before you know it she will be grown and 'gone' - Always, Veronica Knott

Kristina - posted on 07/07/2009




I am in the same situation myself. I had a rough pregnancy and was out of work for three months after I had my daughter. We got so much alone time together and when I went back to work it nearly killed me. I am a single mom and working 2 jobs right now plus school...I generally only get an hour and a half with my daughter at night and a couple hours on the weekends with her but she knows who I am. It's not the amount of time I get to spend with her, it's the quality of the time I am spending with her. When you only have a short time, spend it wisely...doing things the two of you can do together...even if it's as simple as just laying there holding your child and letting them know you are there, makes a world of difference to a little one.

Yomna - posted on 07/07/2009




Thank u so much for ur answer,i hope so coz she's my everything

& i love her till death

Donna - posted on 07/07/2009




Hi Yomna, I went back to work full time ( 9.30 - 6.30 ) when my daughter was 6 months old. I only got to see her for bout an hour in the evening, but she still knew who her mummy was and she always called for me when she needed something, she still comes to me now and she's 6 in a few days. I'm sure your little girl will still love you and know who your are.


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