I raised my son for 5 yrl on my own, his father is now in the picture for the past 2 yrs, he now has a new girlfriend 21 yrs old and he wants our son to meet her!? i am having a hard time with this! :(

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Stefanie - posted on 08/17/2012

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Talk to the ex about it first. Let him know that you're uncomfortable with it and why. If you have a good relationship with him it shouldn't be too difficult. Maybe even try to get to know her better yourself before you involve the child. If you get to know her and still don't like her or are uncomfortable then don't bring the child in.
If you do become comfortable with her try to introduce her slowly. Possibly have like a supervised visit where they are at your house or something like that.
I also agree that the ex should be with a girl for an extended period of time before he introduces her. It will only confuse your son if he is introduced to another one of "Daddy's friends" every other week! Good luck!

Momma Of 4 - posted on 08/14/2012

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I could just cry. I understand how you feel and I hope to not have to deal with it myself. You could make a strong stipulation..... he has to be with her consecuitively for a period of time because it isnt fair to introduce every flavour or the week. Not to meantion if shes only 21, the partying isnt over and he isnt mature enough to understand you love and protection of your son.

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it just kills me to think i have been there for everything with my son as his dad partied away and took no responsibility and now a 21 yr old girl just gets to come into his life and they r one big happy family!!!???? ummmmmm ya i cant handle that.

Momma Of 4 - posted on 08/14/2012

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Youve gotta feel alright about this. I guess I react because my ex is out of my sons life. But I did introduce him to my now fiance when he was 18 months old. If your child is older you should maybe ask him what he feels?

Momma Of 4 - posted on 08/13/2012

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Sorry I read that wrong... didnt see hes been involved for 2 years....... hmmmmm how long have they.been dating?

Momma Of 4 - posted on 08/13/2012

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Nope!! I'd say no. Get more involved with your child first then we will see. Hea just trying to "look" like a good dad. Thats not fair to your child.

User - posted on 08/13/2012

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I was 18 when I met my husband, his ex wife was not fond of me meeting their son, who was 13 months at the time. And I am sure that is a hard thing, but now me and my step son have a wonderful relationship, he is almost 4 now, he is gonna meet someone, and as long as you know what is going on and he is not in danger, try and make it a good thing. Now me and my husbands ex get along fine, she deployed for a year, and we bonded before, and she has told me many times how grateful that He had me when she was gone.

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