I really need help, anyone?

User - posted on 10/02/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My 5 month old daughter does not go to sleep until 4:30am and I seriously do not know what to do. I have tried a schedule, bedtime routine, moving it slowly every night, keeping her up longer, skipping naps so she'll be tired. And no, It is not the 5 month sleep regression because it has been this way since day one. she wakes up every 1-2 hours even after i finally do get her to sleep. I am desperate. ANY ADVICE IS APPRECIATED. PLEASE HELP. I am exhausted and havnt had a decent chunk of sleep in a long time.

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Anna - posted on 10/02/2012

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Do you co-sleep? If not it may be a good idea to try it. I co-slept with my daughter and when she could snuggle up or feel me near by she would fall asleep better. As long as you do it safely than it is wonderful!! The only problem with co-sleeping that I have found is breaking them of it, lol. My dtr is 6 now and usually will sleep through the night if we put her down in her bed but most of the time she still wants to sleep with me. I just remind myself that eventually she will be grown and the idea of snuggling with her mommy will gross her out :) Good luck and I hope you get some rest. Also, try elevating her head a little, like with one of those foam sleep wedge thingies they sell for babies. If she has any type of reflux or drainage from allergies this can help ease it

User - posted on 10/02/2012

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M a mother of 19 months old son.. it happens in the start.. u need not to worry about. hav u started giving her solid foods yet or not? If not, then its the right time to start with atleast the semi solids like rice,mashed potatoes,mashed fruits, custards or youghurt etc. it helps to fill the child's appetite as ur daughter is in the age to need such. Once the tummy is filled, specially before bedtime, children feel sleepy.. I hope it may help you :)

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Amrit - posted on 10/04/2012

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IF you are breastfeeding, try making yourself a banana milkshake, take a whole nutmeg and grind half of it on the smallest part of the cheese grater, it grinds easily. Mix that in with ur milkshake and drink! For adults it is very relaxing and is a sleep aid. That will also give her some thru your milk. if it doesnt seem to be enough, try 3/4 of a nutmeg, and gradually use more if needed. if you have too much it will make you lethargic and stupid feeling, but that's if you really over do it. there are also the bach flower remedies maybe you have heard of their rescue remedy. they also have one called rescue sleep either with a dropper or spray. you can spray it in her mouth or just on the top of her head. lavender is also good for relaxing- try a warm/hot bath with a few drops of lavender essential oil and then give her an oil massage for at least 10 mins afterwards with olive or coconut oil, making sure you are both having fun and enjoying. also make sure that YOU are relaxed- because she takes her cues from you. try winding down skin to skin, and letting her hear your calm relaxed breathing.

also try to figure things from a different angle- are you using cloth diapers? does she absolutely hate a wet one? does she have to sleep alone in her own room? try sleeping with her or letting her sleep with you- some babies just need that closeness.

Tracey - posted on 10/04/2012

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I have several suggestions:



1) Have a friend come over and keep her awake all day, or when she normally sleeps during the day. She's obviously sleeping at some point, just not when you want her to, and you're exhausted and probably sleeping when she sleeps. I didn't realize to do this until my third child, who by day three had gotten herself into the same pattern you're talking about. My dear friend's husband came over and kept her awake, something he calls "the oddest request he's ever had" since he's known for his ability to make any baby sleep. But he was able to keep her awake during a 6-hour stretch in the evening where she usually slept, and from that time forward, she fell asleep at the time he had finally let her sleep (11 p.m.).



2) Check for other issues. The mother on a blog I read, http://bakersdozenandapolloxiv.com/ , found that her youngest had a whole cascade of issues that resulted in him not sleeping at night. Their first clue was he was not gaining weight at the rate most kids do. Their second was his inexplicable screaming at mealtime, when he seemed to want to eat, but wouldn't. Turns out he *couldn't* due to a medical problem. I have another real-life friend who went through something similar with her next-to-youngest, and he had tongue-tie (something the first mom's baby had as well) as well as a couple of issues which she's in the middle of getting diagnosed.



3) Co-sleep, while you're doing/checking both 1 and 2. The mom of the blog above did this, and it did seem to help *a little*. It certainly helped us, after our friend helped re-set my baby's internal clock! She's still the one of my kids who is most easily knocked off of her sleep schedule. The others are pretty regular natively without needing to set alarm clocks, but she's one who is still very easily moved from her schedule: even at age 7, falling asleep in the car for 10 minutes can make her not fall asleep for an hour or so after she normally would. Fortunately she's just as easy to switch back!

Shauna - posted on 10/04/2012

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Also, poor sleep in the day can lead to poor sleep at night.. maybe try holding her for just one good nap a day for a few days (play Wii or something while you do). Only one nap so she doesn't get accustomed to ONLY ever sleeping in your arms. Then maybe she won't be so overtired for bedtime.

Lynn - posted on 10/04/2012

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Try putting her in a swing at bedtime. My kids loved ours, and so did several of our neighbors' kids, when they were born. That's how I got my kids on the nap schedule I wanted.

Ashley - posted on 10/03/2012

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I also forgot this. I k.ow it sounds wierd but when my oldest wouldnt sleep obe night when we stayed at my mother in laws she came in with the vaccuum. Sbe turned it on and I just looked at her like she was crazy, but within minutes, he was out. When she knew he was good and asleep she turned it off. Then she told me she did that with my husband as a baby. I started doing it after that and it always worked with my older 2. it wouldnt hurt to try.

Beth - posted on 10/03/2012

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The full tummy before bed was the best advice I remember my mom giving my sister. My mom is no longer with us but I try to remember all of the tricks she had, she had 6 children and I trust her old school advice very much. My daughter didn't want to eat cereal before bedtime, so I remember her saying to designate one bottle as a nighttime bottle and make the opening on the nipple a little bigger and adding some rice cereal to the warm bottle of milk. It worked like a charm with my daughter! I hope it will help you too.

Ashley - posted on 10/03/2012

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When my babies wouldnt sleep I would put them in the bath right before bed time and feed them some cereal so they can get full and relax in the tub. Get some lotion made to soothe them for bedtime and rub it all over them. Put on a fresh diaper and warm jammies. Then give a warm bottle. Maybe some orajel also. That made my babies sleep great.

Shauna - posted on 10/02/2012

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I think the best advice I've seen is keep it BORING at night time--lights out, no talking or playing. During the day, keep the lights on, noise happening, play a lot... They'll learn that if being awake at night just means sitting in the dark, that it's not worth being awake. It's hard to ignore their cute coos and not coo back, but just keep that to the day or right before bed... but not after bedtime. It's worth it in the long run.

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