I recently relocated back home with my parents and currently expecting my first child.

Michelle - posted on 07/05/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




expecting my first child. Not the best situation I was in out there with the child's father but really not a great situation at home either. I feel lost and with my child to be born at the end of this month I really dont know what to do. I really want the father to be in his son"s life and everything ,but the problem is him and my mother got into it pretty bad and I feel like I am stuck in the middle. He wants me to come back and of course my parents dont want me to go back there. Anyone have any advice?


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Casey - posted on 07/06/2009




Don't go back to your boyfriend unless you are absolutely sure that you and your baby are going to be safe and happy, the worst thing you can do is go back because you think you have to so that he can be a part of the babies life or because you think you have no other choice.I would try talking to your mum about the whole situation tell her how you feel and what you want, maybe your relationship with the babies father just needs a little bit of time and space we all know how hard it is and how stressful it is on both parents when you are having your first child, but trust me it gets a whole lot worse when you have them and you will need somewhere stable and supportive to live with people who can help, listen and support you and if you can't get this from your partner at the moment then maybe the best place for you is at home. You need to do whats right for you and your baby and no-one else, don't feel pressured into a situation that isn't going to work. Goodluck.

Katrina - posted on 07/05/2009




I completely agree with Amy. If your baby's father is good to you and you think that he will take care of you and your baby then you should go back. Do what will make you happy and what is best for your baby. Your mother and your husband will have to get along one way or another. I'm sure once the baby comes that they will both be happy and not thinking about whatever it was that they were fighting about.

Amy - posted on 07/05/2009




My advice is......It's your life, your child and your choice! Did the father of your baby treat you right? Will he treati you right? Do you think its going to be a great environment for your baby if you are with the father? You have to ask yourself theese questions. I am sure your parents are just worried about you and your soon be be child (and you will understand when your wee one grows up and you are faced with a similar situation). But you need to do what is right for you and your child and no one else. You need to be where you think is the best place for your baby to be. not where everyone else wants you to be. If he treats you right and you are happy with him and you want to be with him then you know what you need to do. And thie whole situation with both of them fighting, that is their problem and they will have to work things out afterall he will always be the daddy and she will always be the grammy :)

Hope that helps

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