i think my hubby is nuts..lol

Angel - posted on 04/23/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




we have 2 kids one girl 3 yrs old and one boy 11mns old... i told him that i wanted to go to the obgyn and get fixed i am on the marina now and i hate it my cycles are so out of wack and i have gained a lot of weight from it... and my husband tells me i dont agree i want another one just not right now.... is he crazy for wanting this we have been lucky with the 1st two they werent hard to deal with as babys lucas slept thro the night young. neither was crabby or anythign like that.... i want to just relax and enjoy the time we have and when lucas starts school i can get back to working and all that.... we just cant seem to find the right fit here we just came to the point we dont talk about it. he says he will deal with it it i get fixed but i know he dont really mean it.... what do all of you think


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I am unmarried... and i have one child. I obviously cant say what exactly i would do in your situation but you do need to come to an understanding. I couldnt handle being a stay at home mom. Work to me, is my break. I think you need to sit down and write down WHY you dont want more kids in the future. is it because you just cant handle a third? is it because you want to go back to work after lucas? is it because your body doesnt want to handle more kids? you want 'alone' time with your husband? financially not ready for another child? what is your reasoning behind it? I think once you figure that out specifically...he needs to write down WHY HE WANTS MORE.... and you need to figure out who's reasoning is less selfish.... I personally, want a big family. I want to wait until I get married though. but i think this is a major decision you have to make TOGETHER. good luck to you....

Jennifer - posted on 04/29/2009




I have the opposite problem, we have 2 girls almost 6 and almost 2, I want to have another one but my hubby wants to get fixed. I have been trying to talk myself out of it ever since my 2nd was born. ( I had two hard pregnancies) I don't really want to but my family through another rough nine months but I have this feeling that someone is missing, that our family is not complete. We are still discissing it but I feel like we are deadlocked.

Noel - posted on 04/28/2009




personally i think your husband is crazy. have have two kids my self one girl almost 4 and a boy almost 3. what me and my huband has decided was that he would get fix because we have one of each as do you, but in this economy situation that the country is in now it is just best to stop. really can't aford more. plus we had too many complications with our son,during and after.

Ashley - posted on 04/28/2009




Getting yourself fixed is a big decision and if one is on the fence or not 100% on board then most doctors won't do it anyway, nor should they. Is it possible to just change your birth control method? I'm on seasonique and only get my period once every 3 months and it really didn't make me gain any weight. I think it's definitely an issue that you both need to discuss further and come to a decision together because once you get fixed it's hard to reverse it. Plus who wants to go through that twice??? It's one thing if you are un-decided on another child but don't do anything to make that impossible just yet.

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