I want to be a surrogate mom...

Tina - posted on 09/12/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am a 25 year old stay at home mother to my three children. I had my first in 2006, another in 2008 and our baby in 2009. I so enjoyed being pregnant! I never had any troubles, a few bouts of morning sickness and some cramps towards the end, but other than that I am a great pregnant woman! I came across a couple looking for a surrogate in my area and want to help them. I know what a blessing children are and want ot give that gift to someone else. It is not at all about the money for me, although that will be nice. My family is by no means in dreadful need of a financial windfall. I would use it to open college saving funds for my kids. This is not the first time I have thought about becoming a surrogate mother, that happened back in 2007 between my first two kids. I know that going into it with the mindset that I am going to be blessing someone who could not have a baby on their own with one, and in doing that I know I would be able to do it. I have done research online about becoming a surrogate and yes it is a lot of work but how worth it! I need help in convincing my husband that this is something that is ok. This is something I want to do with all my heart I want to do this for someone! He doesn't understand that it is more than some other man's sperm inside me. lol. I would in no way be giving up a child that is in any way related to us. I would just be the "oven". I have prayed about this and the Lord has gave me the piece that I would be ok and able to handle it.


Nicole - posted on 09/12/2011




Wow, that's a tough one. I can understand how you feel- what a gift to be able to give someone! I can also understand how your husband probably feels but I think the best thing is to express how YOU feel about it and be careful not to ask him to feel a certain way about it... yet. I think if he truly understands how important this is to you and how you have the opportunity to help a couple have children, then he will come around eventually. Especially discussing how your own children have changed your lives and made such a wonderful impact on the both of you. I think my husband would feel like he wouldn't want me to do it at first but if he could put himself in the other couple's shoes, he might change his mind.

I think, above all, that you both need to be okay with this decision before you proceed. YOUR family comes first and, while being able to help out someone else with theirs would be wonderful and exciting, that comes second. Good luck and I hope it all works out for the best!


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