I was told my baby is overweight

Bianca - posted on 06/25/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )




my husband and myself thought we should get our daughter weighed again so we stopped at priceline and got her weighed and was told that she is fat and we should consider pulling back a feed!!! How do you tell a 3 month old that no you cannot have a feed now as your to fat... She is having the required amount and required times so she is not having anymore then she should be... Im sorry but if my daughter is hungry im going to feed her... she is not obese she is a healthy little girl with chubby cheeks.. Already my daughter is facing the "to fat kid". what are your thoughts?


Emily - posted on 06/25/2009




mylittle boy is 1 year old and weighs 32lbs. he is by no way fat, just a bit kid... he looks like he is three... do what you feel is right and stick to your guns...

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What a load of shite!
They kept saying that about my son! And all i said was id rather him be a bit chubby than really skinny and see his ribs cuz u'd be quick enough to get social services on me for neglict! u do as u see fit hun and if ur daughter is hungry, feed her!!!

It really bugs me as most people in child care havent got kids themselfs or have just come out of uni and going by the books!!! Every child if different..

~Dont let them upset u x

Ez - posted on 06/25/2009




At 3 months it's perfectly reasonable that a baby be fed on demand, and I wouldn't let anyone tell you otherwise without a sound medical reason. My daughter was 9lb 6oz born and now at nearly 5 mths she is over 8kg and wearing 0s (for 9-12mths). The lowest she's ever been on the chart is the 97th percentile, and at times has been off it completely (ie above 100%). But she's following a curve, HER CURVE, and that matters more than her actual weight. She is a big baby, was always going to be a big baby (strong family history of high birth weights), and, like your daughter, is not overfed. But I too get the comments from well-meaning family members - 'oh don't keep feeding her, you don't want her to get TOO fat', or 'is she feeding again?'. To which I reply with a curt 'do you like being hungry?'.


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User - posted on 06/26/2009




Well, my son was about 10 pounds when he was born. Literally, when he was born the midwife said that he was a mosse. AS a new mom that made me feel great.

therefore, I dealt with this a lot. I would just ignore them and say he's healthy.

You are her mother and you know best. YOU are the one that has to deal with a hungry child if you skip a bottle/feeding.

Don't feel bad kids grow and look like they are going meant to.

My son was 18-20 lbs by the time he was 3-4 months old and OFF the charts in both height and weight. He was such a cute chunky monkey.

Even now at just turning 8 last week he is mistaken for a 9 or 10 year old and I feel so bad for him.

Just keep doing what you doing, nobody is the perfect parent, and if she is still a "little bigger" when she is like 5 or 6 then I would consider watching what she eats and promote more exercise.

Hope this helps.

Sara - posted on 06/26/2009




I think that when a baby wants to eat, you should feed them. Especially a baby that is only 3 months old! Babies aren't obese, they're BABIES!!! Gotta have that extra layer of fat for a few reasons. My daughter could survive a week without eating just on the size of her thighs alone, and that's ok with me!

Lisa - posted on 06/26/2009




from 4 weeks to 14 months my son was the fattest baby i had ever seen! i still fed him when he was hungry, now he is moving around he is slimming down and its no big deal. he has been wearing the same size clothes for about 9 months because he needed that bigger waist band. dont worry about it! just take care of your baby!

Belinda - posted on 06/26/2009




If she's hungry, feed her. People can be such idiots. I was a very very chubby baby!! My mumma's milk was super creamy and until she stopped breastfeeding me I had rolls everywhere..lol! But once I started eating solid foods and got to about two i'd slimmed out to an average sized toddler. How chubby your baby is now certainly doesn't mean they are going to be the "fat kid". My sisters kids have been exactly the same, very chubby babies who have grown into regular sized toddlers. I think chubby babies are cute and healthy looking personally!!

Amanda - posted on 06/25/2009




They're nuts, they told me that my son was much to tall for his age, and overweight for his age. Of course if you put those together he was normal.

Don't worry about what they say, you'll know if something is wrong, and being slightly "overweight" (quotations because I don't believe a 3 month old who feeds on demand can be overweight) at that age is nothing, she's probably gearing up for a growth spurt, which means you should start stocking up on the next size clothes. All babies put on fat right before they grow. That's most likely all it is. Don't worry, and don't be afraid to tell anyone who calls her fat that you think they are nuts.

Natasha - posted on 06/25/2009




Omg are you serious! That's a load of crap! Babies are meant to be chubby it shows that they are healthy and getting enough nutrients! plus as soon as they start moving around they'll drop alot of there excess body weight! No one has the right to tell you your child is fat and that you need to drop a bottle your her mum and you no whats best for her!! If your doctors happy with her then thats all that matters! my son was 2 wks early and weighed in at 8lbs 6oz... could you imagine what he had been full term golly gosh labour was hard enough as it was! He's now 3mths 3wks and weighs alittle over 15lbs and people are starting to say to me he's a little bit chubby blah blah blah, i look at him and he's no were near chubby! Some people need to learn to keep there opions to themselves if they have nothing nice to say i think!

Teah - posted on 06/25/2009




I hear people call my son fat ALL day long. He's 3 months and 17lbs, but when I asked his doctor, he simply stated he's healthy and just don't increase the food I give him. Don't listen to what those people said because they aren't the ones who have to deal with your daughter screaming and crying because she's hungry.

Kirsty - posted on 06/25/2009




I agree with everyone else! Ignore them! What is right for your baby is right for your baby!

My little guy was 8lbs 4oz when he was born and now at 2.5 months he's over 14. He never lost anything (he was in hospital for a week, and not able to eat for the first 2 days after he was born)

Everything should balance out once she gets mobile

Bridget - posted on 06/25/2009




My son was born at 7 lbs. 9 ozs. and he is now 2 months old and weighs 12 lbs! Our doctor is happy with his wieght. Most people are shocked when the hold him because he is so skinny looking but he is solid. Don't take away any feedings she is so little still! she needs to eat when she is hungry. I think they need the wieght so they dont disappear when they start crawling!

Bridget - posted on 06/25/2009




What a load of B.S. how dare someone say that! At 3 months you should still be feeding everytime she is hungry. Weight is relative - is she following the normal curve of gain? Don't look at percentiles, just put her birthweight on the graph and draw her curve so far. As long as it's a good curve, thats all that matters. Some babies look chubby and some look skinny even babies that weigh the same. I get told my daughter is "big" for her age by strangers and she only wieghs 8.7kg at 11 months.

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