I wish I had a choice...

Vanessa - posted on 01/09/2013 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I know that the issue of vaccines has been brought up so many times. Many of us have very strong opinions, many of us are still on the fence, and many of us turn a blind eye.

I have a soon to be 4 year old daughter and a 16 month old son. When I was pregnant with my son, I worried myself sick over vaccines. I did so much research, and yes, at times I was scared, and my husband had to work to ground me. I read something one time that said "I believe one day we will look at vaccines like we do cigarettes today. The people making the money are pushing them saying they are perfectly safe, and denying they cause any harmful side effects". I really would hate for that to be the case. It is the mystery, the unknown, the mistrust that I hate so much and that bothers me so much.

My son was due to get the MMR 2 weeks ago and I hemmed and hawed because he had a fever of 101.2. Nothing crazy, but I decided to hold it off. He is up to date with his vaccines. I am NOT against vaccinating, I know that the intent is to protect our children and I would hate for anything devastating to happen, but I think that the current vaccine schedule is a little over the top. When I was first pregnant with my daughter is 2009, I had no clue about how many vaccines they received! I did no research whatsoever. When the nurse asked me if I wanted her to receive the Hep B vaccine when she was just 2 days old I thought to myself "Hep. B? Why on earth would a little baby need a Hep B vaccine? Babies aren't having sex or using needles!" To this day, I still do not understand it!!!
I live in MA which has a very strict vaccination schedule. I'd basically have to write something saying my religious beliefs prohibited my baby from receiving vaccines. It's one extreme or the other! I don't not want vaccines- but I don't want all the ones that they are required to have by law. Now MA is requiring 12 year old girls to get the HPV vaccine- I'm sorry, but as a mother, can't I opt out? Why don't we have the choice? It drives me nuts!!! If the flu shot becomes mandatory I swear to God I"m going to go nuts.

I just wish that there was a "baseline" of immunizations that were required, and for other vaccinations let it be a choice to parents if and when to vaccinate. I also wish that there were different schedules that parents could choose from. Since so many parents feel more comfortable delaying vaccines why doesn't the CDC come up with one specific to those parents to put their minds at ease? Why this all or nothing crap? Maybe I just feel trapped and suffocated because I live in such a strict state, I'm not sure.

I know I'm probably coming across as living in a happy little bubble with no clue, but I just wish that parents had more power with this issue. I want to vaccinate- but I'm sorry, I don't want to vaccinate against every disease known to man (I know that's not the case, but who knows if it will be someday. I feel like that list is getting longer...)

Thoughts?

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Vanessa - posted on 01/11/2013

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If you had read the article, vs. glanced at it, you would see that the article was not just focused on mercury. I understand what you are saying (though thermisol is still in the flu vaccine- and it trace amounts in others [you can look up how much on the CDC website]... plus they put aluminum in them now). The article was saying that pollution may have a correlation, combined with additional metals from the environment (including vaccines).

Anyways, my initial post was not about the causes of autism. It was about the mystery and the unknown of vaccines that makes me apprehensive, and the fact that I am not given choices as a parent.

Brittany- that is interesting to know, I didn't know that certain vaccines had to be given together. I guess what it comes down to is that I wish there was an alternative schedule made by the CDC and all the other people that know things like this- except with vaccines spread out over more time- maybe 5 years instead of 4 years for example- for apprehensive moms like me.

Jodi - posted on 01/09/2013

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Except that the article you just presented goes back to the old mercury poisoning thing, and there is no longer mercury in childhood vaccines. Hasn't been for at least 12 years. It's an irrelevant debate.

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I pick and choose. I chose to have my son get his chicken pox vaccine before his MMR. He was having a birthday party that night and I didn't want him miserable from 2 live vaccines. Chicken pox was showing signs of a come back in our area. It is often worse for boys.

One reason why there is the vaccine schedule is so that the body can process the vaccine and become immune while still in a stage where they are unlikely to catch the actual illness. MMR and Chicken Pox are live vaccines, so are some Polio. Those HAVE to be taken either together or be separated by at least 28 days. Otherwise you could cause one of them to not work properly.

Vanessa - posted on 01/09/2013

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Hmmm... that's really interesting to me- but I'd feel better about it if I were in the bottom half somewhere, too! LOL. I'll have to find more data and see if there are any correlations- not that I have time for that nor do I think anyone will care, sadly. Sigh. Thank you for your replies =)

Vanessa - posted on 01/09/2013

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I totally get the apprehension that you can't shake.. can't really explain it- just not a good feeling. Thanks for sharing your vaccination schedule, it's simple and puts your mind at ease! The only reason I asked about your state is because I stumbled across this and was curious http://vaxtruth.org/2012/04/when-1-in-88...
Not sure if I buy into the whole autism thing- but seeing as though MA has such strict schedules and it's towards the top of the list it woud be interesting to see if there is a correlation, as opposed to states that offer more flexibility.

Vanessa - posted on 01/09/2013

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Interesting to know, Dove. They really leave us with very little options. There is a doctor about 16 miles away from my hometown that supposedly allows more flexibility, but it's a tough call- it takes about 40 minutes to get there and back and we are at the doctor's quite often, and I'm not even sure how MUCH flexibility he offers. What was your modified schedule like? May I ask which state you live in? My little guy is supposed to get his MMR vaccine next Thursday- and I know I'm going to feel guilty and sick to my stomach as I watch him get poked, again.

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