Im 20 wit a toddler and a baby,but im not a single mom wat can me and my boyfriend do ta make our toddler feel thats hes not left out because of his new lil brother?


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Misty - posted on 04/19/2009




I agree with Kendrell Sibley... I only have one too and I would recommend to include him as much as possible and remind him he is loved. I also like the idea of taking him out on special trips for mommy son time.

Laura - posted on 04/19/2009




try and let him feel included like letting him get a nappy or if u are bottle feeding maybe let him hold the bottle? counting with you when u make up feeds my eldest two are 19 months apart and he used to help me burp her when she was a baby and they both done the same sort of thing when i had number 3! Also make sure you have plenty of cuddles with him and your boyfriend as well.

Kendrell - posted on 04/18/2009




well rae u kno i only have one but my suggestion would be pick a day for u and your toddler to go and have a mom and son day and let hubby keep the little one. and just remind him that he is loved and u need his help with his little brother.

Suzanne - posted on 04/09/2009




what I did when I was pregnant with my second child was include my first born in a lot of the decisions like color of baby room, thinking of names, etc.  Then I let my daughter help me make a big girl room, so that she got something exciting and new. After my second daughter arrived I encouraged her to help with the baby, sing to her rock her, and I always referred to the baby as your baby when I talked to my daughter.  I never had any jealousy issues, and my girls are the bet of friends.  Hope this is helpful


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When my baby girl was born in July I was worried about my son feeling left out as well. I just tried very hard to include him in the things I was doing with the baby like giving baths and changing diapers. I think it really helped him feel proud to be a big brother. I also made sure that I still spent some time every day focusing on just him for a little while. That way he would know he was still special to me. I really think that helped.

Deborah - posted on 04/09/2009




i have a 3 year old and new baby as well so i understand i try to include my son (the 3 year old) in as much as i can with the baby he likes the role of the big brother and the "responsibilities' that come with it he will get a new diaper for me to change her or bring my husband the bottle after i make it we also will spend a little time just the two of us at the end of the day, even if its just for a 20 minutes walk

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