im a single mom....

Angela - posted on 04/12/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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and love my lil girl so much but im starting to lose hope that i can give her the life she deserves doing eveything alone and im starting to get so lonely that i cry and i snap at her when she is just being a normal toddler and get into trouble and i dont wanna get mad at her for doing what she should is there any coping that i can do about being so lonely and having no one who understands what is going on becuz most of my friends dont have any kids any ideas?

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Ashley - posted on 04/12/2009

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Being a single mother was the toughest job I ever had. Remember those first few nights when you first brought her home as a newborn? I still can remember those sleepless nights, all alone...but look how far you have come! Your little girl is precious and you reaching out means you do truly care about her. I also found joining a play group or a "mommy and me" class really does wonders!! If you have a local one through a rec center or community center it tends to be a little cheaper. And please please keep your chin up. I never thought I would have time to date, let alone be able to find the man of my dreams, but I did meet someone who took on my daughter as his own and swept her and I off our feet!!!! Hang in there and def. reach out again if you need to talk!

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JESSICA - posted on 10/07/2012

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gIRL YOUR NOT ALONE I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM BUT NOW IAM ALONE WITH TWO KIDS!!!A BOY AND A GIRL .....U GOT TO DO SOMETHING THAT INTERESTS YOU ......I LIKE TO DANCE SO THAT HELPS ME ...

Hayley - posted on 04/13/2009

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I know how you feel, i was a single mum for about 3 1/2 years and its really not easy and even now when i get fed up i snap at my son and he might not have done anything wrong. see if someone can take her off your hands for an hour or so if you get stressed out, or join a group where you can meet others and let your little girl play and make friends.



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Adelle - posted on 04/13/2009

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I absolutely agree with everything the other moms have said!  I have been a single mom for 4 years.  I don't think gettting frustrated and feeling overwhelmed are things that are exclusive to just single moms.... all of us moms go through those feelings.  I know the most important thing I can do for my daughter is to keep my chin up and be happy and supportive for her.  Be the strong and beautiful woman that you want your daughter to be and she will follow.  Having a GOOD partner to help you raise your daughter is wonderful but that will come in time.  Make sure you are smiling first and the rest will fall in line.

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Im very sorry for what you are going through...Im actually going through that exact same thing. My husband is at work all week and only gets to come home on the weekends. Its been very hard. I feel like iam a single mom most of the time. And most days I feel like I just want to give up on life..But just rememeber You are all your daughter has. Try and Stay as relaxed as possible...Spend the day with her first..then take out some mommy time. Take A bath or read a good book. Or just remember that Iam always here for you to talk to you. If you need the help

Erin - posted on 04/12/2009

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If you need help talk to someone either people on here or see a counselor. It will get better. Remember when you get angry it is not her fault and you are not alone you always have your lil girl. Have you went and talked to your family doctor or your ob you may need a mild anti depressant? You can give her the life she needs just love her and be there for her and be thankful you have her she will change your life just give it time. Take care and keep your head up.

Nicole - posted on 04/12/2009

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I had this same problem while I was a single parent. It was really really hard. And even though my friends had kids too, it seemed like no one understood. I would suggest trying to get some time to yourself once in awhile. Maybe taking her to daycare for a couple of hours if you can. Even if its just once a week, it will do wonders. And if that doesn't seem to help at all, I would suggest talking to your doctor about getting on some anti-anxiety medication. I did, and it did wonders for me. I didn't realize I was sooo stressed out until I got on a low dose of medication and I finally felt normal again. And my kids didn't drive me nearly as insane!!

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