im having a legal problem can someone help me

Miyanaga - posted on 01/01/2013 ( 34 moms have responded )

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I have two kidos my daughter is four and my son is two .i was 18when i gave birth to my oldest but when she was two months i was trying to give her a bath by myself and i didnt realize the water was hot she had second degree burn on both her feet.so i went to jail for a year because my own mom turned against me told the judge i burned my daughter to get back at her see im not that kind of person to hurt my own flesh and blood.so two years later i had my son hes in foster care because of my child abuse neglect charge.now im pregnant for my third time what can i do to keep my baby with me and out of the system like my son my daughter is with my mom .so can someone give me good advise please i love my babies to death i need help bad

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Deb - posted on 01/07/2013

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Obviously you don't truly want help. My prays go out for your children that they make it through life and become outstanding citizens, As for you, you are number four on the list of importance right now. Each time you became pregnant you made a choice that your life isn't as important as theirs. In your heart you know it's true. You are a righteous individual who clearly doesn't want help unfortunately. When you decide to be the mother and woman you should be give up throes kids, it's in their best interest, no one really cares about you at this point.

Deb - posted on 01/06/2013

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Without judgement. What about putting them up for an open adoption where you could still be in their lives. Then watch how mothering is done by families who are prepared and ready, and in ten years or so try again. Your very young and no one wants the best for your children other than you and those parents trying so hard to adopt. It's only an idea but I think truthfully the kids would turn out much better with security and you could still be involved.

Jodi - posted on 01/01/2013

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Not to mention your new baby daddy is a drunk....seriously, that's not ok.

Mommy - posted on 01/07/2013

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Your past is important when it comes to the welfare of children. And next time you don't want people in your business, don't ask for advice in an online forum.

Jodi - posted on 01/01/2013

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Get out. Sorry, but no-one can help him until he helps himself. Don't try to convince yourself he can help. If he is "throwing shit" because he is drunk and can't control his temper, he should not be around you or the baby. In fact, if he is around, it will NOT help your case.

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Miyanaga - posted on 01/07/2013

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I dont like people critisizing me or judging me what i.do is my life if i want more kids thats on me and my husband i really dont need all ur help u aint helping me at all by judging me on my past that case is closed stop judging people when they need help

Miyanaga - posted on 01/07/2013

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Shut the fuck up u dont know me or my kids u cant critizise me u aint any better than me so talk about yourself first

Miyanaga - posted on 01/07/2013

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Man fuck all yall yall wasnt there when it happened you aint got no right to judge me u aint god judge yourself before u judge me and my husband suck a dick mind your own business bitches

Mommy - posted on 01/07/2013

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There is so much missing from this story! If this was truly an accident that happened 3 years ago there would have been attempts at reunification by now. And you were in jail for 3 months, then out for 3, then back in for 6? What did you do to get yourself back in jail? The only one I feel for right now is those kids. And then you get pregnant AGAIN with a third child, knowing it will probably be taken by the system, with an abusive drunk as the father...I really have now words here.

Amber - posted on 01/07/2013

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Sounds like your making excuses for yourself and blaming others for your poor choices. Sounds like you have done nothing to better yourself or your situation except make excuses. Birth control is what u need and stop making babies you can't take care of until you can take care of your self. Don't put your business out there and then say u don't know me when you hear something you don't want to hear. Burning a baby with bath water is not an accident neither is getting pregnant 3 times. Grow up and take responsibility for your self and actions. Be thankful for the system that's taking care of your son and do what you were told to at least try to get back in his life.

Melissa - posted on 01/06/2013

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Since u have mental health problems I don't think it's best 4 u 2 keep the kids I know it's hard I have 2 and I won't give them up 4 the world but w/ the health problems u should stop havin babies go live w/ your mom and co parent w/ her I hope it all works out 4 u God bless u and be careful next time pay very close attention

Jodi - posted on 01/06/2013

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Deb's idea is a very realistic and workable one. I think, given the circumstances, it is one you should think about.

Stephanie - posted on 01/04/2013

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omg... im a single mother of 2 im only young, but it would not take a genius to figure out to test bath water even my 6 year old would know... surely if you had your baby for 2 months you would know!! did you not bath your baby for 2 months, if you were struggling you should of asked for help, your health visitor would of stepped in!!

Miyanaga - posted on 01/04/2013

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You dont know me i dont hurt bab ies for entertainment accidents happen u.dont have the right to judge me .i black out alot when im stressed because i have so much brain damage i have mental health problems

Ashley - posted on 01/04/2013

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i was 16 when i got pregnant the first time. my mother was not around much growing up either. she lived pretty much at work and bars. but i am still a great mother. im completely differant than my mom was. so that is no excuse for what you did. i wasnt ready to be a mom either, but as soon as i found out i was pregnant, i knew i loved my baby and would never do anything to harm him. it's called motherly instict. aslo, when you have ur baby, they show u how to do a bath, and talk about the water temperature. if you knew you couldnt do it, then you should have asked for help, or gone to parenting classes back then.

Miyanaga - posted on 01/03/2013

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But susan how do i open the case back up if my mom has a straining order against me since 2009 i dont know were my mom lives i havnt heard from her in 5years she dont know were i live she dont want me to see my daughter she dont even tell my daughter nice things about me shes always wanted to be my daughters mom i would tell her ur not her mom i am my mom would be mad for a whole week yeah i went through post partum deppression because my daughter was the first then my son two years later now my son is in foster care i dont even know how hes doing cause i just got out of prison in september 6th i did 3months in and three months out then six months in but if i have my kids i wouldnt even get in trouble there all i have besides my feance he knows my case he never judged me at all hes trying to make my life happier but without my babies im lost i give up on everything im lost without my kids there all i want now im pregnant a third time i feel like if i lose this baby im really gonna give up on life and try to kill myself because i dont want my babies in the system or with people they dont know because now a days people are killing babies and there selves i dont want my babies going through that

Susan - posted on 01/03/2013

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As a legal person I would reopen all cases. Your mother only wanted your kids since she could not have you. Mothers love is best for a child was dumb mistake but your child paid for it and your mother stole your child. Reopen. Call Legal Aid in your State for help.
Susan

Jodi - posted on 01/01/2013

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Also, have you considered seeking supervised visitation with your other two children? If you can prove responsible with a supervised visitation schedule with the children you have, it will be in your favour. And for goodness sake, get rid of the drunk, and do your parenting and anger management course. If you've been ordered for anger management, I assume there is a reason, and it has something to do with the charges in the first place.

Miyanaga - posted on 01/01/2013

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I dont know what prioritys are.i want to be a good mother to my kids and to get a job and to successfully finish my parole.yes i want my bab ies back im unhappy without my kids in my life i will prove it to the state the judge my parole officer too.

Miyanaga - posted on 01/01/2013

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I know but Im trying to help him but i get mad at him when he drinks then he starts throwing shit

Miyanaga - posted on 01/01/2013

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I know but Im trying to help him but i get mad at him when he drinks then he starts throwing shit

Miyanaga - posted on 01/01/2013

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I know but Im trying to help him but i get mad at him when he drinks then he starts throwing shit

Miyanaga - posted on 01/01/2013

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Both of my kids have seperate fathers and there not involved in my kids life this ba y father is very involved and hes very helpful sometimes but when he gets drunk he says hurtful shit to me but when hes sober hes very sweet but he gets angry quickly like i do.

Miyanaga - posted on 01/01/2013

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It wasnt the bathtub it was the sink it was an accident i never knew how to be a mother at 18and i barely had my mom growing up she never taught me anything about being a mom so young no i dont have a lawyer nor a social service caseworker no body wants to help me im trying to find a job that takes felons and im resurching on parenting classes and anger management thats was court orderd by my judge in 2009e

Ashley - posted on 01/01/2013

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i have to agree with dove on this one. i have 3 boys, and a stepdaughter, and i have always double checked there bath water before putting them in. there has to be more to this story. i also take extemely hot showers, with hardly any cold water running and i have never been burnt, let alone a second degree burn, so i dont really see how the bath water did that.

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