im thinking of having a home birth! but would like to know know other peoples opinion's on it?

Keelie - posted on 10/19/2012 ( 14 moms have responded )




I would like to have a home birth but I'm scared that if something was to happen I might not get to the hospital In time or when do I call for a midwife? so before I decide I would like others peoples views and experiences of a home birth


Mary - posted on 10/19/2012




I would recommend reading this book: Five Standards for Safe Childbearing by David Stewart, Ph.D. It has a lot of research presented for the safety of homebirths in the chapters on Homebirth and Skillful Midwifery. One important thing to consider is that a large number of complications are caused by being in the hospital and under the care of a surgeon in the first place. At home with a good midwife, things happen naturally, and do not usually go badly.

In response to maheen's question, if there's a complication, then what?, that is why you would want a highly trained midwife assisting your birth. If you find a good midwife, you can discuss with her the issue of what will happen if there is a complication. They are trained to see the warning signs, and get you to the hospital in time.

As for waiting for an ambulance in the case of a complication, you shouldn't need to. A competent midwife should carry things like oxygen for the ride to the hospital, and it would be much better to ride to the hospital with your midwife than with paramedics who are not as specifically trained in birth.

Do a web search for midwife interview questions, and interview more than one midwife if they are available. You can get a pretty good idea of how their birth philosophies suit you, and of their training and skill, by their answers to the questions suggested on the lists you'll find. You'll also learn a lot about birth in the process of asking the questions and hearing the answers from more than one midwife.

I had two attempts at a homebirth. With the first, we transferred to a hospital for a c-section for fetal distress. Baby was fine, because my midwife knew what to do to keep us stable on the way to the hospital. With the second, we had a beautiful homebirth. Baby was fine, and I was absolutely thrilled and amazed (and reeeally glad to just be at home, and not have to be in the hospital after the birth!).

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Carissa - posted on 06/01/2013




I have never had a baby in a hospital and was satisfied with all my births except for the one that happened in a birth center (my first). It is obvious when to call the midwife, you'll know when you wake up in labor! With my twins I woke up with bloody show 10CM dilated! so I called her up and she called the other midwives, my poor midwife didn't even make it til the second one came but the other three did, she had been excited for this twin birth since she hadn't had one before. Also problems in childbirth rarely occur out of the blue a competent midwife will know when a transfer is necessary before a problem arises. Do your research and hire a midwife who knows what shes doing, typically a midwife who does the least amount possible is the best bet. The first midwives I hadwere really more like OB's always trying to but in and bother me. My second midwife never even did cervical checks unless requested she said that having things shoved inside a vagina was not helpful in achieving a birth. Good luck!!

Miri - posted on 11/17/2012




Hi, Keelie! I had my 4-year-old son, Carmine, and my b/g twins Otto and Chiara who were born this Sept. at home. I was 17 when I had Carmine; I was very uncomfortable being touched by a Dr., and I had very bad anxiety, and thought all the hassle that would be going on at the Hospital would make my anxiety worse, and that's why I opted for a home birth. I had a very pleasant experience and was able to make it through them without so much as an aspirin.

Both times I didn't have my Dr. or a midwife present. I was scared that something would go wrong, but I had frequent scans, and appointments every 2 weeks from my 7th month on, and being able to know so often that everything was alright really helped me.

Being at home helped keep my calm, being able to cut off the lights, move around and lay however I wanted/needed realy helped my tolerate my contractions. Though, the best thing was being in a faimilar place, with familiar people, and not in the loudm busy and brought hospital with a bunch of strange people.

I'm 100% for natural births and home births if possible. Definitely start talking to your Dr. and looking for a midwife if you want one. As long as you don't have any risks or complications, a home birth should be a really good experience for you. :)

Delia - posted on 11/16/2012




The most important aspect of having a home birth is being absolutely sure you have a midwife who is well trained, well experienced and who has a great reputation! Ask lots of questions and check her out! Labor and Delivery nurses can be good resources - if they'll talk. I remember when BOTH myself and another Labor and Delivery nurse were pregnant - and planning home births with the same Certified Nurse Midwife. It made for interesting conversations when our patients would ask "so, are you going to have your baby here (in the hospital)?" and both of us would reply "No, I'm going to have my baby at home with a Nurse Midwife". I felt like saying "Hell no!" but that would not have been politically correct.....

Erica - posted on 10/28/2012




I had a hospital birth with my first and it was traumatic with too many unnecessary interventions imho. We've started researching home births and midwives for any future pregnancy. Before our son was born. I desperately wanted a midwife and home birth. But my husband was scared of the "what if's", so I gave in to his wishes. Now he knows better. I have previously assisted in 5 other births prior to my own. 2 home births for my own mother, 2 home births for one of her friends, and my best friend's hospital birth for her daughter (she labored so quickly , she made birth look easy, lol). For the 4 home births, they were so beautiful and peaceful getting to be surrounded by family and those who love you most and are praying for you. That's what I want. So, do your research, pray about it. And do which ever you feel more at peace with . :-)

Callie - posted on 10/28/2012




I attempted a homebirth with my 2nd child (1st was planned hospital birth center and I was treated HORRIBLY). I flip flopped on my decision but ultimately started seeing a midwife at about 28 week. My OB that I had been seeing does back-up for the local midwives. My son got wedged on my hip after my water broke (he was sunny side up and trying to turn) and my cervix started to swell. After trying a few things my midwife transferred me to the hospital because she wanted me to have an epidural so the OB could manual assist in turning my son. Even though I had to transfer I loved laboring at home and having my midwife with me (don't get me wrong my OB is great) but I will be trying for a homebirth with the next baby too with blessings and encouragement from my OB. Just find a great midwife and they will be able to tell you when they want you to call them, what kind of medical equipment they carry, and their procedure on transferring to the hospital. My midwife and her partner midwife actually own a birth center (not affiliated with a hospital) which is just a small house that is used for birthing that is located about a block from one of the local hospitals. Something like that might be an option that might make you more comfortable.

Morgan - posted on 10/26/2012




I had a home birth/water birth 7 weeks ago with my daughter :) It was the most memorable births I have ever had (4th baby)..if I had the choice I would have done it with all my children!. There were no complication and I had a fabulous midwife. I did my research and felt I made the best choice for my daughter and I. good luck with your decision :)

Brenda - posted on 10/26/2012




I've had two homebirths and would not have it any other way! That said, you should only consider it if you are considered low risk, are eating and exercising and making good conscious decisions about your health. The biggest question you will hear is "what if there's a complication?!" Well, if there's a complication you transfer to the hospital- it's that simple.

Just find a midwife you can trust and don't be afraid to keep looking until you find the one that you feel a connection with.

Jenni - posted on 10/20/2012




If you are scared about it, see if there is a midwife care center near you. I am going to one that provides normal well women care as well as maternity. The birthing rooms are set up just like bedrooms, so you feel comfortable, and you can still do water births too. It's run by midwives, but the are partnered with a nearby hospital so that if anything does come up, I can be seamlessly transferred.

If this isn't an option for you, then I would do as pp said and just really talk with your midwife about any concerns. And don't let anyone discourage you from doing what is best for you and your baby.

Firebird - posted on 10/20/2012




I would love to have a home birth, but with the nearest hospital an hour and a half away, it just doesn't seem like a logical option for me. Just in case. Definitely start looking for a midwife now. Interview as many as you can and find a highly trained and experienced one that you really connect with. Someone who's really on the same page as you are. Don't let anyone scare you, most "statistics" that they'll use are made up and completely false. Do as much research as you can so you can make the best informed decisions possible. Best of luck to you!!

Keelie - posted on 10/20/2012




Thank you for your replies! This is my 4th pregnancy now, my last 3 births was hospital births!...with my first I needed forceps, but my 2nd and 3rd was both ealy and very easy.. This is 1 of the reason I was considering a home birth and a few of my friends know people who have had them and they said it was a great experiance, but my worries is there is always a first time for things going wrong.!!... Reaing the replies I can see a difference of oppinions but like some of you have said about people you know there experiances was great,

Ashley - posted on 10/19/2012




I have had several friends who highly recommend home births. Typically this is only an option when you haven't had any health issues or complications during the pregnancy. Finding a midwife is a huge thing that you need to do when considering this. My friends had a great midwife who explained everything to them, let them know what to expect and let them know to call her anytime. They really had a great experience with her because they were able to have their appointments last an hour, they got a much more personalized experience with a midwife than with an OBGYN. Most people see having a home birth as a better option because they can control their environment, less likely to have drugs used on them, and less likely to have unnecessary procedures done that they aren't comfortable with. Also if you do home birthing, think about renting a birthing tub. Many of the mothers I know found this quite useful...

Personally I prefer being surrounded by medical professionals. I like knowing that if something goes wrong that I won't have to wait for an ambulance and possibly lose my child during that time. My OB is the same this time around as I had with my first so I know what to expect and I know she is really good. I trust her and the staff that she works with and I like the hospital they work at as well. I am comfortable with the hospitals policies and how they handle deliveries. My only concern with a hospital is that many doctors choose unnecessary procedures and perform Csections more often than are necessary. If you find a doctor that is not known for doing these things, or doing things you don't want, then you can have a great experience with hospital birthing too.

I wish you the best of luck with your choice. Do some research on both, and do what makes you the most comfortable.

Melissa - posted on 10/19/2012




I have known quite a few people who have had home births (recently too) and have had great experiences and have had multiple home births. I had both mine in the hospital so I can't give any personal experience on it. My first I was in labor for 17 hours and then had to have a c-section, he never dropped and I hadn't progress at all for the last 12 hours of the labor and then second ended up being a schedule c-section because I still hadn't gone into labor and there were no signs of going anytime soon at my 40 week check up and I was measuring really big. But it can be a very successful rewarding experience, and from what I hear the women I know who have done home births have a much easier time with recovery. It's something you have to really look into and see what will be best for you. Finding a good midwife is really important too. I would recommend looking into a few midwives you would consider and make an appt just to talk to them about your options. Then you can see from there if it looks like a good fit for you.

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