In-Laws & Birthday

Raechel - posted on 07/08/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My husband and I met my senior year in high school, where I had gotten pregnant and had our first baby. He joined the Marine Corps and we got married a year later. He is now out of the military and we have moved back home. We have had two more children together. My oldest is turning five, and it's his first birthday we've had home in four years. His parents don't like me (or the choices my husband has made in his life) because of things I did in the past when I was in highschool. His father is also very, very, very, very old school and thinks that a woman has a certain place in a household. My husband and I are very new age and believe a marriage is a team... not I pay the bills so you do what I say. Anyway, his parents always seem to judge us and cause drama when they are around, so we don't want to include them. How should we respond when asking about our son's birthday?

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Raechel - posted on 07/11/2009

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Well, my husband's father holds onto everything. He can be very vindictive that way. That man just has a lot of issues. He is not the type of guy to change for the people he loves. You wither love him or leave him. My husband does take a stand with his parents. That's why they don't really have a relationship with my children b/c of all the tension. Right now it looks like the party is going to include just my family. Thanks for all your advice.

User - posted on 07/09/2009

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I wouldnt envite them. Its my clild's bday and I dont want any tension there. Plus if anyone hates me I would never trust them around my child. Thats just my opinion.

Lynne - posted on 07/08/2009

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That's a hard situation to handle because you don't want feelings to become hurt and you don't want to give anyone a reason not to like you. What you did in your past is the past. I say don't give give them a reason invite em stay away and be humble girl

Jessica - posted on 07/08/2009

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Outside interference is never a good thing. I've been to that place before with my in-laws. Does your Husband take an active role in talking to his parents? You can't change people but you can stand your ground. You all have a family of your own and no one else should be passing judgment. If they are close with your children it's hard to narrow that line but ultimately you have to stand up and let them know it's your family and your in control.

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