is it attention or something worse?

Tammy - posted on 06/10/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My son has been acting up at daycare so much that he has had to leave everyday for the last week and 1/2, up until then he was kind, helpful and gentle, now it's like he forgot how to be this kind of person, nothing new has changed at home, however for the last year at daycare there has been a huge turnover in teachers, at first this is what I thought the reason was for his behavior is that he doesn't like all these changes, but now i'm not sure because his behavior has now started at home, purposly aggrivating his sister, he does things he was told not to do the minute we turn our backs and we ask him why, all he says is idk, any thoughts or suggestions????

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Tammy - posted on 06/10/2009

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Thank you all!!! Your inputs are very helpful, my daughter has ADHD but she did not have these problems, her biggest thing was that everything they did, did not interest her, all she wanted to do was color, and if that was not in the agenda she would throw a temper tantrum......i will look into all of your suggestions, again thank you!!!!

Devon - posted on 06/10/2009

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do you see if he has any focusing problems at all weather it would be at school or at home?? if so, i would get him checked to see if he has add or adhd. i have twin daughters and when they were in daycare, they started showing signs of having focusing problems on top of the stuff your son has at the moment. there daycare set this thing up where 3 days out of the week they were bused to a different daycare for a couple of hours to get help with therapist's. you should check with your daycare to see if they have anything like that. it was an intermediate unit program. my one daughter had a problem with yelling at teachers, kicking, saying the kill word, not listening. some of the problem was the way the teachers talked to her. if they talked to her in a mean voice she would get mean back to them. but at the other daycare i had no behavior problems with her. that could be another reason for your son's behavior, if the teachers aren't talking to him in a certain voice. my kids one therapist did test on them and it came back that they were in a hight percent of having adhd. they are almost done kindergarten now and i am waiting for the results from there doctor to see if they have it or not. so i would take that into consideration.good luck:)

Tammy - posted on 06/10/2009

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he had his ears checked along with a hearing evaluation three weeks ago, everything came back normal!

Tammy - posted on 06/10/2009

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My son is five and my daughter is 7, these changes like i've said before have been going on for the last or so, my daughter seems to be okay with it all, and she is in a different age group, my son's class has mostly boys, and it's like they are always saying it's him, we thought about it being another boy instigating, but now he's having the same behaviors at home, for instance one day at school he mooned the class, bare butt and all, another day he kicked another kid, another day he refused to go inside from being outside playing and they had to litterally pick him up and bring him in and they struggled with him all the way, another day he was told to lay down on the cot for nap time and he started jumping on it and on the extras which are stacked up and he was climbing on those(he could have seriously hurt himself), then on another day he another boy were spitting on the mirror and wiping it all over with their hands, and he his talking back telling the teachers they are not his mother and he doesnt have to listen to them, then they get me on the phone and i tell him he has to listen, make better choices,and start being good or he will no longer be allowed to go to that daycare again, he tells me he is sorry, and the teachers he is sorry but it's like the next day that all goes out the window. Me and his father are stumped on what to do, we have even carried the punishment at home........ugh!!!!!

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this may sound strange, but have you had his ears checked? My son had chronic ear infections but it took me a while to catch on because he wouldn't complain or pull on his ear or cry uncontrollably, he would just act up, he would be uncontrollable. They usually come with but not always light congestion stuffy or runny nose. and often with new teeth even the two year molars.

Sarah - posted on 06/10/2009

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its jus a phase i think or he might nt like it there cos of the changes if it carrys on it might b a thought 2 change his nursery i had 2 wiv my 3 yr old an hes much happyer hw old is he an his sis my kids r 1 3 5

Corinne - posted on 06/10/2009

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i wonder if its another kid in the daycare being a bully? perhaps the daycare isnt paying enough attention to the kids? could be a number of things! maybe you can work it out with the owners of the day care to "shadow" so you can observe what goes on in the day...without the teachers or kids knowing youre there? man, thats a toughy!! wish i could be more help! good luck!

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