Is it easy to be a stay at home mom?

Melissa - posted on 07/23/2010 ( 106 moms have responded )

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Yesterday and today, my husband and I have been debating the issue of being a stay at home mom. My husband is in the military and I am a certified childcare worker. We had our son a year ago now and I've spent the whole time with him at home.
My husband doesn't seem to understand why I'm tired by 6pm since I just stay at home with the baby, he thinks that being a stay at home mom is easy. So easy in fact, that if all parents could do it, they would.
Stay at home parents can eat,sleep,come and go as they please,ect...without having to answer to anyone.
In my opinion, being a stay at home parent is one of THE hardest jobs anyone could have but my husband doesn't see it this way. I would greatly appreciate other points of view on this subject. Am I wrong? Do I have the easiest job?

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Your not wrong. I think that your husband should have a day in your shoes while you go out and enjoy yourself. Hang in there.

I am not saying that it will get any better but it will eventually.



I am a stay at home mom of 16 month old Twin girls, and let me tell you it's not an easy job staying at home. Especially when you have a little one wanting your attention , running around after them and you basically have a 24/7 job. You have no sick days you don't have brakes, and not to mention the no adult interaction that you used to have at work.

I also longed for adult company, but I found this community center near my place that have baby play date groups for free, so it got me out of the house and I got to hang out with the moms to have discussions. I also go back to work every so often with the girls to visit and my co-workers love to see them.



Take it day by day and don't put to much pressure on yourself with house work. My motto right now and I tell my husband , is that I take it day by day and have your down time when your little one goes down for the night take time for yourself. House work can wait a little bit, it won't go anywhere.



Both me and my husband have agreed that I stay at home until the girls are old enough to go to kindergarden because daycare here is really expensive especially when you have twins, it's over 2 grand a month and it wouldn't be worth me going back to work right now because I would basically be going back to work for nothing. Plus I wouldn't change being a stay at home mom right now, yes it has it's disadvantages and ups and downs but just to watch and see there developments and being around them makes it that much better for me. Yes I am tired by the end of the night and don't feel like doing anything. I would go back to work if I would get a ridicules amount of money that I would be able to cover for daycare. I wouldn't trade it for the world, I get to enjoy my girls. Plus I love to spend time with them just to be with them every day and the pros out way the cons for me.



He also thought that it's a breeze being a stay at home mom, until I had a day out and then he switched his mind pretty quickly.

Like I said have your husband take care of your little one for a full day, and you go out and enjoy yourself (don't feel guilty about it)



You are a great mom (everyone here is a great mom)



Enjoy your little one, cause next thing you know it, it's off to college and on to there own life.



Not every mom are meant to be a stay at home moms.



We stay at home mom do not have the easiest job but we have one of the most important job in the whole world taking care of our little ones. I wouldn't also swap being a stay at home mom for the world.

Karmi - posted on 07/26/2010

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I am a stay at home mom and it is hard. I do love all the time I get to spend with my son, but it can be hard. Of course you have someone to answer to, and that is your child as well as you husband because you want to keep the house clean and everything organized for him also. I think there are so many moms out there that would love to be stay at home moms also, but it is so frustrating sometimes. And there is one thing as having a break away from everything and having a break during your childs nap. You can't get up and hit the mall or go out to lunch with the girls, you have a baby to watch after also. It is very hard and I feel your pain and frustration. My dad was in the military also, so I know how hard headed some men can be :) lol. Good luck though! By the way a lot of towns have playdate groups you can look up online to atleast you and the baby can get out and have a little fun together, good luck!

Morgan - posted on 07/26/2010

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I am now what you would could a WAHM (work at home). I started my company in May. Before that I was just a stay at home mom. It was one of the hardest jobs I've ever held. It's exhausting both mentally and physically. My daughter is 16 months old now and I swear the older she gets the harder it is to stay at home. So I don't think you're wrong. No you don't have the easiest job. If he can't see this why don't you plan a day trip with some friends or family. Go out all day. Leave before the baby wakes up. Let him take care of your son for the entire time. He'll see things in a different light.

Michelle - posted on 07/26/2010

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NO you are most certainly not wrong. It is the hardest job ever. I stayed at home with my son for the first 2 years of his life. I got so depressed I started having anxiety issues. I had no adult interaction at all. It is very hard and frustrating. I commend any person man or woman that can be a stay at home parent. Its easier for me now because my son is 5 and he can pretty much entertain himself. Don't get me wrong we play games and stuff together but he is not as needy as a toddler. I lost my job 2 years ago and have not been able to find another one. I am praying that after this baby gets here I can find a job and get back on the wagon. I have no intentions what so ever of staying home with her. I do wish you luck and hope that you and your husband can come to some sort of agreement. Maybe when he has a leave or something you can leave your kid with him all day long for a few days and let him do what you do all day and see just how "EASY" it realy is.

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I was a stay at home mum for several years. It is such a hard job! I have no problems with a hard job if it's stimulating, but being with kids is not a stimulating job! So much boring, repetitive work - just as well I've never had high housekeeping standards! Clean up one mess, discover someone else has pulled the cat's tail, feed a toddler who has chosen THIS day to discover she doesn't like what she'd happily eaten previously, feed the baby (not the peaceful process it used to be now there's a toddler running round!) , said toddler (who I thought was toilet trained produces a messy poo, clean that up, discover that the baby has fallen to sleep just as it's time to collect the oldest from kindergarten.....I'm sure you all know the drill!

Lousy pay, terrible working conditions, on-call 24/7, no leave, OH&S issues, no union! Come to think of it, who would a union rep negotiate with?

There were times I was desperate for adult company, times when I just wanted to go to the loo - alone! Times when I wanted to buy some underwear FOR MYSELF that wasn't held up by safety pins, instead of kids' clothes...

I have vivid recollections of swearing at people who asked me what I'd been doing all day!

But I wouldn't have swapped it for the world!

Rachel - posted on 07/26/2010

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You husband is not correct. When my husband and I had our first child last year we always knew I would stay at home with our children. I dont think he expected how tired and also talkative I would be when he got home. I worked before I had our daughter and this is MUCH harder than working. At work I got breaks, lunch, vacation, etc... Now I dont get anything...LOL However, I would trade ALL that and more to stay at home. My husband realized that it is a lot harder to stay at home and take care of our daughter, cook, clean, etc... when I was away for a long weekend (sorta gone, all through the day atleast. my dad had a major heart attack and was in the hospital so I was only coming home at night.) He was EXHAUSTED and HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY to go back to work :) Anyways, maybe it would be a nice break for you to go somewhere for the full day (breakfast until your son is in bed) or overnight somewhere and have him watch your son. I think he will appreciate you more and what you do.

Luschka - posted on 07/26/2010

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Oh, and I don't believe that we're LUCKY to be able to be stay at home moms. I believe we've made different choices. To us, being home with our daughter as more important than going to restaurants, buying new clothes and make up and so on - we don't buy the things that I see other working moms buying. We made a choice to go without so that I could raise her.

And for someone who worked fro 14 years, that is HARD, but that was my CHOICE and had nothing to do with LUCK!

Luschka - posted on 07/26/2010

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No! I was a project manager before I became a mom, and this is way harder than that ever was! With that, I at least had days off! And sick leave!



The best thing I've ever done for myself is read What Mothers Do, especially when it looks like nothing READ IT! It'll revolutionise the way you see your role as mother. It's an AMAZING book.



Also, leave him at home with your child for two days. That'll change his tune

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have him stay with the baby for a lil bit, or even on his days off from work, have him there the ENTIRE time, hands on, my fiance cracked those days he has off, all i hear is "i don't know how you do it" lol

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I'm a SAHM and i have my days i will admit. And my fiance thinks its so incredibly easy til he had to watch him for about 5-6 hours while i had my first and only girls day in about 8 months lol. I remeber when i was still preggo, we made plans that after i graduate from school (in the far future) i would work while he would be a stay at home dad, haha those 5 hours sure changed his mind quick lol, ever sincethen i get thanked every night for all i do around the house and with the baby.
Let your husband have him for a few hours, he'll get the point.

Sicily - posted on 07/26/2010

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Being a stay at home mom is NOT!!! an easy job. not only do you have to care for your child at all times but you have to cook and clean and manage all house hold chores while having a baby to look after and you never get a break.

Marquita - posted on 07/26/2010

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I'm a military wife and stay at home mom also, and I totally know how easy it's not. And being that I'm prior active military I can say that our husbands have it way easy. What I did 2 prove a point 2 my husband was 2 take just one weekend off... It was the first time that he and our son had been left alone overnight with it just being them 2. And let me tell you I wasn't gone 5 hours before he was calling me for something. But in the end he really got 2 understand how much work taking care of a child all day sometimes with no help can be, and now he helps out a lot more and isn't quick 2 get upset if the house isn't as clean as WE would like it 2 be. So let your husband step in your shoes for a weekend and I'm sure he'll have a change of heart....

Lacee - posted on 07/26/2010

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Definitly not easy. I know how you feel. Constantly cleaning up after the baby. Cleaning the baby. Doing all the house work. I actually do much more around the house because i feel like my husband would think i'm lazy if it didn't get done. Not always fun but I want my son to remember fun times with me not being at a daycare.

Sarah - posted on 07/26/2010

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i dont think its easy being a mum at all. but i can understand from the other point of view. i use to hav this same disscusion with my other half till i started working part time. its not easy going to work then comeing home to look after the kids. i think its just as hard either way. but you certainly do not get to do what you want when you want.

Erin - posted on 07/26/2010

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Not the easiest, but the most rewarding =)
I thought the same thing as your husband- staying at home is a cake walk... For the 1st year of our sons life his Daddy stayed at home with him while I slaved away at work all day. We switched positions-he began working and I am now a stay at home mom.. Boy was I wrong about it being easy!!! You don't get breaks, nap times, or get to set your own schedule and you are mandated to be on call all hours... and It doesn't stop there. You still have to cook, clean, run errands, do laundry.... It never ends, but every night I fall asleep with a smile on my face sooo thankful that we are in a position for me to stay home with my little man.

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I find being a stay at home mom to be hard. We only have one car which because of the hours he works and the fact that he currently has two jobs it stays with my husband. I can't go anywhere. I get cabin fever like crazy. Thankfully we have a park right outside our appartment.

I would say that some days are easier then a job (especially a military one). However you are answering to someone... your child. You're on their schedule, you go where they want to, you have to cook what they can eat, which often means eating some of it yourself.

Then what about house work? Needless to say for me it isn't that bad I only have 1000 sq ft to clean, but if we had a large house just that would be a full time job with a LO. I'm vacuuming at least 3 times a week, not to mention all that laundry.

Anyway, I could see a military job being a lot harder then being a stay at home parent. I don't see it being the hardest job, but it is very demanding. Chasing after children is tiring, naptime is your lunch brake (for me literally).

Kelleigh - posted on 07/26/2010

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I disagree with your husband to, my husband thinks the same as your. but im at home with three children one is 4years one is 18 mouths and one is 10weeks and i have no time for anything i dont see frends i just look after the children and clean , by the time in dun its time for 4hours sleep if im lucky and the befor i know it its time to do it all agen so yes being a stay at home mum is not easy.

Misty - posted on 07/26/2010

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being a stay at home mom is the hardest job i've ever had, you have to reteach yourself patience, your on call 24/7, never have privacy, you DO answer to someone, your child!!! you schedule all events around your child, n it gets lonely, n stressful!! you do in fact have the hardest job ever!! being a parent in general is a hard job, but i feel its harder to stay home with them all day, it would be easier to go to work, get some adult interaction, come home for play time with your kids n then its bed time!! i kinda miss working full time, it made my time with my children more precious, not that time with my children arent precious now, its just more exhausting than it would be if i had a job outside of the home!! guys dont realise that as a stay at home parent, we are responsible for the cooking the cleaning, AND the children, its not easy, n its very exhausting!!

Krista - posted on 07/26/2010

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You are right! Being a SAHM is the hardest job out there. We don't get free time and alot of the time, we don't even get adult conversation because anyone who is a SAHM knows, it's all about the kids, all day everyday.

Danielle - posted on 07/26/2010

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I wouldn't say it is necessarily easy, but in my experience, as my son is almost 2, I find the stress is balancing out.

When my son was a baby I was completely overwhelmed with the housework and the fact that when he (my son) was upset he would just cry, and cry. My husband would work shift work and would never be home when he was suppose to be.
As my son is now older and more independent, it is easier to grab a clean load of laundry and get to work while he is playing on the floor, or do the dishes while he is eating his lunch.
My husband is also a really big help. He has never had the '30's housewife' mentality where the woman's work is at home, and has always pitched it.

Amy - posted on 07/26/2010

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You are not wrong! Being a stay at home parent is not an easy job. And when you have a baby to deal with it's not nearly as hard as when they start crawling or walking. My husband is a stay at home parent with our 2 year old toddler and he's always worn out from the day! Being a stay at home parent is just as hard as being a working parent. Make him take care of your child (with out your help) for a few days in a row and see how tired he gets!

Lindsey - posted on 07/26/2010

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i say staying at home is hard as i have got 4 children to deal with i would go to work if i could but i see it like tis i had these children so i should bring em up no child minder but me my partner helps out alot but i try to do it alone

Sadie - posted on 07/26/2010

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No you do NOT have the easiest job...my boyfriend is the same way!!! I have gotten so frustrated with him because he thinks its easy and he assumes all baby does is SLEEP. Are you kidding?!? He realized how hard it was when i finally left him to go out for a mom's night out because he never had him by himself for more than 2 hours. Ive been a stay at home mom more only 7 months now but its not easy and its VERY tiring, I mean juglging the cooking, cleaning and baby is ALOT of work! I think you should try to arrange to spend the whole day with your girlfriends or at a spa and let him tk baby ;)

Casandra - posted on 07/26/2010

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it's not an easy job at all and if the roles were reversed for awhile i'm quite certain his opinion would change. i love my children to death but being a stay home mom can be very stressful and unforfilling at times. i got a job just to keep my sanity! might sound crazy, but after being a stay at home mom for so long it was very frustrating especially if ur use to getting out working or just getting away for a couple hours kids free..... it's not easy at all, especially when u have more than 1 child!

Sarah - posted on 07/26/2010

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Nothing about having a baby is "easy" (aside from the ridiculous amounts of love you have for them). I'm at SAHM and I love it. It's hard work, I often don't get to shower til 2:00 or 3:00 (recently, though, I've been showering before I go to bed), I have to wait to go to the bathroom longer than I would have, I end up skipping meals, my house isn't as clean as i thought it would be because I'm constantly with my baby (he's 7 months old) and I hardly ever make dinner. I know most of this will change as he gets older and more independent - I'll have time to get things tidy and make a meal. As hard as it is, I wouldn't trade a moment of it.

Kyla - posted on 07/26/2010

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Not at all, being a stay at home mom can be exhausting and frustrating as well as the most rewarding job you will ever have. My son is almost a year old and I am a stay at home mom while my partner works.. Not only are you caring for your baby you are cooking, cleaning, doing laundry and all the other household chores. I am 25 years old and I have worked full time since high school and being a stay at home mom is the most exhausting job I have had in 8 years. But also the most rewarding. I love being at home with my son and not missing any of his first milestones.

Julie - posted on 07/26/2010

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It's not easy being ANY MOM!!! I'm a stay at home and it's definitely NOT easy. Your husband is SO wrong! I'm pretty sure ALL men would think the way he does. Stay at home parents cannot eat, sleep, come and go as the please,etc. We have to wake up whenever our babies wake us up; we have to find time to eat, cook, clean, shower, use the bathroom, dress, shop, talk on the phone, run errands...EVERYTHING. I just turned 22 years old so I'm adjusting to living a carefree life to living the life of a new Mom. I'd like to stay up til 2 AM and wake up at 11 AM. But being a stay at home Mom I have to go to bed by 11 PM the latest just so I have enough sleep when the baby wakes up anywhere from 6 AM to 7:30 AM. We always have to watch the baby, keep them entertained, bathe, diaper, feed...It's exhausting. If your husband was the stay at home Dad, he'd understand. My parents have a 1 year old and my Dad is the stay at home parent. He can't stand it. He'd rather work. He feels the same way all of us Moms do.

Christi - posted on 07/26/2010

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i couldn't have said it better martine.

i was so suprised to see some moms saying it was boring and they often found themselves sitting around... i'm sorry but if you are raising your kid properly, the only time you would have to sit around and be bored is if they are napping or with a babysitter. for me, i am always playing or teaching my son and when he naps i do housework. i also do laundry throughout the day, so i never find myself sitting around. and as far as it being boring, every day is a new experience with my son and i wouldn't trade the time i get to spend with him for the world.

Marty - posted on 07/26/2010

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Sure, it's easy in some ways, but you do just as much work at home as you would outside. You stick to one job everyday when your a working parent but so many unpredictable things can happen at home, and a baby (not sure how old yours is) is different everyday. Keep in mind also that in between that you have to squeeze in time for yourself to not go insane, time to clean, time to eat and shower, and any errands that need to be run with said kid.
Yea, not so tough, but most definitely more enjoyable and rewarding then any other job. :)

Alana - posted on 07/26/2010

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I agree with everyone, stay at home mums don't have it easy at all! My partner and I had this exact conversation recently. We have 2 boys Ryder is 2yrs and Oliver is 5months, My parnter rarely has both boys at once and if he does its only for an hr so i can duck up to the shop to grab a few things. Now with 2 boys he is more understanding but on the other hand he doesn't do much to help me out either. This is by far the hardest job I have had, don't get me wrong I love it and wouldn't change it for the world but it would be nice to have some understanding for the days I am tired and grumpy cuz I dont mean to be but I am just so exhausted. My partner often tells me to nap when the boys are napping but unfortunately they dont nap at the same time and if I did manage to get a nap during the day we would have no clean clothes, house would be a mess and dinner wouldn't get made!

Katie - posted on 07/26/2010

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I'm not a stay at home mom, my fiance is. I think in the early ages its fairly easy but once they start to walk/crawl it definitely gets tough. I would say between the ages of 4 months to 8 months are when its not too hard. I consider myself having two full time jobs. I get up at 4am to work 8 hours at a job that isn't all that hard but tiring and then I get home at 3pm to watch our 20 month old daughter until she goes to sleep at 8pm. I wish I was a full time stay at home mom but it just ended up that I worked instead. No matter what time I get home from work my daughter is usually awake...if she is napping then five minutes later she wakes up. I think she knows when I get home and her body just wakes up when I do. Yeah I get breaks at work (never long enough) but I almost have to say being a full time working mom and coming home to take care of my daughter is a little harder. If I had more than one and I stayed hom with the kids it would probably be a LOT harder though. I'm not trying to offend anyone its just my opinion. For the moms who have no break even when their hubby comes home I think thats pretty tough and I hope they help you out soon so you can get a break!!!

Sarah - posted on 07/26/2010

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i agree! i am currently a family daycare owner and in sept when my son is born i will be a sahm along with doing daycare! my husband says the same things! he doesn't get that i am working... i run a daycare i can't just sleep whenever i want to or leave! i have to get my daycare parents permission before taking them anywhere! i think being a sahm would be easier for the fact that i would be able to run errands when i want... but other than that its a hard job! when my husband is home he might let me take a quick nap while my daycare kid is here napping since i am pregnant and get tired much easier now! or he might let me on the comp for a lil bit while the daycare kid is napping! and since he sees me doing that while he is here he thinks i do it all the time... guess again! i only do it because i know if my daycare kid wakes up he will wake me up or he will get him up and do things with him! men don't understand how much effort it takes to raise a well behaved, well mannered, smart child! i don't think your husband's opinion will change unless he watches your child for a week or so all day everyday!

Christi - posted on 07/26/2010

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this is a constant fight between my husband and me. he does not understand what it is like to care for your child all day, and i also care for another child on week days. i appreciate everything he does for us, but he punches a time clock and when he gets home, he gets to kick back and expects to be catered to. not happening. i work just as hard if not harder than he does and when do i ever ask to kick back? does he ever make my dinner, clean my laundry, clean the house, pay the bills, take our son to doctors appointments, grocery shop, and care for another child on top of it all? nope, but he expects me to do it all and then take care of him when he gets home. go on strike, show your husband what all you really do and let him do it if he wants it done. it will open his eyes.

Maggie - posted on 07/26/2010

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Melissa, u must be having the hardest and most boring job of all, i stayed at home 4 about 11months and these time i was pregnant, doing the same thing made me bored and immdeiately afer having my baby girl i went back to work. I dare not wish to stay at home again and hope to having a vacation in a far place with my beautiful family when i get the hols. Thax

Maggie - posted on 07/26/2010

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Melissa, u really have the hardest and most boring job around. staying at home is not just the way to go, i stay at home for about 11 months and this time i was pregnant, it was boring 4 me, doing the same things, when i gave birth immdeiately after 4 months i went to look 4 job, which i got and i dare not wish to stay at home again. My hubbie wanted me to be a stay at home mum but i refused coz i wanted my own money and i also had a career which i was pursuing. Thaxs

Luwee - posted on 07/26/2010

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Indeed it is very hard...in your case as I see it, what makes it more harder is that you are not getting enough support.If I may ask, should you be given some support like having some "me" time at night or have some days off...like going to the parlor or do the things that you usually do before the baby came, will you be glad to be a stay at home? My husband and I do talk about it but luckily it doesn't go far beyond talk like having debates or argue over the matter. We talk on possibilities then weigh them together bit by bit. He never orders nor commands about it instead he asks about my concerns should I go full time as a housewife. At present, I work for our family business but most of the time I am with our son. I don't find it that hard because i can have time for myself and every time my husband comes home every 6 months, he lets me rest and he is the one who takes care of the baby during his entire vacation. The key really is to communicate. God bless!

Steph - posted on 07/25/2010

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I agree with you. A stay at home mum is a hard job. The hardest job ive ever had. It was fine when she was only a couple of months old but now that she is older shes become so demanding.
At least when most of our darling husbands finish work they get to leave their workplace and come and relax.
Our job is 24/7. We dont get breaks, we cant go to the toilet or have a shower in peace.
It is the hardest job but it is the most rewarding job too.

Dana - posted on 07/25/2010

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It's the hardest (and most rewarding) thing I've ever done! We all know, in the back of our minds, how lucky we are. Regardless, I feel like I could strangle my husband when he barrels through the house complaining that the trash needs to taken out or his t-shirts are wrinkled! It's a freaking t-shirt... If he'd let me put the dang thing in the dryer like any other normal person, it would get the wrinkles out! If I take a 20 minute break to go tanning or hit the grocery store for bread, he's stripped down to his boxers because our son spit up on his clothes and he couldn't find time to change them. The baby has a poopy diaper and he's ready to run out the door to the firehouse. With him being a firefighter, he's gone a LOT, so Max & I have a great time, just the two of us... and I tend to find that we manage to get more accomplished when he's gone! I sure wish I could get my nails done or go to the mall for an afternoon, but it's not worth the mess I'll have when I get home! Only us stay-at-home moms can keep it flowing like we do!! (:

Renee - posted on 07/25/2010

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I have been a stay home mom for just over 2 years with our 3 sons now 2, 4 and 7. I am also a student which adds a bit more to my point. It has been trying, some days impossible. My husband is also in the military but he is only gone off and on, but sometimes for weeks at a time. But when ever my husband complains about what I have or haven't done or how rough his day was I offer to trade him places just for a day. But I also tell him that what he will be doing is often a thankless job with little reward(except the kids of course) and no paycheck. I also tell him i'll go back to work but he gets to pay the daycare bill. So no you do not have the easiest job. I don't think that any job is as difficult or as trying being a full time, stay home parent. You can never leave your work at the door. good luck.

Jessica - posted on 07/25/2010

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It's super hard, there's lots to do. Moms never get a break, which I find the hardest. Sounds like he needs a weekend at home with the kids while you go on a mini vacation. Have fun!

Cyndi - posted on 07/25/2010

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I am a stay at home mom and have been for about 2 years... When people tell me I have it easy, I always tell them that being a stay at home mom is alot easier than having a normal job, but it is also WAY more stress than a normal job. Not to mention when you have a normal job you get to leave that job and go home, you don't get vacation days or sick days or holidays. Its 24/7.

Savannah - posted on 07/25/2010

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when he comes home, n he has nothing to do all day for however long he will be back, u take a week off, and have him stay home with the baby as long as u do during the day. c how he feels then....

Shalaina - posted on 07/25/2010

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Goodness no. You are not only doing one job, a stay at home parent does many jobs all together. Be a cook, security guard, play mate, cleaner, adviser, teacher, nurse, etc! Even if you get a so called 'break' while he is napping there is still so much to do around the house! PLUS it is NOT easy taking him out on my own. He is very heavy to lug around and that is not including his diaper bag, etc! It is a freaking workout each time! I think that most of the people who say it is easy have not done it full time themselves!

Tyneisha - posted on 07/24/2010

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Im a stay at home mom and it is not an easy job at all. We don't dictate our own schedule. We get up when our child gets up. We have to multitask. Play with our child, clean, cook and whatever errands all at the same time. We get no breaks. It's a 24 hr job even when the hubby gets home, we're still going.

Shannon - posted on 07/24/2010

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I am a single mom and due to an unforseen twist of fate I have been able to spend the last while home with my 2 yr old son. I lost my job and have been able to collect unemployment while looking for a new job. For me I basically am able to come and go as I please. I mean yes my son is on a schedule but we do a lot and see a lot. I love being able to spend this time home with him and I actually don't find it all that hard. The only reason that is though is because right now he is my only full time job...typically I have two full time jobs. Also, since I am a single mom it doesn't matter if toys aren't picked up every day or the house isn't perfect because my son and I are the only ones that see it. I wish I was in a position to be a traditional stay at home mom though because one thing is true no matter what....it is the most rewarding career a woman can ever have!!

Becca - posted on 07/23/2010

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I would say be a SAHM is the hardest job ever! My hubby would agree. I am exhausted at the end of the day, never feel like I get enough done, and you can NEVER take a day off. If you were to work outside of the home you can always call in sick. I know it is extremely hard to work and be mom, but being home ALL the time with your kid is hard too. There are times that you just want 5 minutes to take a shower or close your eyes, but can't. I have a friend who would love to stay home, and is having such a hard time working and being mom.

I know I am very lucky to be able to stay home, and wouldn't have it any other way. I love being full time mom, but I am also very blessed to have an amazing husband who is willing to help out.

Heather - posted on 07/23/2010

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Eat, sleep, and come and go when you please? Is your husband high? When you are a stay at home mom you eat while taking care of your kids, sleep (hopefully) a few broken hours a night, and come and go when your children please!! I am going back to work this week after four months, and I am not looking forward to it, but it will certainly be much easier. Luckily, my husband never dared to tell me outright I had it easy, but he totally changed his attitude after having the baby for an afternoon. (Only an afternoon lol.) As they get older/ you have more it becomes even harder, and there is no such thing as a break, a moment of quiet, lunchtime, or adult conversation!
I say if your husband thinks it is so easy do what so many mothers have done before - give him a list of what you would normally accomplish in a day, hand him the kids, and take off for a day. Tell him to finish the list if he can, have dinner ready for you when you come home,etc. All the things you do for him. When you get home, suggest that he do it again, for the rest of the month, every day, with no breaks or days off. Then see what he says.

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i agree with you my b/fs the same way he'll get home from work and say im soo tired and when i say that he laughs at me

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it is not easy at all. i am trying to get my boyfriend to understand this as well. he pretty much feels the same way as your husband about it and has gone the extreme of calling me lazy because I don't have a "full-time job". It's hard, stressful, and very demanding.

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It is NOT easy. I don't know about you, but I don't get weekends. I don't get to come home in the evening to sit down and relax. I'm constantly doing something...cleaning, spending time with my daughter, cooking, laundry. On the weekends my husband plays with our daughter a lot and I use that time to do things around the house that I can't do with her around. I love being able to stay at home with my daughter and plan to do it with all of our children, but it is far from easy.

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