Is it normal to still have the baby blues 3 months after your baby is born?

Brandee - posted on 01/11/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )




I have a hanesome son that was born on 10/04/11 and he is the second greatest thing I have ever done next to his sister. And I remembering have the baby blues with my daughter but it only lasted about a week after she was born. But with my son I cry all the time, there are times that I think that my kids would be better off with out me. My honey and I fight all the time cause he doesn't understand why I can not just get over it. He trys to understand but I usually kick him out cause he not helping. He tells me I need to go get help but I don't think that I am that bad. I don' t know what to do, HELP


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Macy - posted on 02/15/2014




my daughter just turned 3 months, and ive been feeling down for a long time after her birth. Any advice to help make myself feel better about myself?

Ashley - posted on 01/15/2012




i had the baby blues a little with my first child but with my second child (who i had a month ago)ive been having a hard time i feel like im not good enough for my kids ive been crying like crazy and loosing my temper and then that makes me feel even worse and makes me cry even more my husband doesn't understand either.

Shana - posted on 01/13/2012




You really should talk to your doctor about it, and if you feel stongly about this and the doctor says, "oh it will go away" I would say go to a different doctor, mine never just "went away" I had to go to therapy before I even started to feel better....

User - posted on 01/13/2012




my blues lasted for the first three months or so then returned when we had to unexpectedly stop breast feedeing (we had been doing amazing but my supply dried up within a week after one of her growth spurts). you justed asked for on her, why not somewhere else too. i constantly felt like my man was only making things worse, he didn't get it. but really dont get too mad at your husband its only because he has no idea what he's talking about ;)

Chrystal - posted on 01/11/2012




I've been there. With my second my baby blues didn't go away after a week or two they lasted. Are you having any of these symptoms?

Loss of appetite


Intense irritability and anger

Overwhelming fatigue

Loss of interest in sex

Lack of joy in life

Feelings of shame, guilt or inadequacy

Severe mood swing

Difficulty bonding with the baby

Withdrawal from family and friends

Thoughts of harming yourself or the baby

If you are having some of them you might have postpartum depression. It's treatable you can feel better talk to your doctor. They have medicine you can take if your breastfeeding. I had postpartum depression I took anti-depressants for 2 months and it got so much better. I didn't want to say I was having trouble it made feel like a failure but I did it so I could be a better mom and wife and I'm so happy I did. Please talk with your doctor.

Alicia - posted on 01/11/2012




I am a first time mom but i know with my daughter i had the blues for almost a year after having her. I told my doctor and she said it was normal and would go away. I use to go in my daughters room and just look at her and start balling. I know this is probably not helpful but it was my experience.

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