is it ok for my friend to be 21 and to be having a third child

Becca - posted on 12/02/2012 ( 45 moms have responded )

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is it OK to for my 1 month old to be rolling, i mean i get worried about her sometimes, and another is it Ok to be having a third child when ur just 21 because i haven't told my husband yet but im pregnant

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Jodi - posted on 12/07/2012

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WTF?



Ok, this might be rude, but maybe after this one, it might be a good idea to stop having babies and go back to school. Because seriously, nothing in the above OP said anything about it being your FRIEND's one month old, and you have everyone confused. You need to work on your English. Because you don't appear to have a good grasp of it right now. You will be doing all 3 of your children a favour if you work on your education a bit.

Sarah - posted on 12/03/2012

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Ok I am still confused, sorry. You are due Dec. 23 but your husband does not know you are pregnant yet?

Sarah - posted on 12/03/2012

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If your second is 1 month old how did you find out you were pregnant with your third?

Kit - posted on 12/02/2012

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Well, regardless of if it's "okay", you are pregnant. Are you okay with it? :) It isn't a bad thing for your one month old to be rolling, but wow - she's young!! How old is your oldest? I wish you the best announcing your pregnancy - babies are a special gift! Good luck!! Have you been to the doctor? If not, you should go soon since your baby is only 1 month old, your body hasn't quite had time to recover from just carrying and delivering. Congratulations!

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Jodi - posted on 12/17/2012

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@ Shauna, there are no moderators of this community commenting on this thread. But you are right, trolls should be totally shut down.

Jodi - posted on 12/11/2012

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Good God....drama queen much?



For anyone reading this who is not convinced this person is a troll, allow me to add that she is also a member of communities such as January 2008 Babies (when her oldest child is supposedly 2), Moms of Teenagers (when her oldest child is supposedly 2), Single Moms (why would she when she has a husband).



She listed herself as born in May 1992. This makes her 20. When I point that out to her, she changes her profile. As I already said, no-one stuffs up their own birth date unless they are lying about it.



She has listed her youngest child as 1 month old (as per her OP), but when questioned about being pregnant again, that story went out the window. But she still has her child listed as birthday being 2 November 2012. How she can be due again on 23 December 2012 is beyond me. Unless she is a rabbit.



Her second Child, David, is listed as 10 months old, born January 17 2012. Um, yeah. Do I need to comment on that? I think it is self explanatory. Maybe she is a rabbit after all.



And then we have People, her 3rd child, who is 15 years old (according to her profile). I am assuming a step-child. Or a fake child. Like the others.



And no, I am not American. But the OP is. It's right there in her profile that she is from Florida.



Cyber-bullying? If you could get your story straight, no-one would have started questioning you. Lying is a funny thing. Once you make up a lie, you have to keep lying to cover up your first lie, and then it just never gets better from there. You aren't very good at lying. So I suggest you stop doing it, because it is bound to get you in trouble at some point. At least this is only a forum of smart women who don't know who you are and caught you out. In real life, lies like that can have impact. People end up in jail, losing their kids, losing jobs. So don't do it.

Carrie - posted on 12/11/2012

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My question is do these questions get previewed before publishing them, I mean honestly...

Becca - posted on 12/11/2012

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do u know what this is called, FYI it's called cyber bullying, and maybe you haven't heard of it yet, but it exists OK so for ur information we all are average here and maybe some are more intelligent than others but, P.S. im not talking about me. OK i should've known americans were like this, thx a lot now u just influenced me to possibly hang my self or worse GOODBYE FOREVER< THIS WILL BE THE LAST COMMENT FROM BECCA!!!



BYE!!!!!! but maybe u won't believe me, so who cares!!! BYE, ME (the troll) is leaving!!! and maybe even leaving life it's self. bye



I HOPE UR HAPPY

Joni - posted on 12/11/2012

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My 3rd son at 1 week old was rolling over. As long as they are doing it on their own its ok. Let that baby roll if she wasn't strong enough to handled it she couldn't do it just make she she is on the floor when rolling and you have sufficant padding under her. As far as having 3 kids when you are 21 that's your choice as long as you are able to take care of them. I'm 28 with 3 kids my oldest is 5,middle is almost 3 and my youngest is 1. I'm a stay at home mom and my husband works 3rds so its all pretty much on me with taking care of the kids,housework,and juggling the bills. I will tell its a lot of hard work you have to learn to juggle quaility time with all your children and housework. What I have found the easiest way is to do a couple loads of laundry a during the day and sweeping during the day. Everything else after I put the kids to bed at night. I spend all of my other time with my children and cooking breakfast,lunch and dinner.

With 3 you will not have no time to yourself unless you neglect your children.

Its well worth losing time time to yourself after all they are only little for awhile then its off to school. Poor little things!! Enjoy being a mom its the best gift in the world even if at times it feels diffrant!!

Jodi - posted on 12/11/2012

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Ah, I see you've now changed your profile so that no-one can see that you had your birth date as 2 May 1992, which would make you 20. Sorry, not buying it. No-one fucks up their own birth date. Only a person who was making up their profile would make that mistake.

Becca - posted on 12/11/2012

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you know what jodi, i don't need ur permission to know that im spanish so have a good day. and by the way i am 21

Jodi - posted on 12/10/2012

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And just for the record, your profile also says you are actually only 20. Pretty sure that's not an English language thing, but it is also just another inconsistency showing why people are questioning your validity.

Jodi - posted on 12/10/2012

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You live in Florida. You have children named Michelle and David. Your name is Becca. You don't sound terribly Venezuelan to me.



However, regardless, if you write a post saying "my 1 month old" and then later say "oops, I meant my FRIEND'S 1 month old", that isn't about your English, sweetheart.



When you write a post saying you are 40 weeks pregnant, and then when others call you out on it because in another post you claim to be due on December 23 (which would have, at the time, made you 37 weeks, which is different), then you go and CHANGE YOUR POST.



Seriously, if you can't see why people are questioning that you are even a real person and not someone on here trolling for kicks, then you need to go and have another REALLY good look at your posts. They are FULL of inconsistencies. And it isn't your grasp of the English language. It is about you changing your story every time someone points out where they have an issue with it.



And just in response to your comment "maybe i have a better education then u all", honey, you are 21. You've spent the last 3 years popping out babies. (and not to mention your use of *u* for *you*). It is entirely impossible that you have a better education than me. I can't speak for the others.

Becca - posted on 12/10/2012

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i guess the only one who actually helped me out was Laurie, THX LAURIE!! :). maybe she is the only one who understands

Becca - posted on 12/10/2012

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WTF u guys might be a little rude with ur comments alright, gosh OK maybe I do have a friend, and maybe i have a better education then u all, but u don't have to be all judgmental. Gosh, has anybody taught u how to be prudent, Like gosh OMG, i thought, i had a lot of help on my hands but it turns out i was wrong. OMG :( :( OMG. OK, because see, im from venezuela, and maybe just maybe i don't know how to express my feelings in english!!! :(

Laurie - posted on 12/08/2012

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It doesnt matter if its okay to anyone else. What matters, is if its okay with you two. If you are both okay with it, then be happy!!! If anyone has a problem with it, that is there problem. I am 26 and have 9year old twins, a 7 year old boy, a one year old daughter, and I am pregnant with possibly twins again. Yeah people ask me wth Im doing but I dont care. Its MY life! MY children. Hunni you are 21. You are an adult. You already have two kids so you are obviously knowledgeable on parenthood. You should be asking you and your husband if its okay. Not others :)

As for the first question: My daughter was lifting her head up when she was born. Rolling at about 6weeks(starting to) .... Its okay. :) If its a concern just ask the doctor. :)

Valerie - posted on 12/08/2012

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Laura, I think you are correct. In hindsight, it HAS to be. Someone had a little too much time on his or her hands. What a shame :(

Valerie - posted on 12/08/2012

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I don't know how I got into this group, because I'm not a young mom (although I had my first at 17). I am removing myself from this group but I would like to share some information I collected while working on some research. While obtaining my degree in Psychology, I did a paper on the effects of close birthing and autism. My research concluded that women who did NOT wait more than a year after delivering a child to get pregnant with the subsequent child were more likely (about 93% more likely) to birth the subsequent child with Autism. This is my own personal research, but it is important to know. Being that the author of this post is only 21 and on her third child, I thought it might be possible (and, let's face it, probably true since she indicated that she has a one month old child and is pregnant again) for her to fall into this category. If I am mistaken, then please take this information and pass it along. I am only here to educate the uneducated. :)

Becca - posted on 12/07/2012

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well see i didn't exactly say i was gonna have a baby until like i started vomiting and stuff

Jamantha - posted on 12/06/2012

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It is fine to be 21 on your third. Its really all in a matter of where you and your hubby stand on having more children. I am 21 and on my second child and my husband and i couldnt be more happy i have friends who are on their third and fourth child and i feel like im kind of behind and the baby train because i know we want a big family really thinking about a big family. You just have to talk it out with your husband and see how you guys feel about it.

Becca - posted on 12/04/2012

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well he knows but i actually really told him, like he sorda fou d out on his own

Heather - posted on 12/04/2012

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yes it is ok there no correct age to be having kids and yes she sounds fine to me i am full time foster career and one thing i have learnt with all the different kids is each kid devlopes in there time in there on way the guide lines state that she should not be doing that but they are just guide lines thats all they are some kids are quicker at some things but relaxes she well no doubt tell you when she is ready to do some thing and not the other way round

Whitney - posted on 12/04/2012

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They say if your child develops fast, they are moving out of the way for the next one. My daughter rolled on her side since she was born. I am only now pregnant with my second and she's 2 1/2. Her father does have twins that are less than a year younger than her though.

Becca - posted on 12/03/2012

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i have one one year old one two year old and. im pregnant AND IM DUE december 23!!!!!



:)

Becca - posted on 12/03/2012

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no im talking about a while ago my one month old was one when i found out i got pregnant. im just asking fro my friend about having a one month old rolling

Liz - posted on 12/03/2012

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I was 21 when I had my third. None of mine were as close as your second and third will be, but there's nothing wrong with being young with lots of kids :) I suggest if you don't have one already that you get yourself and your children into a routine. It makes things a lot smoother. There isn't a HUGE difference between having 2 and having 3, as long as you have some organization. Good luck!

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