is it too soon?

Randi - posted on 05/25/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )




I just had a son in july he will be about 16 months to the day older to the new one i will be having in november yet i still cant help but to think that i am doing something wrong am i?


Lena - posted on 05/26/2009




Congrats with the new baby. I think it is totally your decision. I have friends that are 16 months apart and they as siblings get along great. I think that if you have them too far apart they don't really become as close. Just make sure your oldest still has mommy time when both of you are around so that he knows that you still love him and that he is always involved. Good Luck with everything :)

Liz - posted on 05/26/2009




My nephews are only 12 1/2 months apart and I know some other siblings who are only 11 months apart. It will probably be difficult, but then again maybe not, with everything still being fresh in your mind from your first. I think you will do just fine and I hope everything works out for you and your son!

Katie - posted on 05/26/2009




My children are 14 months apart.My son was born 11-9-2007 and my daughter 1-20-2009.I thought I was crazy for having them so close but now I love it.I personally think it is easier with the 2 than when I just had one.Don't get me wrong there are stressful moments like when they both want to eat and both are crying at the same time.However, I wouldn't trade anything in the world for having them so close.Congrats and good luck!

Jessica - posted on 05/26/2009




well honey you can't change that now baby is already on it's way. I'm sure things will be fine, your son might enjoy coming home to a baby brother or sister. You shouldn't feel bad as you are doing everything you can do for him right now. he is still young he wont remember he has spent 4 months without you and by time baby comes I'm sure you would have made that time up to him. Try not to worry it wont do any good it cant change anything that has already happend. Be positive and aim towards a brighter future.

All the best.

Amie - posted on 05/25/2009




Aw that's so sad. I won't lie it will be hard and there will be an adjustment period. There generally is anyway with kids and a new baby. I just went through it 2 months ago with our newborn. Oddly enough our toddler (22 months at the time) handled it better than our older two did (4 & 8). While they all love having baby around now they didn't like that she needed my attention so much and that I was always tired.
Just make sure to let him know how much you love him, set time aside for just you and him and also let him help with the new baby. Our toddler loves helping with diaper changing, getting clothes picked out, etc. Our older kids do more hands on stuff like sit and hold her but then they can do this, our toddler I don't quite trust to hold her alone.
Congrats on baby and I hope all goes well!


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Randi - posted on 05/26/2009




unfortunatly i was on birth control and still got pregnant and i am very much against myself having abortions to me there is only one higher up that has control of life

Jackie - posted on 05/26/2009




then i think absolutely, not to judge but i would have not got pregnant again, until my first son was back in my care

Randi - posted on 05/25/2009




well i guess its not really the fact that they are so close but the fact that something happened to my son and he was taken from me i am working to get him back now but i feel as though i am cheating my son because i have missed 4 months of his life and as he is coming back the new baby is coming as well thats more my worry

Penny - posted on 05/25/2009




It is your decision on how close to have your children. So no one can really tell you that your doing something wrong. The doctors say you should let your body heal for at least a year or so before getting pregnant again but that is up to you.

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