Is It Weird? husbands cousin and hanging out.

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So my ex and I are separated and are getting a divorce. Both our families know this. My own family is basically doing the great big happy dance, they never liked him.

Anyways. My question is to do with his cousin. The cousin lives in England, where he was born and grew up. I think he has met the people here once or twice. The family here is rather complicated and difficult.

He and I (as well as his Mum and brother) have been talking of facebook for a few years now, and he seems to be a nice guy.

He is moving to Brisbane soon to live. When he visits Sydney (where I live) he has asked me to show him around. He would also like to meet my kids, who are his second cousins.

Is this weird? He doesn't talk to anyone else in the family on facebook or anything, just some letters when he was younger, and a few visits a long time ago. So would it be weird? Would you do it??

Also, my ex and I can get along if we must, for the kids, but if the family were to have a function the cousin would expect me to be there (for moral support) and that might be too much for us, as his family don't really like me.

What would you do?

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Carrie - posted on 02/10/2013

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Ah ok ^^ then yeah, no problems imo. Doesn't seem weird. People meet other people through pretty random ways all the time, so it's not weird even if he is connected through ex husbands family. Try not to worry about that type of stuff when it comes to just hanging out. It's when it gets more serious than that that it tends to be weird (like relationships etc).

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i'm pretty sure it's just hanging out, nothing more as ever come up. plus he earns a lot more money then i do, and will be in sydney mostly for work and site seeing on the weekends, so i assume he will be staying in his own accommodation. besides we have no space for him, and he knows that.

Carrie - posted on 02/10/2013

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^^ if that's all it is then I wouldn't worry too much. Just make sure he understands where you're coming from on it so that he's less likely to put you in situations that wouldn't do anyone any good.

Michelle - posted on 02/10/2013

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He could be just making sure he has some free accommodation when he's down here.

Carrie - posted on 02/10/2013

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If it's just hanging out it's not weird, just awkward with his family due to your situation of getting divorced. If it's further than that then it honestly depends on perception.. My mom had a similar situaiton, only without the cousin part.

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