Is it weird to take someone you don't know too well on a two week vacation to visit your family

Angeline - posted on 08/25/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I fully support the father of my daughter and financed a trip for him and her to greece to visit his family and go to a wedding there. The trip is for 2 weeks and I could not go I have things here I need to take care of. I purchased the plane tickets for the two of them and found out only 2 days before and it kind of slipped out that he is taking a man he met at the gym that he spends maybe an hour or two at when he is there. He has never mentioned this person to me ever before now and this man doesn't speak the language there and the family does not know any english. This was suppose to be a family thing when I arranged it and this man is not a long time close friend or know anybody there or even really know my husband that well at least I don't think so. Can anyone tell me if this sounds a bit strange to you or is it just me. I can't imagine if it was me who met a woman in a gym or anywhere and spoke an hour or so when I was at a gym or anywhere that it would be that close of a friendship to let them invite themselves on a family visit to greece with my 9 year old daughter and stay in my families house and she can't communicate with anyone but me. This trip was suppose to be about my daughter and her dad visiting his mom, dad, sister, brother, cousins, and all his family. I just don't understand it and they arranged he got a seat on the same flight. He says the guy is a chiropractor or something like that it has me wondering is this guy massaging his back? Could he be gay and I don't know it or I am I reading too much into it? How you develope a comfortness to do that or is somthing going on? Would you be ok with it? And he is over there spending my money.

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Firebird - posted on 08/28/2012

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Ok so you are with your child's father, ok, that just makes this even more strange. So you boyfriend took someone he supposedly doesn't know very well n a trip to Greece. You were absolutely right to transfer some of that money to a separate account, your boyfriends friend doesn't need to be spending it. I wouldn't read too much into this as far as sexuality goes, it's most likely that this guy just wanted an opportunity to travel the world for cheap.

Angeline - posted on 08/27/2012

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I have been with the father of my daughter for 15 years. I am still with him we are just not married and that has always been my choice because I just have too much I could lose in a marriage but this could also be the way he wants it too and I would never call him on it, I just do not want the marriage it is not in my best interest to marry anyone but I do love him. I paid for the trip and gave him money to spend over there for him and my daughter but am afraid and don't like it that this man went and my money may be financing the trip for him too. I don't know this man and should not be paying for him. I gave a huge spending allowance but expected they would not spend it all and what was not used would be mine after the trip. I got the feeling they were going to blow through all my money and there would not be anything left and transfered near half the money for the trip out of an account I use when I want him to have access to money. I feel a bit guilty for doing that but if this is more than just a friendship than I am glad I did it or if my money was going to finance the man even if it is just a friendship that is not right and was never my intention he really was not suppose to be going at all. Being gay never even occured to me till now but I just think it is really weird. I have sales people that talk to me all the time in the disney store because I am there every other day and they mention their planned trips to disney world but I would never say hey can I come too that is just weird, I do not know them well enough to invite myself on their family trip but if I did I think I would feel out of place unless I knew this person more but I don't so how could he know this man more than I know the woman in the disney store and their be enough comfort between them to take this trip together I could not do it with the women I know and meet when I am shopping. So gay popped into my head. What is it does this guy just really want to see greece or is he after my man? I am not jealous of a friendship but find this friendship strange but would be very upset to find I am being used for money and he is gay and I never knew it. I have alot of money and did not have it when I met him the money came 4 years after and I have been supporting us since but before that we split things. I would never fully support a man and let him leech off me but we were already together and I thought it was ok but now question his motives for us being together is it love or money you know just too good to leave or stays for love but if gay then I say money but how could i ever find out. I don't have any reason to suspect he is cheating with a woman but could be cheating with a man. could I be completly insane and over reacting here or could there really be some truth in this feeling I am having?

Firebird - posted on 08/25/2012

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So let me get this straight... this guy that you've never met will be in Greece spending *your* money? How does that work? If the dude's a chiropractor, he can afford to bring his own spending money. As for how well your ex knows this guy... I'm thinking they know each other a little better than your ex is letting on.lol The whole thing does seem strange to me.



If you don't want this stranger spending your cash, you might want to rethink giving all the spending money to your kid's dad.

A - posted on 08/25/2012

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I take it you are not with the father of your daughter. When I first read this- I got gay but I could be wrong so don't take my word as fact. It just seems off.

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