is it wise

Tegan - posted on 07/13/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )




is it even wise to have another child when our son is one and we are living with my husbands parents,,,,, its making me stressed but i want to be a devoted wife and my husband has a plan but i don't know if i can deal with it for much longer... is it just me? i have tried talking to him bout it but he just says do you trust me ....... and i do but im going crazy...


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Lyndsay - posted on 07/13/2009




I really don't think so, no. I think that the two of you should try to get on your feet before you have any more children. You can't live in his parents house forever -- if you keep expanding your family you're going to be crammed in. I agree with what others have said, that you need to have space for your family to be your family, without the opinions and intrusions of others.

Ena - posted on 07/13/2009




NOOOOO, trust your own instincts! its already stresssful enough not having privacy or your own house (I LOVE my parents in law, but its still different being on your own), rather than being pregnant with a baby already and not having your own space. I think your instincts r right that u should wait till you do. I would go crazy too! I like my privacy and if you are pregnant and spewing and need to jump out of your bed naked spewing along the way, then u should b able to do it!

Brandi - posted on 07/13/2009




How would your in-laws feel if you decided to add another addition while living under their roof? I think it would be wise to wait until you are on your own.

KIM - posted on 07/13/2009




Personally, I wouldn't have another baby while living with my in-laws!'s just too much stress trying to be a wife and a good mom...while trying to gain the approval of your husbands parents!!! I can't have someone constantly looking over my shoulder....If your husband has a plan...just wait it out and be patient...good things come to those who wait!!!

Kyla - posted on 07/13/2009




First, do you know that your husband loves you? If you do, I think the best thing is to follow your husband-trust him. Tell him your worries, but try to let go & not worry about it even if he doesn't listen to you. You can only do what you can do. Take it one day at a time...
btw, It's not just you! I have felt that way many times. And when I pushed for my own way, most times it did not work out for the best!

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I had lived with my Sister during my 3rd pregnancy (had lost 2 children to stillbirths prior) and we lived with her after my daughter was born. It was a lot of tension for my boyfriend. I love my Sister, and I loved my Man, but it wasn't working with us all there. I was shortly back to work, she has 2 children, and She and Him never got along.

We moved out 6 months later to save what stability I had in me being a new Mom, a devoted working Mother, a good Sister, and a resonable Girlfriend.

We rented 1/2 a house for a little over a year, and then when I was pregnant we started looking for a home. Renting, paying off debt, and buying a home was hard on 1 income-mine, but it paid off because now We have a place that all ours. Its in my name, not ours, for my own reasons, but it's almost 2 years later and I feel like it was best decision in my life.

I still have a wonderful relationship with my Sister, and we moved out on good terms. I have 2 beautiful girls, a house, and a good job.

Destiny - posted on 07/13/2009




I havent had to live thru your experince. But one of my bestfriends has.... She and her husband were married for 5 years I think almost 6 and they have 2 kids, Their whole marriage they lived with his parents. They are no longer together and She says that one of the biggest reason's was because they lived with his parents. They were constantly there, with the opinions and not giving them their own space as a family. I personally dont think that living with in laws for a long period of time is a good idea but your situation might be different. do you all get along? Do they give you some space?

Devon - posted on 07/13/2009




if i were you i would wait a little bit to have another baby. until you and your husband can find a permanant place to live together and get more money i would wait.i can understand how it must be driving you crazy but trust your husband he is just trying to do what is right. good luck and hang in there:)

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